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    Child Abuse Awareness Month APR2012


    In light of April being child abuse awareness/prevention month I thought it would be good time to share just about anything pertaining to the subject.
    Please, post, photo's/video, articles, news, quotes, a personal account (if you feel comfortable doing so), advice, tips, resources, etc. Anything that helps bring awareness and/or prevention to a subject that often gets the most attention only as it happens.


    Child Abuse in America
    Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Over 3 million reports of child abuse are made every year in the United States; however, those reports can include multiple children. In 2009, approximately 3.3 million child abuse reports and allegations were made involving an estimated 6 million children.


    Steadily climbing.
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    http://www.erinmerryn.net/erins-law.html
    I've posted on here before about Erin's law . I think it would be great if this law was passed everywhere. I graduated high school in '91 . I don't recall hearing anything about sexual abuse ( or any child abuse ) until I was a junior in high school taking a psychology class. I might have had a small amount of " stranger danger " education in elementary school , but I don't recall . I think if we get the information about how to report abuse to the victims it can make a big difference in the amount of time they are abused . I wish if teachers suspected they could just ask the child . I think the child would feel more comfortable talking to a teacher they know than a strange social worker or policeman . But I've been told in my area anyway that teachers are not allowed to ask the kids they can only report suspicions .

    What would Erin's Law do?

    1. The purpose of this law is to inform and protect students from sexual abuse. To mandate school districts implement and educate students on sexual abuse. School boards will adopt age appropriate curriculum on sexual abuse education to students grades pre-k through 5th grade. Education in schools is an effective method for preventing children from falling prey to sexual abuse or stay silent if it does occur.
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    Exclamation Starved to death

    Boy 11, starved to death by his own "parents" after locked away in his own room----ate his own feces in attempt to survive.

    Johnathan Ramsey

    read featured story. . . HERE> http://www.dreamindemon.com/forums/s...hnathan+Ramsey

    DID YOU KNOW?
    By the time you finish reading this article, 15-20 children will have been abused, beaten or molested. In the next five minutes, 30 more. Within the next hour, 360 more. And by tonight, close to 8,000+ children will have suffered from abuse, 5 of which will die. Child abuse has increased 134% since 1980 and is now considered a worldwide epidemic. The high jump in child abuse deaths and the shocking increase in statistics highlights the frightening lack of public knowledge.
    See something?--Say something!! If you suspect child abuse, report it.
    Protect our children. It's our moral duty.
    Educate Yourself--Learn the Facts--It may Just Save a Child's Life!


    Physical Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Unexplained burns, cuts, bruises, or welts in the shape of an object
    2. Bite marks
    3. Anti-social behavior
    4. Problems in school
    5. Fear of adults

    Emotional Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Apathy
    2. Depression
    3. Hostility or stress
    4. Lack of concentration
    5. Eating disorders

    Sexual Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Inappropriate interest or knowledge of sexual acts
    2. Nightmares and bed wetting
    3. Drastic changes in appetite
    4. Overcompliance or excessive aggression
    5. Fear of a particular person or family member

    Signs of Neglect
    1. Unsuitable clothing for weather
    2. Dirty or unbathed
    3. Extreme hunger
    4. Apparent lack of supervision

    For a more extensive list of the signs of child abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline,
    1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).
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    Lightbulb National Child Help Day of Hope-APRIL 4th

    One of my favorite sites on child abuse resources and action.
    If you feel the need and want to do more than just read on child abuse awareness/prevention, this is one way.
    Purchasing a gift through childhelp.org an easy way to have proceeds go back to Childhelp's life-saving programs that help abused, neglected and at-risk children.

    Click the link and give hope to a child of abuse.
    National Day of Hope childhelp.org--->
    http://www.childhelp.org/page/-/land...ope/index.html
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    These sites might contain emotionally disturbing content , but child abuse should disturb you .

    http://www.protect.org/

    The author Andrew Vachss talking about protect.org


    http://absolutezerounited.blogspot.com/
    A community of individuals pledged to fight paedophiles on the web. We are committed to the safety and emotional well-being of all children. This site will serve as a resource for those committed to our fight wherever you may be in the world.
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    Alicia Kozakiewicz Testimony on Sex Predators online
    http://vimeo.com/31828442

    http://old.post-gazette.com/regionst...5missingp1.asp
    For three days, authorities suspected that the mysterious disappearance of a 13-year-old Crafton Heights girl on New Year's Day was linked to her Internet use -- that she possibly met someone in cyberspace who lured her away from home and safety.

    Yesterday, the same technology that had endangered Alicia Kozakiewicz allowed authorities to track her to a townhouse in suburban Washington, D.C., where they found her tied up in a bedroom but not seriously hurt.
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    Report probes child fatalities
    BATESVILLE — Twenty-five Hoosier children died from abuse or neglect from July 1, 2009-June 30, 2010, according to a report released a month ago that was prepared for the Indiana Department of Child Services by the National MCH Center for Child Death Review Database Office of Data Management, Reports and Analysis, Okemos, Mich.

    How did kids living in southeast Indiana fare? No fatalities were reported in Franklin or Ripley counties, but one abuse case occurred in Shelby County and one neglect case in Decatur County, the report stated.

    Just four of the affected families had prior contact with IDCS, though in two cases, the contact was with siblings of the children who died.

    IDCS director James Payne noted during a Feb. 28 news conference about the findings, “Any child death is devastating and the agency continues to review these tragic fatalities to develop programs that educate communities about the danger to our most vulnerable children – those 2 years old and younger.”

    The report’s narratives of how kids died are horrific.

    Two cases of deaths from abuse:

    “Five- and 8-year-old siblings were found in the remains of their house after a fire. Mother’s live-in boyfriend eventually admitted to setting the fire. One child was restrained while the other child was unable to escape. Both children died of soot inhalation.”

    “A 5-year-old child was tied up and beaten by father and father’s girlfriend. The child was found to have ligature marks to the neck, wrists and ankle, as well as bruises, burns and abrasions over the entire body. The child ultimately died as a result of a fracture of the cervical spine due to strangulation. The girlfriend’s children reported seeing the child beaten and begging for help, but they indicated they were afraid to intervene.”

    This was one of six neglect cases detailed: “A 4-year-old child was at an apartment complex pool with mother. Mother was present at poolside, but was not providing adequate supervision. Security video shows the child struggled in the water for approximately five minutes, and then floated unresponsive for five minutes before a bystander pulled the child from the pool ... the cause of death was drowning.”

    Of the 19 abuse deaths, 84 percent were ruled homicides. The other categories: accidents, 8 percent; undetermined and unknown, 4 percent each.

