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    Child Abuse Awareness Month APR2012


    In light of April being child abuse awareness/prevention month I thought it would be good time to share just about anything pertaining to the subject.
    Please, post, photo's/video, articles, news, quotes, a personal account (if you feel comfortable doing so), advice, tips, resources, etc. Anything that helps bring awareness and/or prevention to a subject that often gets the most attention only as it happens.


    Child Abuse in America
    Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Over 3 million reports of child abuse are made every year in the United States; however, those reports can include multiple children. In 2009, approximately 3.3 million child abuse reports and allegations were made involving an estimated 6 million children.


    Steadily climbing.
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    http://www.erinmerryn.net/erins-law.html
    I've posted on here before about Erin's law . I think it would be great if this law was passed everywhere. I graduated high school in '91 . I don't recall hearing anything about sexual abuse ( or any child abuse ) until I was a junior in high school taking a psychology class. I might have had a small amount of " stranger danger " education in elementary school , but I don't recall . I think if we get the information about how to report abuse to the victims it can make a big difference in the amount of time they are abused . I wish if teachers suspected they could just ask the child . I think the child would feel more comfortable talking to a teacher they know than a strange social worker or policeman . But I've been told in my area anyway that teachers are not allowed to ask the kids they can only report suspicions .

    What would Erin's Law do?

    1. The purpose of this law is to inform and protect students from sexual abuse. To mandate school districts implement and educate students on sexual abuse. School boards will adopt age appropriate curriculum on sexual abuse education to students grades pre-k through 5th grade. Education in schools is an effective method for preventing children from falling prey to sexual abuse or stay silent if it does occur.
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    Evil has a wholesome, hometown face,
    with merry eyes and an open smile.
    Evil walks among us, wearing a mask
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    Exclamation Starved to death

    Boy 11, starved to death by his own "parents" after locked away in his own room----ate his own feces in attempt to survive.

    Johnathan Ramsey

    read featured story. . . HERE> http://www.dreamindemon.com/forums/s...hnathan+Ramsey

    DID YOU KNOW?
    By the time you finish reading this article, 15-20 children will have been abused, beaten or molested. In the next five minutes, 30 more. Within the next hour, 360 more. And by tonight, close to 8,000+ children will have suffered from abuse, 5 of which will die. Child abuse has increased 134% since 1980 and is now considered a worldwide epidemic. The high jump in child abuse deaths and the shocking increase in statistics highlights the frightening lack of public knowledge.
    See something?--Say something!! If you suspect child abuse, report it.
    Protect our children. It's our moral duty.
    Educate Yourself--Learn the Facts--It may Just Save a Child's Life!


    Physical Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Unexplained burns, cuts, bruises, or welts in the shape of an object
    2. Bite marks
    3. Anti-social behavior
    4. Problems in school
    5. Fear of adults

    Emotional Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Apathy
    2. Depression
    3. Hostility or stress
    4. Lack of concentration
    5. Eating disorders

    Sexual Signs of Child Abuse
    1. Inappropriate interest or knowledge of sexual acts
    2. Nightmares and bed wetting
    3. Drastic changes in appetite
    4. Overcompliance or excessive aggression
    5. Fear of a particular person or family member

    Signs of Neglect
    1. Unsuitable clothing for weather
    2. Dirty or unbathed
    3. Extreme hunger
    4. Apparent lack of supervision

    For a more extensive list of the signs of child abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline,
    1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).
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    Lightbulb National Child Help Day of Hope-APRIL 4th

    One of my favorite sites on child abuse resources and action.
    If you feel the need and want to do more than just read on child abuse awareness/prevention, this is one way.
    Purchasing a gift through childhelp.org an easy way to have proceeds go back to Childhelp's life-saving programs that help abused, neglected and at-risk children.

    Click the link and give hope to a child of abuse.
    National Day of Hope childhelp.org--->
    http://www.childhelp.org/page/-/land...ope/index.html
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    These sites might contain emotionally disturbing content , but child abuse should disturb you .

    http://www.protect.org/

    The author Andrew Vachss talking about protect.org


    http://absolutezerounited.blogspot.com/
    A community of individuals pledged to fight paedophiles on the web. We are committed to the safety and emotional well-being of all children. This site will serve as a resource for those committed to our fight wherever you may be in the world.
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    Evil walks among us, wearing a mask
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    Alicia Kozakiewicz Testimony on Sex Predators online
    http://vimeo.com/31828442

    http://old.post-gazette.com/regionst...5missingp1.asp
    For three days, authorities suspected that the mysterious disappearance of a 13-year-old Crafton Heights girl on New Year's Day was linked to her Internet use -- that she possibly met someone in cyberspace who lured her away from home and safety.

