Parents: Teen Daughter Hawa Gabbidon Murdered After Abortion Fight With Boyfriend

**Whisper** · July 17th, 2012, 02:46 PM

CHARLOTTE, NC (WBTV) -
The parents of a murdered teen, found in a local park, say they know why she was killed.

Hawa Gabbidon's parents say she was murdered after she and her boyfriend got into a fight about having an abortion. Gabbidon was almost two months pregnant.
According to Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police, 17-year-old Hawa Gabbidon's body was found Tuesday morning when a group of men used a wooded path to cut through neighborhoods in the Nevin Community. It happened around 12:30 a.m.

She was found about 50 yards off the roadway. Gabbidon was a CMS student who attended an alternative academy. One of her last known addresses was a center in Charlotte for at-risk females.

Officers responded to Thereasea Clark Elder Park and roped off a portion of Rockwell Church Road near Sugar Creek Road in north Charlotte

"I don't know what's going on. Nobody is telling us anything," said her mother, Monneh Gar.

On Thursday, Deputy Police Chief Kerr Putney said his officers are working around the clock to solve the case, but is asking for the public's help.

"We're going to need your help on this one. we're going to need some tips. we're going need a break to bring this case to conclusion ," Putney said.

Hawa's father, Isaac Parchue says just thinking of how it all happened, makes him physically ill.

"She had a boyfriend and she and the boyfriend were arguing about having an abortion," he said.

He says he doesn't know who her boyfriend is, but is begging police to find out, and fast.

"We are pleading to the community for the community to help us as a family to bring Hawa's killer to justice," he said.
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http://www.wbtv.com/story/19014776/murdered

**LoKi4778** · July 17th, 2012, 03:12 PM

I'm sorry, but 17 and dad doesn't know who her boyfriend is, but he knows they were having a fight about her having an abortion? That just smacks of shitty parenting. I'm sorry she's dead and I'm sorry that they're sad about it, but a little more involvement in her life might have kept it from happening... unless the parents know more than they're letting on...

**CbabyRKO** · July 17th, 2012, 03:22 PM

One would think that a parent would know the name of the person who knocked up their kid. I dont wanna talk shit about the parents given their daughter obvs had behavioral issues seeing as she was at an alternative school but wake the fuck up and DEMAND to know at least that little tidbit of info. Poor girl dead before she even got a chance to live.

**spifftastic** · July 17th, 2012, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by LoKi4778

I'm sorry, but 17 and dad doesn't know who her boyfriend is, but he knows they were having a fight about her having an abortion? That just smacks of shitty parenting. I'm sorry she's dead and I'm sorry that they're sad about it, but a little more involvement in her life might have kept it from happening... unless the parents know more than they're letting on...

I can't really blame the parents for that necessarily. When I was a teenager, I hid every aspect of my life and my parents only knew when I even had a boyfriend through phone records. My mother tried her very hardest to be involved in my life (TOO much, so I made sure the opposite happened), but by age 16 there was no way I was going to have any of that. If she attempted to control my life after a while I'd just leave for days at a time. I often agree with those sentiments but not usually with the 16+ crowd. This girl was in a behavioral school so at least they were trying to help her out.

**LoKi4778** · July 17th, 2012, 04:24 PM

I understand that she didn't seem to live at home with her parents, but there should have been somebody interested in finding out who the boyfriend is. I mean, if she was living at an alternative school, who was in charge of making sure that she didn't get pregnant, or knowing with whom she was consorting. It was a school for at-risk females... shouldn't somebody have been making sure she wasn't "at-risk" while she was there?

**malq** · July 17th, 2012, 04:28 PM

Parent fail is the root of all kid malfunctions.

it's not a cake walk being a good parent, but Jesus H. Christ, this is rudimentary.

**penelopejo** · July 17th, 2012, 04:41 PM

Originally Posted by LoKi4778

I'm sorry, but 17 and dad doesn't know who her boyfriend is, but he knows they were having a fight about her having an abortion? That just smacks of shitty parenting. I'm sorry she's dead and I'm sorry that they're sad about it, but a little more involvement in her life might have kept it from happening... unless the parents know more than they're letting on...

My dad didn't even know I was dating. My mom knew. She knew his name. She knew his mom's name. She knew his phone number. She knew his mom's phone number.

My dad just tuned us out and really expected my mom to handle it. At least, I thought he did. When hubby and I got into a big argument (when we were bf/gf), he was like, "You're dating someone?" I was flabbergasted and speechless. I didn't know how to respond and I looked at my mom and she was looking at my dad as if to say, "You asshole. I can't believe you didn't listen to me all those times I told you about him." It was like a Mexican standoff, but with frowny faces instead of guns.

Granted, I was the sports playing daughter who he didn't expect to be interested in boys because I really, really liked playing sports (I ran cross country and played softball). Obviously, when he realized I was dating someone he became involved.

**MommysLosingIt** · July 17th, 2012, 04:51 PM

This is pretty shocking to me. I don't see how parents can't demand that kind of basic information, and how kids just refuse to comply. Maybe I'm different (I'm scared of my parents to this day, lol), but when my parents wanted to know something, I told them. I don't know whether it was out of respect, fear, or both, but I can't imagine the lines of communication being so closed between parent and child. It's like strangers cohabitating. Bizarre.

**LoKi4778** · July 17th, 2012, 05:04 PM

Originally Posted by penelopejo

My dad didn't even know I was dating. My mom knew. She knew his name. She knew his mom's name. She knew his phone number. She knew his mom's phone number.

My dad just tuned us out and really expected my mom to handle it. At least, I thought he did. When hubby and I got into a big argument (when we were bf/gf), he was like, "You're dating someone?" I was flabbergasted and speechless. I didn't know how to respond and I looked at my mom and she was looking at my dad as if to say, "You asshole. I can't believe you didn't listen to me all those times I told you about him." It was like a Mexican standoff, but with frowny faces instead of guns.

Granted, I was the sports playing daughter who he didn't expect to be interested in boys because I really, really liked playing sports (I ran cross country and played softball). Obviously, when he realized I was dating someone he became involved.

I don't expect the parents to know everything, but really. I hida lot from my parents, but I also told my parents things when they asked. They did their best to avoid being intrusive, but if I knocked up a girl or my sister came home pregnant, you'd better believe that my parents would know EXACTLY WTF was going down and with whom.