    Seventy-two percent of the time, a weapon, including a body part, was declared the primary cause of death.

    Eighty-two percent of abuse perpetrators were male that year. These were the relationships to the victims: mother's partner, 50 percent; biological parent, 36 percent; father's partner, 9 percent; stepparent, 5 percent.

    Stress factors in abuse cases were listed: insufficient income (seven cases), caregiver has history of intimate partner violence (four), caregiver has history of substance abuse (three), caregiver has history of child maltreatment (two) and caregiver has disability or chronic illness, or new residence in past 30 days (one each).

    In neglect cases, the relationships of perpetrators to victims also were categorized: biological parent, 63 percent; stepparent, 25 percent; father's partner, 13 percent.

    The type of neglect also was explored (a victim may have had more than one). From most to least common: failure to protect from hazards; failure to seek/follow treatment; failure to provide necessities, including food and water; caregiver impaired and child unrestrained in a vehicle; lack of supervision around water; mother did not take child for medical care after birth; no medical care.

    After 54 Indiana youth died from abuse and neglect in fiscal year 2005, state leaders became critical of IDCS and changes were made. Since then, the number of deaths has declined.

    According to a news release, the agency “continues to incorporate evidence-based practices to produce better outcomes for children. Adding more than 800 caseworkers, for example, reduced individual caseloads dramatically. The result is much more caseworker interaction with families and children in crisis. In addition to other services provided in the home, monthly visits to children by caseworkers have increased from only 23 percent in 2007 to nearly 96 percent percent in 2011.”

    Payne noted, “This improvement is significant in light of the fact the Indiana Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline assigned for review 94,526 reports last year, more than double the 46,655 reports in 2004.”

    He pointed out, “Indiana ranks second in the nation in permanency for its children. This is a testament to not only our family case managers, but also our partners in the local counties, including family court judges, guardians-ad-litem/ CASAs and community-based partners who work with our children.”

    Last year, IDCS completed a record 1,787 adoptions, 71 percent more than in 2004.

    “Relatives have played a vital role in helping DCS achieve stability for children when safety requires children to be removed from home. Over the last five years, the number of children placed temporarily with relatives has increased 160 percent,” the release said.

    The report observed, “The role of mandatory reporters is vital to protecting children from abuse and neglect. Certain professionals, such as doctors, teachers and counselors, have a legal obligation to report any suspected child abuse or neglect. Indiana law, however, mandates anyone who believes a child may be the victim of abuse and/or neglect must make a report to the Indiana Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline
    [...]
    “Family, friends and neighbors often share suspicions and ongoing concerns after the child fatality has occurred. Pro-active, timely and consistent reporting of these concerns to the hotline will promote child safety interests within Indiana communities. DCS recognizes the value of community involvement and urges the public to partner with the agency to protect all Hoosier children.”
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    Local Family's Experience Raises Awareness About Child Abuse
    CLEAR LAKE,IA-Today five kids will be die because of child abuse.
    That's according to statistics from the National Children's Alliance.

    To help prevent this type of crime from happening, a local family is using child abuse awareness month to share their story.

    The Maulsby’s know first hand how child abuse can affect a child.
    Their son Quentin was allegedly abused.
    When he was just five months old, his parents say their daycare provider abused him.

    [...]

    Grant Maulsby says, “You know, you don't expect someone that is taking care of your child to do that. What a 5 month old does to get beat, is beyond me."

    The Maulsby's were living in Florida when they got a call from their daycare provider telling them their son Quentin was sick.

    Christina Maulsby says, "And so I went and picked him up and noticed that he had a large bruise on his head and a few other things and he was definitely not himself."

    Quentin was taken to the emergency room where doctors found more bruises and brain bleeds.
    He was airlifted to a children’s hospital, where he spent eight days fighting to recover.

    The Maulsby's later discovered, it was the daycare provider who had been abusing Quentin.

    Christina says, "I don’t think people realize how in a split instant of anger how you can effect and change somebody's life for the rest of their life."

    That's why the Maulsby's are telling their story now.
    They want to make sure people are paying attention to the children around them.

    Christina says, "I had a feeling, but I was like how do you say that someone is doing some when you don’t know that they have."

    Experts agree it can be difficult to speak up, but they say in some cases it's a matter of life and death.

    Crisis Intervention director Mary Ingham says, "But I think what I would encourage people to do is. You're looking at that as an adult and there is a child in that home that is helpless that isn't able to reach out so be an adult and do something to help protect a child."

    Grant says, "It's just hard because Quentin deals with it every day of his life you know. It's hard to see your son go through something like that."

    Ingham says people don't realize just how big of an issue child abuse is, even in our area.
    That's why this month of awareness is so important to let people know there is help out there for victims and those who want to report child abuse.

    The woman accused of abusing Quentin has not been convicted.
    But will stand trial in Florida in May.
    http://www.kimt.com/content/localnew....cspx?rss=1689

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    Quote Originally Posted by sugarfree irony View Post
    From the link.




    Our Mission: To Empower People to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse


    Our programs raise awareness of the prevalence and consequences of child sexual abuse by educating adults about the steps they can take to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to the reality of child sexual abuse. LEARN MORE
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    http://womenspeakout.wordpress.com/2...me-is-project/

    This video montage of my abuse is part of My Name Is Project. It is a movement of survivors courageously deciding to create, express, and share their voices.
    I don't think I'd be brave enough to do this , but it seems like a really great project for awareness.
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    'Pastor Nanny' offers adult 'time-outs' to help prevent child abuse
    It was breaking news when William Molinski was charged with beating his daughter, baby Piper, to death. Bishop William McCarty held a memorial service for the baby and now he says it’s time to do more.

    The bishop is opening up his church to parents who need a time out. He is offering free child care twice a month on Saturday nights.

    “You can bring your children here, drop them off, sign them in, register them for three hours. And at no cost to you, you can leave them here and get a much needed break,” says Bishop McCarty.
    McCarty believes the stress of finances, jobs and parenting can send some people over the edge.

    “So you have the perfect storm that takes place and while some people say it will never happen to me, stress and strain does things to people that they may not have ever anticipated would happen to them until they are in the storm,” says McCarty.

    The sanctuary will be converted and the cross will be covered with a movie screen to keep the kids entertained during the adult time outs.

    The bishop says all of the caregivers will be screened as well.

    “Everyone goes through a background check process, so we are very, very particular about protecting our children,” says McCarty.

    There are those in the Isle of Wight community who question the bishop’s caring. They say he is building his Healing Waters Church flock by providing the free service.

    “Nothing like that. We simply want to care for you and your family,” says McCarty. “I believe that begins with providing care for the parents because the parents are the primary caregivers of the child so if they`re breaking down, what do you think is going to happen to the children?”