    Yesterday, the same technology that had endangered Alicia Kozakiewicz allowed authorities to track her to a townhouse in suburban Washington, D.C., where they found her tied up in a bedroom but not seriously hurt.
    Evil is no faceless stranger,
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    Evil has a wholesome, hometown face,
    with merry eyes and an open smile.
    Evil walks among us, wearing a mask
    which looks like all our faces.
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    SAFE HAVEN: An Iowa lawmaker wants to expand the Safe Haven law, allowing a baby up to one-year-old to be surrendered
    A Marshalltown lawmaker is proposing an expansion of the state’s Safe Haven law.

    The current law allows a mother to surrender a newborn up to 14-days-old at any hospital without fear of prosecution.

    Representative Mark Smith wants to change the law to include children under one-year-old. Smith says it would help protect more babies from abuse.

    The law has been in the spotlight since last month, when police charged a Huxley woman with first-degree murder for allegedly killing her newborn twins. Officers say 22-year-old Jackie Burkle told investigators she didn’t want them.

    Burkle pleaded not guilty. [...]
    http://whotv.com/2012/02/16/safe-hav...e-surrendered/

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    "Rescuing one animal may not change the world, but for that animal their world is changed forever!" - Unknown

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    Kentucky mothers who lost children to abuse go public to help prevent future deaths
    An accomplished deer hunter, Kara Mellick has felled a 7- and 10-point buck. The antlers hang in her living room.

    A motivated student, she graduated from Fairdale High School with perfect attendance and is putting herself through college.

    But as a devoted mother, Mellick, 23, couldn’t prevent her infant daughter’s violent death from abuse three years ago at the hands of a man living in her home.

    “It kills me every time I think about it,” said Mellick, whose 9-month-old baby, Karlie, was fatally battered while Mellick was at work. “I don’t understand how can you take out that much frustration on a baby that’s totally innocent.”

    Now, Mellick has decided to talk publicly about her story in hopes of preventing other such deaths. It’s part of a regional public service campaign, led by Kosair Children’s Hospital in Louisville, that is dedicated to ending child abuse deaths.

    Mellick, who lives in Southern Indiana, will become the face of that campaign, along with Ebony Carson, 23, a Louisville mother whose son, Cornell, now almost 2, survived a beating in late October that left him disabled with a severe brain injury. They will appear in videos, advertisements and in other material promoting the effort.

    “Reducing child abuse is not a very good goal,” said Dr. Stephen Wright, medical director at Kosair hospital, where many victims are treated. “It needs to be eliminated.”

    Roughly 30 Kentucky children die each year of abuse and neglect, ranking the state eighth-highest in the nation in its rate of deaths, according to a 2010 report by the federal government. Another 50 or so Kentucky children are so severely injured each year from abuse that the state classifies the cases as “near fatalities.”

    [...]
    And such cases had one common factor, according to medical professionals involved in the Kosair hospital campaign — most, if not all, could have been prevented.
    http://www.courier-journal.com/artic...1/1001/rsslink

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    The Girl With 100 Scars,Sacramento Child-Abuse Survivor, Now 19, Builds A New Life

    They were always threatening to kill me and bury me under the mobile home in the backyard. I never really believed them. But that one day – the last day I was locked in the closet – I did. I believed them."
    – Lilly Manning, now 19

    In so many ways, Lilly Manning is your typical teen. She fiddles constantly with her cellphone. She hoards shoes. She frets about having a bad hair day, then obsesses over a missing flat iron. When she laughs, the skin around her eyes crinkles, like a double wink.

    Someone once told her she smiles with her eyes.

    Behind those brown eyes is a mind straining to remember the events of her childhood and the violence that defined it. Before she escaped from a locked closet in south Sacramento at age 15, Lilly was abused, beaten and tortured by her adoptive mother and the woman's husband.

    Her story is detailed in hundreds of pages of court documents and medical records, but her physical scars bear witness to the horrors: The hammer attacks. The death threats. The beatings, the burns, the instruments of torture used on a child – a pair of pliers, a rotting 2-by-4, a pink high heel, a steel-toed boot.

    And all those hours, trapped in a dark closet measuring 20-by-26 inches.

    This was the childhood of a Sacramento girl born with the name Rachel Cornist, changed upon adoption by her tormentor: Lillian Manning-Horvath.