    The free child-care will begin in May.

    Every 2nd and 4th Saturday of each month after that from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. Bishop McCarty is hoping other churches in other areas will provide the parent time-outs as well.

    [...]
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    The bishop is opening up his church to parents who need a time out. He is offering free child care twice a month on Saturday nights.

    “You can bring your children here, drop them off, sign them in, register them for three hours. And at no cost to you, you can leave them here and get a much needed break,” says Bishop McCarty.
    McCarty believes the stress of finances, jobs and parenting can send some people over the edge.
    Sounds like a great idea to me .
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    10-year effort to end child abuse deaths launches

    Kosair Charities part of plan to eradicate deaths, injuries
    Led by Kosair Charities, officials with a dozen local health and child welfare groups announced Thursday they are launching an ambitious 10-year effort to eradicate child abuse deaths and injuries in the region.

    “Kentuckiana will not stand idly by as abuse, neglect and violence affect so many of our children and families with devastating consequences,” said Jerry Ward, chairman of the Kosair Charities board.

    Details of the recently organized effort haven’t been developed. But Ward said it will be the most comprehensive effort to date to tackle what he and others said is a persistent problem in the Kentucky and Southern Indiana areas served by the nonprofit groups involved.

    “We just felt we could have a major impact on the issue by working together,” said Ward, among the officials who announced the plan at a news conference at Louisville Slugger Field. While the details are pending, organizers said they scheduled the announcement Thursday because April has been designated national Child Abuse Prevention Month.

    “Our goal is attainable,” Ward said. “Every child has a right be to raised in a safe and loving home.”

    Several officials at the event said they have been troubled by ongoing reports of deaths and serious injuries from child abuse, including last year’s fatal beating of Amy Dye, a 9-year-old Western Kentucky girl whose death came to represent the failures of Kentucky’s child welfare system.

    “We’ve allowed children to stay in dangerous situations too long and families to stay in desperate situations without the support they need,” said Jerry Cantrell, executive director of Bellewood Presbyterian Home for Children, which is participating in the project.

    The Kentucky Cabinet for Health and Family Services received about 76,500 calls about suspected child abuse or neglect during the fiscal year that ended June 30. Of those, the cabinet substantiated abuse or neglect in about 9,500 cases involving more than 15,000 children,
    [...]
    http://www.courier-journal.com/artic...8/1001/rsslink
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    We'll haunt the perpetrators till they Die
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    Survivor Project


    The Child Abuse Survivor Project is intended to help men, women and children who have been affected by child abuse by publishing real stories of real abuse. These emotional stories detail personal acts of extreme mental, emotional, physical and sexual childhood abuse and the overwhelming impact it has on one's life.
    The Child Abuse Survivor Project is a community social action project. It recognizes the adversity which those victimized by child abuse have survived and validates their heroic resilience to the abuse they suffered. We want to honor the strength, spirit and courage of abuse survivors by empowering them to speak out against the abuse they have endured at the hands of their abusers. Our goal is to make this project one of healing, validation and inspiration to others. Join the survivors who have found the courage to speak out, along with a voice to end their suffering by sharing their story, all in hopes of helping others affected by abuse.


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    Lightbulb Child Abuse Shatters Lives




    Dominick Calhoun's Family Trying to Heal

    Rick Calhoun still cries everyday.He has suffered through stress-related health problems and admits sometimes his head is still spinning.
    However, the Linden resident has done his best to move forward two years after his 4-year-old grandson Dominick Calhoun was beaten and tortured to death in April 2010 inside an Argentine Township apartment.
    “I still talk to him everyday,” Calhoun said. “Every time a good thing happens to me, I know he’s the one that is watching us.”

    After Dominick’s mother Corrine Baker and her ex-boyfriend Brandon Hayes, formerly of Tyrone Township, were convicted and sentenced for the murder of Dominick, Calhoun said he and his family have been able to take a step forward.
    “It was an emotional rollercoaster. We were devastated,” Calhoun said. “I feel better now. When the case ended, it was a huge release of stress and tension. You are walking around on eggshells anticipating everything. Now that weight is lifted off."

    The family helped put on an Easter egg hunt Saturday in Flint that included 15,000 Easter eggs and 1,000 children. The Calhoun family helped to organize the Run the Course for Dominick Calhoun set to take place at 7:30 a.m. April 21 at Kensington Metropark in Milford. Calhoun is also set to be named the Crime Victim Advocate of the Year.
    Calhoun said he has again been able to focus on his contracting business and working with his son, and Dominick’s father, Eric Calhoun.
    “It was emotionally draining,” Eric said of the court case. “It was very stressful.”
    Rick said the family is planning to have some private time alone this summer, perhaps taking a frequent trips up north. He said the family has made a commitment to having fun and enjoying themselves.

    “We are coming back as family,” Rick Calhoun said. “We will keep Dominick in our hearts. We need to lay back and have some togetherness alone. Everything is out there and we need some private time.”

    Rick said the efforts of child abuse awareness and prevention will not stop. There will still be plenty of lobbying to pass Dominick’s Law and events to honor Dominick. He said there are plenty of supporters across the country that can carry torch as his family heals.
    “That’s what has kept us going. People have continued to support us and give us kind words and rally. There are a lot of great people out there,” Rick said. “I’m proud of what we’ve accomplished to make sure things change.”
    Rick said the incident has changed his life forever and that he will always fight child abuse.

    [...]
    more...
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    Authorities offer ways to spot and report child abuse
    KANSAS CITY, MO (KCTV) -
    April is child abuse prevention month and the numbers in Kansas and Missouri are nothing to brag about. In Missouri, a child is abused or neglected every two hours and in Kansas there's a slight rise in the number of abuse cases.

    Laura Person is a teacher at the Children's Place in the Brookside neighborhood – it's a place where children who've been abused or neglected go to heal.

    On Monday, a 5-year-old girl drew two self portraits, saying one was the good version of herself and the other was the evil version.

    "She drew a gun in her hand here and told me the evil version of herself was going to shoot the good one," Person said.

    The little girl is one of too many stories in Kansas and Missouri. There's a slight upward trend in Kansas in the number of child fatalities and, in both states, the number of children abused or neglected are on the rise for the tiniest ones between the ages of newborn to 3 years old.

    In 2010, there was a 7 percent increase in the metro in reported cases of child abuse and, in Kansas, the number is 8 percent. Those numbers have left many asking why. Ann Thomas, a therapist at the Children's Place, said domestic violence and drug addiction are major contributing factors, but they aren't the only ones.