    On Friday, the older Lillian, now 72, is scheduled to be sentenced in Sacramento Superior Court for her part in what the prosecutor called the systematic and sadistic torture of her namesake, Lilly Manning. The woman's husband, Joseph Robert Horvath, who turned 54 in March, was tried and convicted in 2009.

    Now it is Lillian Manning-Horvath's turn.

    Unlike other shocking cases that have attracted media attention – the 2008 escape of the "shackled boy," for instance, who fled the torment of his Tracy home – Lilly's story has not been told.

    Sacramento Sheriff's Detective Brian Shortz called Lilly's ordeal one of the "most extreme cases I've ever dealt with – by far.

    "I didn't want her in the press back then," he said. "She was a 15-year-old girl."

    Lilly is writing the script now, and she wants to tell her story – if nothing else, to figure out how this could ever happen to a child, she said. She has petitioned both the Juvenile Dependency Court and Child Protective Services for her records so she can trace her path, perhaps filling in the many blank spots.

    "There's so much that I don't know that I should know," Lilly said.

    She is 19 now, a slender and powerful 5-foot-3. On a recent morning, she sat outside a Subway shop on Arden Way, talking about her past in a straightforward, matter-of-fact way. Wearing a hot pink tank top, and toying with the colorful bands that encircle her wrists, she felt no need to cover the scars that run the length of her muscular arms and legs, dappling her chest and back.

    Despite her quest, she does not dwell on the past. In a series of interviews last month with The Bee, at her initiation, she talked less about being a victim and more about being a survivor. She has won the admiration of a prominent judge, a veteran detective, a child abuse expert and others who have witnessed her resilience firsthand.

    "I want to conquer the world," she said, as traffic rumbled by the Subway shop. "I want to do something big."

    None of this seemed possible on Halloween day in 2007, when Lilly's adoptive mother stabbed her in the upper left thigh inside their home in south Sacramento. Then Joseph Horvath shoved her once again into the pitch-black closet, stacked to the ceiling with old VCR movie tapes, according to court papers and Lilly's recollections.

    Only this time, the girl said, she was pretty sure they were going to kill her.


    The escape


    "Dear Mama … I'm writing you this note to tell you good bye. I don't like getting beat every day for something I didn't even do. … I'm leaving and going somewhere far. You won't have to kill me or Joe won't have to kill me. … "


    – Lilly Manning, note left for her adoptive mother, October 2007

    At age 15, Lilly Manning made a decision that would alter the course of her life – and that of her siblings.

    On Oct. 31, 2007, she kicked open the door and escaped from the closet she had thought of for months as her "room."

    After years of abuse, Lilly bolted. She left behind a note on the kitchen table, written in pencil, assuring her mom that she loved her and always would.

    "I might die out in the world but it's better then (sic) any of my family killing me and going to jail," she wrote.

    In hindsight, Lilly believes that the departure that day of her protective older sister, Natasha, being sent to Germany with the U.S. Army, made her escape imperative. Without Natasha to intervene, what would happen to her next?

    Deputy District Attorney Thienvu Ho thought he knew the answer to that. In closing arguments before Joseph Horvath's jury, the prosecutor said that Horvath and his wife were "never going to let Lilly leave that house again, at least not alive.

    "They couldn't let people at school, people at the post office, at the grocery store, or anybody in public see Lilly with all the wounds and scars on her body."

    With her escape, the terrible secrets inside the Manning-Horvath home were laid bare.

    Public records are vague on the family's history, except to say that Lilly and four of her siblings were removed from their biological mother in Sacramento in the early 1990s and placed in the care of Lillian Manning, their great-aunt. Lilly thinks she was formally adopted by Manning when she was about 4 or 5 – and was given Manning's name because, she said, "I was the favorite."

    That didn't last.

    Manning took the kids to live in Texas, returning to Sacramento in 2005.

    By then, Lilly's adoptive mother had married Horvath, a man 18 years younger with a drug-peddling past in Oklahoma. Horvath ran a lawn business while his wife stayed home with the kids.

    Lilly called him Joe.

    "When he first came, he was nice. He was normal," she said. "Then everything went downhill. He started listening to Lilly and stuff."

    They lived in a small 1940s bungalow with a spiked iron gate spanning the front on Dewey Boulevard. While court papers indicate that some of the other children were abused there, they also make clear that Lilly took the brunt of the couple's fury.

    For everyone in the home the message was clear: Don't tell – or else.