    "Stress. Stress comes in all forms. There's marital stress, there's economic stress, frustrations with jobs and employment. All of those lead to parents becoming irritated and upset with their children at times," Thomas said.

    Thomas said it's everyone's job to look out for those who are too little to speak for themselves. One of the most obvious things to look for are bruising on the upper arms, thighs or back, particularly ones with a shape or form where it looks like an object may have been used.

    Abused children may also have developmental delays in speech, motor skills and social or emotional issues.

    "We'll look for children who are excessive - excessively aggressive – and also children who are very withdrawn. Those are also possible indicators," Thomas said.

    The therapist said while one symptom may not be an indication of abuse, it's not our job to determine that. Thomas recommends that people always call a hotline if they suspect any child has been harmed. She said it could be the most important call they'll ever make.

    "With the right intervention, we're helping families de-stress, helping parents cope with their own childhood traumas, helping children develop trust again," Thomas said. "It's a long process but children can heal and we can move on."
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    St. Louis Crisis Nursery spreading the word on Child Abuse Prevention Month
    (KMOV)—April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month and the St. Louis Crisis Nursery is using this month to spread the word about its programs and services they offer to save lives.

    The Crisis Nursery staff is committed to the prevention of child abuse and neglect. They also provide emergency intervention and support to families in a crisis.

    [...]
    The staff at the nursery wants parents to know, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

    Last year 6,000 families in crisis called the Crisis Nursery 24-hour helpline. The nursery is already beginning to see an increase in phone calls this spring.

    There are 5 nursery sites and 6 outreach centers in St. Charles, Wentzville, and in the St. Louis Metro area. Families can voluntarily bring children to the sites for many reasons; parental stress, parent or sibling illness or death, lack of food or shelter or domestic violence.

    To reach the Crisis Nursery’s 24-hour helpline please call 314-768-3201 or 314-338-2200

    Click here to learn more about this organization and how you can help prevent child abuse and neglect.
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    The Period of PURPLE Crying
    is the phrase used to describe the point in a baby’s life when they cry more than any other time. This period of increased crying is often described as colic, but there have been many misunderstandings about what “colic” really is.
    The Period of PURPLE Crying is a new way to help parents understand this time in their baby’s life, which is a normal part of every infant’s development. It is confusing and concerning to be told your baby “has colic” because it sounds like it is an illness or a condition that is abnormal. When the baby is given colic medicine it reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with the baby when in fact the baby is going through a very normal developmental phase. That is why it's prefered to refer to this time as the Period of PURPLE Crying. No, it is not because the baby turns purple when he/she cries but provides a meaningful and memorable way to describe what parents and their babies are going through.
    The Period of PURPLE Crying begins at about 2 weeks of age and continues until about 3-4 months. There are other common characteristics of this phases, or period, which are better described by the acronym PURPLE. All babies go through this Period it is just that during this time some can cry a lot, some far less, but they all do go through it.

    “Scientist decided to look at different animal species to see if they go through this developmental stage and so far all breast feeding animals tested actually go through this same developmental stage of crying more in the first months of life as human babies do."


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    “Five children are dying in the United States, on an average day in the U.S. from abuse and neglect. I mean, that’s like an airplane full of 150 children going down every month”


    DETROIT (WWJ) - Experts say it’s an epidemic and it’s time more people speak up. April has been designated as National Child Abuse Prevention month to draw attention to the five children who die every day in the US at the hands of adults.

    Elizabeth Brazilian of Child Health Michigan said too many people these days don’t want to get involved.

    “When people see something that they know in their gut is just not right, please err on the side of the child and if you feel that the child is being abused or neglected and you’re really quite sure about it, Michigan has a wonderful hotline you can call,” she said.

    Brazilian said more than 32,000 children were abused in Michigan last year.

    “The Dominick Calhoun situation is a great example. This poor child was abused for days upon days and neighbors heard him crying and they heard the commotions, and no one reported it. And of course, that child died a horrific death,” she said.

    Read more on Dominick Calhoun, here.

    Child abuse isn’t just a problem in Michigan — Brazilian said it’s a national epidemic.

    “Five children are dying in the United States, on an average day in the U.S. from abuse and neglect. I mean, that’s like an airplane full of 150 children going down every month,” she said.

    Michigan’s child abuse hotline is 855 444-3911. For more information, visit www.childhelp.org.
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    Bartow observes National Child Abuse Prevention Month

    Usually thought of as child's play, pinwheels are taking on a new significance this month on the landscape of NorthSide Bank. With each pinwheel representing one of Bartow County's nearly 900 reports of child abuse in 2011, the display is among several public offerings scheduled in April as area organizations observe National Child Abuse Prevention Month.

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    While the colorful toys already are taking root at NorthSide's Adairsville branch, representatives from Advocates for Children, Bartow County Department of Family & Children Services and the Cartersville-Bartow County Exchange Club will plant another set of pinwheels at the bank's Cartersville site on Tuesday.

    "This is a tradition that's done all over the state that began probably eight or nine years ago in various locations that have chartered councils of Prevent Child Abuse Georgia," said Patty Eagar, executive director for Advocates for Children, a nonprofit in Cartersville that serves more than 2,600 area youth through its Flowering Branch Children's Shelter and services that assist in the awareness, prevention and treatment of child abuse. "I really don't know why they decided to start with a pinwheel but their original intent was to plant one pinwheel for every report of child abuse in that county for the previous year and we still do it that way. ... We still plant one for every report of child abuse in the prior year and there will be nearly 900 of those."

    While in the past, Advocates observed National Child Abuse Prevention Month with pinwheel displays and a press conference, this year the organization is extending their offerings.

    On Monday, Advocates will present a Light of Hope ceremony on the steps of the Frank Moore Administration and Judicial Center at 135 W. Cherokee Ave. Starting at 8 p.m., candles will be lit to recognize those in foster care and stress the importance of Bartow County Court Appointed Special Advocates volunteers.

    A program of Advocates, Bartow CASA was implemented in 2001 and now is located in the Advocates' Annex at 113 Douglas St. in Cartersville. Along with talking to children, who are in state custody, the volunteers gather information from individuals surrounding the child to make an informed recommendation to the judge concerning permanent placement. Some of the people interviewed could include the children's relatives, teachers, therapists, doctors, day care providers and neighbors.

    Among those speaking at Monday's gathering will be Bartow County Juvenile Court Judge Velma Tilley, Assistant District Attorney Rosemary Greene and Bartow County DFCS Director Lynn Green.

    "What I would want them to know is how committed I am personally to the protection of children," Tilley said. "... [The court is] sort of a service provider but we're an intervention as well. If parents are going to abuse and neglect their children, we will intervene and we will remove children.

    "And the next level is to have the court-ordered services to try to assist families in being better. But if the improvements are not made, then we will find a place where children can be safe. So we're going to insist that children are safe in this community."
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    I think the one abused child that really haunts me is Rowan Ford . She was going to school early , going to church early , sleeping in her mom's car at night ; she did not want to be home without her mom . All the signs were there and the monsters still won . All the victims are tragic , all the abusers are vile , but that little girl just stood out to me trying so hard to stay safe without actually running away from her mom .

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    Foster Parent Terri Lynn Cronin Charged With Child Abuse

    Infant boy twice suffered injuries in her home in St. Charles County
    ST. CHARLES COUNTY • A former St. Charles County foster parent under scrutiny after an infant nearly died in her care in 2009 now faces criminal charges.

    Terri Lynn Cronin was charged Tuesday with two counts of child abuse and two counts of second-degree assault related to her care of Shakur Casanova Knight from March through May 2009 in her home in an unincorporated area of St. Charles County. The charges carry penalties from five to 15 years in prison.

    The charges follow a Post-Dispatch investigation published this month that highlighted Shakur's injuries and how case managers at a private agency failed to follow state laws and protocols to keep the infant safe in foster care.

    State, medical and police records show the agency, Urban Behavioral HealthCare Institute, failed to report to the state Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline that the 5-week-old boy suffered a broken arm on April 12, 2009, while in Cronin's care — six weeks before he nearly died from another incident in the home.

    The newspaper found the agency failed to follow up with hospital physicians who first treated the broken arm, or report the injury to two other foster care agencies responsible for his safety.

    All of those entities could have reported the injury to the state hotline.

    Medical records show the broken arm was diagnosed as a spiral fracture — typically a red flag for child abuse in young infants.

    The newspaper further found the infant remained in the foster home even though a great-aunt had asked to be the child's foster parent after the first injury. Records show the agency dragged its feet on that placement despite a state law that favors placing foster children with appropriate and willing relatives as quickly as possible.

    On May 27, 2009, Shakur was airlifted near death to St. Louis Children's Hospital with multiple fractures and severe head injuries requiring emergency surgery.

    State, medical and police records show Cronin said she slipped in both instances at the top of her home's carpeted stairs causing the injuries. With the first injury in April, Cronin said she abruptly pulled the baby into her body when she slipped onto her behind and slid down the stairs. In the second, she said the infant popped out of her arms and fell on his head on a tiled landing.

    Although medical records show physicians concluded Shakur was a victim of child abuse, criminal charges were originally refused by the St. Charles County Prosecutor's Office. State records also show Cronin was able to have a finding of child abuse by the state Children's Division overturned through a closed citizen review panel.

    But earlier this year, while reviewing the case after a reporter's inquiry, St. Charles County Prosecutor Jack Banas asked the St. Charles County Sheriff's Department to reopen a criminal investigation.

    Banas said there were conflicting statements among Cronin's five children about what happened on May 27 in the home, and said it was clear someone had hurt the child. Banas could not be reached for comment on the new charges.

    Court records pertaining to the charges filed Tuesday cited the spiral fracture in the arm as being "highly specific" for inflicted injury in infants. The fracture also was not compatible with the explanation given by Cronin of slipping down the steps with the baby in her arms, according to records. Those court files go on to list the extent of the injuries Shakur received on May 27, including a depressed left skull fracture, severe brain swelling, placement on a ventilator, multiple subdural hemorrhages, retinal hemorrhages in both eyes, seizures and a left collarbone fracture.

    Terri Cronin could not be reached for comment, and though court records list her family as living in St. Charles County, real estate documents indicate their house was sold. State records show Terri Cronin and her husband Jeffery Cronin were licensed foster parents starting in 2006 until they voluntarily relinquished the license in September 2009.

    Shakur, now 3, has been adopted and renamed Cristofer by Lennie Bell, the great-aunt who came forward to be his foster mother when he was in the Cronin's foster home.

    Bell said Tuesday all foster and adoption agencies need to "be more careful on who they place babies with." She said she was pleased criminal charges had been filed.

    "He deserved to have his day," she said of Shakur. "Somebody is responsible for what happened to him and needs to be accountable.
    [...]
    http://www.stltoday.com/news/local/m...#ixzz1rl5LgkCs


    As Lennie Bell looks on at left, her great-nephew Cristofer Bell kisses speech pathologist Janice Lanto goodbye after therapy at St. Louis Children's Hospital on Feb. 6, 2012. Bell became Cristofer's foster mother after he was injured twice in seven weeks while in the custody of a St. Charles County foster parent. Bell renamed Cristofer, who had been born Shakur Casanova Knight
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    Cristofer Bell, who was born Shakur Casanova Knight, plays with play dough with speech pathologist Janice Lanto during a therapy session at St. Louis Children's Hospital on Feb. 6, 2012

    Cristofer Bell celebrates with speech pathologist Janice Lanto during his therapy session

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    Lightbulb Momma's Hold Your Babies Close

    As mother's we are the first line of defense in seeing our children are cared for and protected.
    Making the best possible decisions when it comes to leaving your most treasured ones with anyone is one of the most fundamental things we can do as a parent. We take out policies to protect our homes, are vehicles, and other worldly goods but yet many fail, fail entirely to take the time and common sense in leaving their children with people they know well and believe them to be trust worthy---yes, and even then, sometimes as a parent we are betrayed by ones we deemed acceptable; even family.

    Still, a simple background check can tell you far more than what person might be letting on about themselves. Even then, there are far too many times in which a mother knowingly and willingly leaves their child with a known abusive and or violent criminal as a baby sitter---a baby sitter!
    how that works into a mother's mind is beyond me.
    ---did you know that boyfriends are statistically the most likely to abuse a child? yes. sad truth.

    "Jabraylon Bayles lost a five-week fight for life having been immersed in the water and suffering injuries so severe surgeons had to remove part of his stomach"


    16 month old Jabraylon Bayles was a baby left defenseless.
    read it on the dd forums---->Toddler-Dropped-in-Boiling-Water
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    - - - >Investigation: Moms who fail to report child abuse


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    SAFE HAVEN: An Iowa lawmaker wants to expand the Safe Haven law, allowing a baby up to one-year-old to be surrendered
    A Marshalltown lawmaker is proposing an expansion of the state’s Safe Haven law.

    The current law allows a mother to surrender a newborn up to 14-days-old at any hospital without fear of prosecution.

    Representative Mark Smith wants to change the law to include children under one-year-old. Smith says it would help protect more babies from abuse.