    "She always told us not to tell people what was going on," said Lilly.

    Lilly did not go directly to authorities after kicking down the closet door, which had been secured with a metal pole under the doorknob. As she tells it, she hid for several days in a "homemade shed" behind the home, near Fruitridge Road and Stockton Boulevard.

    When Lilly was certain that her mom and Joe had taken off for Texas – even with her still "missing" – she sneaked back into the house for food. After a few days in the shed, she said, a sister persuaded her to call CPS from a pay phone near McDonald's a few blocks away.

    A CPS worker told her "there's nothing we can do," Lilly said, and then referred her to Diogenes Youth Services, a counseling and crisis intervention center for teens.

    The court records of Joseph Horvath and Lillian Manning do not detail the degree of contact CPS had with the family, other than to note at least one visit from a social worker. A CPS spokeswoman said the agency legally could not comment on the case.

    The documents do not mention a phone call to CPS after her escape, but do describe how a Diogenes worker drove to the corner of Fruitridge and Stockton Boulevard and picked up the girl.

    Lilly's condition – the oozing stab wound, the multiple scars – was alarming. An ambulance rushed the teenager to UC Davis Medical Center.

    "Honestly, I was scared," Lilly said, recalling the details of her first night of freedom – and her first medical treatment for the many injuries. "They were bringing all these needles and stuff."

    Doctors and nurses descended on the girl. Detectives were not far behind.


    The horrors revealed


    "I felt horror, really. I was amazed that she was just sitting there with a blank expression on her face – and not crying … She was just sitting there like a mannequin."


    – Detective Shortz, Sacramento County Sheriff's child abuse unit.

    If Lilly was afraid, she wasn't revealing any of that to law enforcement.

    Shortz, an experienced child abuse investigator, interviewed the 15-year-old girl at the hospital a little past midnight on Nov. 6, 2007. He remembered that she was calm and tired and "seemed emotionless." She answered his questions promptly but with few words – almost "robotic," he recalled.

    Given the severity of her injuries, he was stunned by how oblivious she seemed to pain.

    "But I know she was feeling it," he said.

    Inch by inch, Lilly's battered body was examined, X-rayed and photographed, often with rulers alongside the scar or injury. The medical team would document more than 100 scars and injuries in various stages of healing.

    Besides the stab wound in her thigh, her face was a patchwork of trauma. Her upper lip had been split open in several places and, having gone untreated, had healed into a misshapen series of lumps. At least three teeth had been knocked out.

    Lilly explained that her mother often smacked her in the mouth, and one time, Joseph Horvath had kicked her in the face with a black, steel-toe boot. Her mother used a pink high heel to pierce her scalp, she said.

    Doctors found that the bone in her left elbow had been broken and the muscle and tendons had begun to calcify. Lilly's arm was stuck at a 45-degree angle.

    The girl explained that the elbow injury occurred when the 6-foot, 200-pound Joseph Horvath wrapped his arms around her and body-slammed her to the ground.

    Her ears also were disfigured and "resembled cauliflower," according to court papers. The ear cartilage was flattened and misshapen.

    Lilly said that her ears had been a favorite target as both her mother and Joe struck her with a hammer, sticks, 2-by-4s and "pretty much anything they could find."

    Her hands were favorites, too, as the exam revealed breaks in both of her hands and fingers. As punishment, Lilly said, her mom would squeeze her fingers with pliers or force her to spread her hands on a stool, then smash them with a hammer.

    Medical reports also documented numerous burns, which Lilly said she received when her adoptive mother threw boiling water at her. She once used a hot iron to burn the girl's face below her left eye and on her left forearm, Lilly said.

    The abuse apparently was rooted in a family lie.

    Lilly recalled that the vicious attacks seemed to start when she was about 9. Her adoptive mom became suspicious that her much younger husband was molesting the girl. If Joe said she was pretty, Lilly said, her mom would savagely beat her until she admitted to having sexual contact with him – which wasn't true. Then Horvath would get furious and pile on.

    "It seemed like she was jealous," Lilly said. "She thought everyone wanted Joe."

    While doctors were piecing together the medical puzzle, detectives were gathering evidence of a different kind.

    The sheriff's search of the house found graphic evidence of the brutality: the sticks and 2-by-4s, which appeared to be bloodstained; a 13-inch steel hammer; pliers; the pink high heel; and the steel-toe boot. One wooden stick with staples in the end, found behind a dresser, had red stains on one end and "black curly fiber or hair attached," court records show.