    The law has been in the spotlight since last month, when police charged a Huxley woman with first-degree murder for allegedly killing her newborn twins. Officers say 22-year-old Jackie Burkle told investigators she didn’t want them.

    Burkle pleaded not guilty. [...]
    http://whotv.com/2012/02/16/safe-hav...e-surrendered/

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    Kentucky mothers who lost children to abuse go public to help prevent future deaths
    An accomplished deer hunter, Kara Mellick has felled a 7- and 10-point buck. The antlers hang in her living room.

    A motivated student, she graduated from Fairdale High School with perfect attendance and is putting herself through college.

    But as a devoted mother, Mellick, 23, couldn’t prevent her infant daughter’s violent death from abuse three years ago at the hands of a man living in her home.

    “It kills me every time I think about it,” said Mellick, whose 9-month-old baby, Karlie, was fatally battered while Mellick was at work. “I don’t understand how can you take out that much frustration on a baby that’s totally innocent.”

    Now, Mellick has decided to talk publicly about her story in hopes of preventing other such deaths. It’s part of a regional public service campaign, led by Kosair Children’s Hospital in Louisville, that is dedicated to ending child abuse deaths.

    Mellick, who lives in Southern Indiana, will become the face of that campaign, along with Ebony Carson, 23, a Louisville mother whose son, Cornell, now almost 2, survived a beating in late October that left him disabled with a severe brain injury. They will appear in videos, advertisements and in other material promoting the effort.

    “Reducing child abuse is not a very good goal,” said Dr. Stephen Wright, medical director at Kosair hospital, where many victims are treated. “It needs to be eliminated.”

    Roughly 30 Kentucky children die each year of abuse and neglect, ranking the state eighth-highest in the nation in its rate of deaths, according to a 2010 report by the federal government. Another 50 or so Kentucky children are so severely injured each year from abuse that the state classifies the cases as “near fatalities.”

    [...]
    And such cases had one common factor, according to medical professionals involved in the Kosair hospital campaign — most, if not all, could have been prevented.
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    The Girl With 100 Scars,Sacramento Child-Abuse Survivor, Now 19, Builds A New Life

    They were always threatening to kill me and bury me under the mobile home in the backyard. I never really believed them. But that one day – the last day I was locked in the closet – I did. I believed them."
    – Lilly Manning, now 19

    In so many ways, Lilly Manning is your typical teen. She fiddles constantly with her cellphone. She hoards shoes. She frets about having a bad hair day, then obsesses over a missing flat iron. When she laughs, the skin around her eyes crinkles, like a double wink.

    Someone once told her she smiles with her eyes.

    Behind those brown eyes is a mind straining to remember the events of her childhood and the violence that defined it. Before she escaped from a locked closet in south Sacramento at age 15, Lilly was abused, beaten and tortured by her adoptive mother and the woman's husband.

    Her story is detailed in hundreds of pages of court documents and medical records, but her physical scars bear witness to the horrors: The hammer attacks. The death threats. The beatings, the burns, the instruments of torture used on a child – a pair of pliers, a rotting 2-by-4, a pink high heel, a steel-toed boot.

    And all those hours, trapped in a dark closet measuring 20-by-26 inches.

    This was the childhood of a Sacramento girl born with the name Rachel Cornist, changed upon adoption by her tormentor: Lillian Manning-Horvath.

    On Friday, the older Lillian, now 72, is scheduled to be sentenced in Sacramento Superior Court for her part in what the prosecutor called the systematic and sadistic torture of her namesake, Lilly Manning. The woman's husband, Joseph Robert Horvath, who turned 54 in March, was tried and convicted in 2009.

    Now it is Lillian Manning-Horvath's turn.

    Unlike other shocking cases that have attracted media attention – the 2008 escape of the "shackled boy," for instance, who fled the torment of his Tracy home – Lilly's story has not been told.

    Sacramento Sheriff's Detective Brian Shortz called Lilly's ordeal one of the "most extreme cases I've ever dealt with – by far.

    "I didn't want her in the press back then," he said. "She was a 15-year-old girl."

    Lilly is writing the script now, and she wants to tell her story – if nothing else, to figure out how this could ever happen to a child, she said. She has petitioned both the Juvenile Dependency Court and Child Protective Services for her records so she can trace her path, perhaps filling in the many blank spots.

    "There's so much that I don't know that I should know," Lilly said.

    She is 19 now, a slender and powerful 5-foot-3. On a recent morning, she sat outside a Subway shop on Arden Way, talking about her past in a straightforward, matter-of-fact way. Wearing a hot pink tank top, and toying with the colorful bands that encircle her wrists, she felt no need to cover the scars that run the length of her muscular arms and legs, dappling her chest and back.

    Despite her quest, she does not dwell on the past. In a series of interviews last month with The Bee, at her initiation, she talked less about being a victim and more about being a survivor. She has won the admiration of a prominent judge, a veteran detective, a child abuse expert and others who have witnessed her resilience firsthand.

    "I want to conquer the world," she said, as traffic rumbled by the Subway shop. "I want to do something big."

    None of this seemed possible on Halloween day in 2007, when Lilly's adoptive mother stabbed her in the upper left thigh inside their home in south Sacramento. Then Joseph Horvath shoved her once again into the pitch-black closet, stacked to the ceiling with old VCR movie tapes, according to court papers and Lilly's recollections.

    Only this time, the girl said, she was pretty sure they were going to kill her.


    The escape


    "Dear Mama … I'm writing you this note to tell you good bye. I don't like getting beat every day for something I didn't even do. … I'm leaving and going somewhere far. You won't have to kill me or Joe won't have to kill me. … "


    – Lilly Manning, note left for her adoptive mother, October 2007

    At age 15, Lilly Manning made a decision that would alter the course of her life – and that of her siblings.

    On Oct. 31, 2007, she kicked open the door and escaped from the closet she had thought of for months as her "room."

    After years of abuse, Lilly bolted. She left behind a note on the kitchen table, written in pencil, assuring her mom that she loved her and always would.

    "I might die out in the world but it's better then (sic) any of my family killing me and going to jail," she wrote.

    In hindsight, Lilly believes that the departure that day of her protective older sister, Natasha, being sent to Germany with the U.S. Army, made her escape imperative. Without Natasha to intervene, what would happen to her next?

    Deputy District Attorney Thienvu Ho thought he knew the answer to that. In closing arguments before Joseph Horvath's jury, the prosecutor said that Horvath and his wife were "never going to let Lilly leave that house again, at least not alive.

    "They couldn't let people at school, people at the post office, at the grocery store, or anybody in public see Lilly with all the wounds and scars on her body."

    With her escape, the terrible secrets inside the Manning-Horvath home were laid bare.

    Public records are vague on the family's history, except to say that Lilly and four of her siblings were removed from their biological mother in Sacramento in the early 1990s and placed in the care of Lillian Manning, their great-aunt. Lilly thinks she was formally adopted by Manning when she was about 4 or 5 – and was given Manning's name because, she said, "I was the favorite."

    That didn't last.

    Manning took the kids to live in Texas, returning to Sacramento in 2005.

    By then, Lilly's adoptive mother had married Horvath, a man 18 years younger with a drug-peddling past in Oklahoma. Horvath ran a lawn business while his wife stayed home with the kids.

    Lilly called him Joe.

    "When he first came, he was nice. He was normal," she said. "Then everything went downhill. He started listening to Lilly and stuff."

    They lived in a small 1940s bungalow with a spiked iron gate spanning the front on Dewey Boulevard. While court papers indicate that some of the other children were abused there, they also make clear that Lilly took the brunt of the couple's fury.

    For everyone in the home the message was clear: Don't tell – or else.

    "She always told us not to tell people what was going on," said Lilly.

    Lilly did not go directly to authorities after kicking down the closet door, which had been secured with a metal pole under the doorknob. As she tells it, she hid for several days in a "homemade shed" behind the home, near Fruitridge Road and Stockton Boulevard.

    When Lilly was certain that her mom and Joe had taken off for Texas – even with her still "missing" – she sneaked back into the house for food. After a few days in the shed, she said, a sister persuaded her to call CPS from a pay phone near McDonald's a few blocks away.

    A CPS worker told her "there's nothing we can do," Lilly said, and then referred her to Diogenes Youth Services, a counseling and crisis intervention center for teens.

    The court records of Joseph Horvath and Lillian Manning do not detail the degree of contact CPS had with the family, other than to note at least one visit from a social worker. A CPS spokeswoman said the agency legally could not comment on the case.

    The documents do not mention a phone call to CPS after her escape, but do describe how a Diogenes worker drove to the corner of Fruitridge and Stockton Boulevard and picked up the girl.

    Lilly's condition – the oozing stab wound, the multiple scars – was alarming. An ambulance rushed the teenager to UC Davis Medical Center.

    "Honestly, I was scared," Lilly said, recalling the details of her first night of freedom – and her first medical treatment for the many injuries. "They were bringing all these needles and stuff."

    Doctors and nurses descended on the girl. Detectives were not far behind.


    The horrors revealed


    "I felt horror, really. I was amazed that she was just sitting there with a blank expression on her face – and not crying … She was just sitting there like a mannequin."


    – Detective Shortz, Sacramento County Sheriff's child abuse unit.

    If Lilly was afraid, she wasn't revealing any of that to law enforcement.

    Shortz, an experienced child abuse investigator, interviewed the 15-year-old girl at the hospital a little past midnight on Nov. 6, 2007. He remembered that she was calm and tired and "seemed emotionless." She answered his questions promptly but with few words – almost "robotic," he recalled.

    Given the severity of her injuries, he was stunned by how oblivious she seemed to pain.

    "But I know she was feeling it," he said.

    Inch by inch, Lilly's battered body was examined, X-rayed and photographed, often with rulers alongside the scar or injury. The medical team would document more than 100 scars and injuries in various stages of healing.

    Besides the stab wound in her thigh, her face was a patchwork of trauma. Her upper lip had been split open in several places and, having gone untreated, had healed into a misshapen series of lumps. At least three teeth had been knocked out.

    Lilly explained that her mother often smacked her in the mouth, and one time, Joseph Horvath had kicked her in the face with a black, steel-toe boot. Her mother used a pink high heel to pierce her scalp, she said.

    Doctors found that the bone in her left elbow had been broken and the muscle and tendons had begun to calcify. Lilly's arm was stuck at a 45-degree angle.

    The girl explained that the elbow injury occurred when the 6-foot, 200-pound Joseph Horvath wrapped his arms around her and body-slammed her to the ground.

    Her ears also were disfigured and "resembled cauliflower," according to court papers. The ear cartilage was flattened and misshapen.

    Lilly said that her ears had been a favorite target as both her mother and Joe struck her with a hammer, sticks, 2-by-4s and "pretty much anything they could find."

    Her hands were favorites, too, as the exam revealed breaks in both of her hands and fingers. As punishment, Lilly said, her mom would squeeze her fingers with pliers or force her to spread her hands on a stool, then smash them with a hammer.

    Medical reports also documented numerous burns, which Lilly said she received when her adoptive mother threw boiling water at her. She once used a hot iron to burn the girl's face below her left eye and on her left forearm, Lilly said.

    The abuse apparently was rooted in a family lie.

    Lilly recalled that the vicious attacks seemed to start when she was about 9. Her adoptive mom became suspicious that her much younger husband was molesting the girl. If Joe said she was pretty, Lilly said, her mom would savagely beat her until she admitted to having sexual contact with him – which wasn't true. Then Horvath would get furious and pile on.

    "It seemed like she was jealous," Lilly said. "She thought everyone wanted Joe."

    While doctors were piecing together the medical puzzle, detectives were gathering evidence of a different kind.

    The sheriff's search of the house found graphic evidence of the brutality: the sticks and 2-by-4s, which appeared to be bloodstained; a 13-inch steel hammer; pliers; the pink high heel; and the steel-toe boot. One wooden stick with staples in the end, found behind a dresser, had red stains on one end and "black curly fiber or hair attached," court records show.

    "Sticks and things like that were exactly where she said they were hidden," Shortz said.

    Lillian Manning-Horvath was arrested on Nov. 28, 2007, and her husband two weeks later on Dec. 13. They were charged with multiple felony counts each, including torture, aggravated mayhem, assault with a deadly weapon, false imprisonment, making death threats and child endangerment.

    But Lilly's adopted mom was not out of her life yet.


    Into the justice system


    "They are sending me back to court. I want you and (your sister) to come to court and help me get out so I can go home. Please don't let me down. I don't want to die in hear (sic)."


    – Jailhouse letter from Lillian Manning-Horvath to Lilly, 2010

    After the arrests, Lilly and her siblings entered the foster care system and soon were split up.

    But Lillian Manning-Horvath was taking no chances. Even from jail, she still tried to control her adopted daughter.

    In a letter dated Sept. 15, 2010, Lillian specifically appealed to Lilly – the girl she had repeatedly locked in a closet, letting her out only to use the bathroom and eat canned food from a metal plate. "Please Lillian you can help me, if you don't I will never come home," the elder Lillian wrote. "Maybe you could come see me."

    Lilly and her older sister actually did visit Manning-Horvath in jail, a reunion that degenerated into their mother "talking about herself a lot," Lilly recalled.

    Even now, though, the young Lilly is loath to criticize her mom.

    "She did raise me," she said, shrugging her shoulders. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I don't hate her, but I don't like what she did."

    After their arrests, the couple were set to be tried together, but Lillian's mental competency soon became an issue and their cases were split.

    By the time Joseph Horvath came to trial in September 2009, facing 14 felony charges, young Lilly was bouncing among foster care homes. Before leaving the system in June 2010, she lived in four different homes.

    Horvath testified on the fifth and final day of his trial, denied involvement in the abuse and blamed his wife, according to the transcript. He said he saw his wife attack the children – and particularly Lilly – with a hammer, pots, sticks, shoes, a curling iron and boiling water.

    Horvath said his solution was to take the implements away from his wife. He was found guilty of 13 felony counts and was sentenced to 12 years, four months in state prison, plus consecutive life terms. He is appealing.

    What is clear amid the jumble of court documents is that the children tried to get help – from the schools, police and Child Protective Services.

    Lilly said she once called 911 when her twin brother found a cellphone, a story corroborated in the records. When her mother began beating her, she blurted out what she had done.

    "I was getting hit, and it just slipped," she said.

    Manning-Horvath hid the girl under the bed and, when police came, she was "too afraid to come out," she said.

    Social workers also came, looked and left.

    Lilly said a teacher referred her to a school nurse, who accused the girl of doing it to herself.

    "We just gave up," Lilly said.


    Moving on


    "I don't want any plastic surgery. What's the point? … My scars are, like, they're like souvenirs to me. It's proof I can get through anything, you know."


    – Lilly Manning, June 2011

    Detective Shortz always suspected that Lilly had the inner strength to rebound.

    Not long after he met her at the hospital, he visited her high school with follow-up questions. Her adoptive mother had pulled her from school the previous spring and kept her isolated.

    "Suddenly, here was this beautiful girl," Shortz said.

    He saw her again in May at a hearing for Lillian Manning-Horvath. "She's become a fabulous, graceful, proud girl who stands up straight, looks you in the eye," he said. "And she's very warm and loving."

    Dr. Deborah Stewart, who cataloged the scars and injuries on Lilly's body at the Medical Center, testified at Horvath's 2009 trial that Lilly "was amazingly resilient."

    Even the judge was moved, describing Lilly and her sister as a "bright light" in the tragedy. Former Superior Court Judge Elena J. Duarte, who now is on the 3rd District Court of Appeal, said she was especially struck that the girls had come to Horvath's sentencing hearing to express support and ask for leniency, according to a transcript.

    Lilly still isn't sure why she did it, but she does believe that Joe got swept into his wife's furious wake.

    Lilly doesn't know whether she will speak at Friday's judgment and sentencing of her adoptive mom. Lillian Manning-Horvath entered a dual plea and will likely serve a few years first in a mental health facility for her plea to child endangerment of not guilty by reason of insanity. She pleaded guilty to the remaining 15 felony charges, for which she could receive two life terms plus about 25 years in state prison, according to the District Attorney's Office.

    Meanwhile, the daughter who bears her name is busy making plans. Lilly graduated last year from Vista Nueva Career & Technology High School in Sacramento and has attended two semesters at Sacramento City College. She is considering a career as a personal trainer and works out regularly.

    She now can almost fully extend the left arm that once was stuck at a 45-degree angle.

    Lilly said she'd like to move to New York state next month to live with her sister Natasha, who is being restationed there from Germany. She wonders if an Army career might be right for her, too.

    Money is tight. She relies on food stamps and "financial aid," but she's not quite sure of the source. While in Sacramento, she still wants to review her case files to help fill in the blanks of her childhood. She is taking her driving test Wednesday. She gets therapy.

    And, like every teen, she wants to have fun.

    "I want to go to an opera hecka bad!" she blurted out while talking about her love of music.

    Lilly recently moved into a home in the south area with a friend, just around the corner from her first foster family, Maria and Domingo Gonzalez. They took her in after the arrests.

    Maria, a 16-year foster mom whose orderly home is adorned with children's pictures, found Lilly to be angry and defiant after her arrival.

    But the Gonzalezes told the children their door would always be open.

    So Lilly stopped by the home last month and was greeted with warm hugs. She talked with them in Spanish, then raided their refrigerator.

    "I didn't expect her to go to college – and look at this," Maria Gonzalez said. "She's got a lot of dreams. She's a strong girl.[....]
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    For every murdered child
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    We'll haunt the perpetrators till they Die
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    They are.


    "They were always threatening to kill me and bury me under the mobile home in the backyard. I never really believed them. But that one day – the last day I was locked in the closet – I did. I believed them."– Lilly Manning, now 19
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    State makes strides in reports of child abuse deaths
    South Dakota has improved access to information about child abuse deaths and near-deaths, according to a new report grading each state.

    South Dakota received a “B” grade in the report, a vast leap forward from the same study produced in 2008 in which it was among 10 states receiving a failing grade.

    In 2009, South Dakota legislators amended its law to make the disclosure of information regarding child abuse resulting in a fatality or near-fatality mandatory upon written request. In 2008, the law said the Department of Social Services “may” release the information with a prosecutor and court’s approval.

    “We are very proud of the strides South Dakota has made to improve these measures,” said Kristin Kellar, communications director for South Dakota Department of Social Services. Virgena Wiesele, director for the Child Protective Services within Social Services did not return calls or emails seeking comment.

    The Children’s Advocacy Institute at the University of San Diego and child advocacy group First Star published the study analyzing how each state grants public access to information about fatal and near-fatal abuse incidents. The report authors say more information leads to a better understanding how to prevent deadly abuse in the future.

    “We must amplify our message that the importance of ferreting out the causes of child abuse deaths and near deaths trumps the need to protect the confidentiality of the families involved,” said First Star Chairman Peter Samuelson in a statement.

    South Dakota lost points in the grading system because the information disclosed only pertains to the acts that caused the fatality or near fatality. It also was docked for having closed court proceedings unless the court finds a compelling reason to open the proceedings.

    The Child Advocacy Institute estimates about 1,700 children are a victim of fatal or near-fatal abuse. The report gave “C+” or below grades to 20 states, including California, Texas and New York.

    Montana, which received an “F” grade in 2008, was the only failing grade this year. The organization said the laws in place there carry “severely restrictive” language for accessing information.

    Arizona, Indiana, Nevada and Pennsylvania received perfect “A+” scores. In Nevada the information must be made available to any person upon request.
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