    "Sticks and things like that were exactly where she said they were hidden," Shortz said.

    Lillian Manning-Horvath was arrested on Nov. 28, 2007, and her husband two weeks later on Dec. 13. They were charged with multiple felony counts each, including torture, aggravated mayhem, assault with a deadly weapon, false imprisonment, making death threats and child endangerment.

    But Lilly's adopted mom was not out of her life yet.


    Into the justice system


    "They are sending me back to court. I want you and (your sister) to come to court and help me get out so I can go home. Please don't let me down. I don't want to die in hear (sic)."


    – Jailhouse letter from Lillian Manning-Horvath to Lilly, 2010

    After the arrests, Lilly and her siblings entered the foster care system and soon were split up.

    But Lillian Manning-Horvath was taking no chances. Even from jail, she still tried to control her adopted daughter.

    In a letter dated Sept. 15, 2010, Lillian specifically appealed to Lilly – the girl she had repeatedly locked in a closet, letting her out only to use the bathroom and eat canned food from a metal plate. "Please Lillian you can help me, if you don't I will never come home," the elder Lillian wrote. "Maybe you could come see me."

    Lilly and her older sister actually did visit Manning-Horvath in jail, a reunion that degenerated into their mother "talking about herself a lot," Lilly recalled.

    Even now, though, the young Lilly is loath to criticize her mom.

    "She did raise me," she said, shrugging her shoulders. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I don't hate her, but I don't like what she did."

    After their arrests, the couple were set to be tried together, but Lillian's mental competency soon became an issue and their cases were split.

    By the time Joseph Horvath came to trial in September 2009, facing 14 felony charges, young Lilly was bouncing among foster care homes. Before leaving the system in June 2010, she lived in four different homes.

    Horvath testified on the fifth and final day of his trial, denied involvement in the abuse and blamed his wife, according to the transcript. He said he saw his wife attack the children – and particularly Lilly – with a hammer, pots, sticks, shoes, a curling iron and boiling water.

    Horvath said his solution was to take the implements away from his wife. He was found guilty of 13 felony counts and was sentenced to 12 years, four months in state prison, plus consecutive life terms. He is appealing.

    What is clear amid the jumble of court documents is that the children tried to get help – from the schools, police and Child Protective Services.

    Lilly said she once called 911 when her twin brother found a cellphone, a story corroborated in the records. When her mother began beating her, she blurted out what she had done.

    "I was getting hit, and it just slipped," she said.

    Manning-Horvath hid the girl under the bed and, when police came, she was "too afraid to come out," she said.

    Social workers also came, looked and left.

    Lilly said a teacher referred her to a school nurse, who accused the girl of doing it to herself.

    "We just gave up," Lilly said.


    Moving on


    "I don't want any plastic surgery. What's the point? … My scars are, like, they're like souvenirs to me. It's proof I can get through anything, you know."


    – Lilly Manning, June 2011

    Detective Shortz always suspected that Lilly had the inner strength to rebound.

    Not long after he met her at the hospital, he visited her high school with follow-up questions. Her adoptive mother had pulled her from school the previous spring and kept her isolated.

    "Suddenly, here was this beautiful girl," Shortz said.

    He saw her again in May at a hearing for Lillian Manning-Horvath. "She's become a fabulous, graceful, proud girl who stands up straight, looks you in the eye," he said. "And she's very warm and loving."

    Dr. Deborah Stewart, who cataloged the scars and injuries on Lilly's body at the Medical Center, testified at Horvath's 2009 trial that Lilly "was amazingly resilient."

    Even the judge was moved, describing Lilly and her sister as a "bright light" in the tragedy. Former Superior Court Judge Elena J. Duarte, who now is on the 3rd District Court of Appeal, said she was especially struck that the girls had come to Horvath's sentencing hearing to express support and ask for leniency, according to a transcript.

    Lilly still isn't sure why she did it, but she does believe that Joe got swept into his wife's furious wake.

    Lilly doesn't know whether she will speak at Friday's judgment and sentencing of her adoptive mom. Lillian Manning-Horvath entered a dual plea and will likely serve a few years first in a mental health facility for her plea to child endangerment of not guilty by reason of insanity. She pleaded guilty to the remaining 15 felony charges, for which she could receive two life terms plus about 25 years in state prison, according to the District Attorney's Office.

    Meanwhile, the daughter who bears her name is busy making plans. Lilly graduated last year from Vista Nueva Career & Technology High School in Sacramento and has attended two semesters at Sacramento City College. She is considering a career as a personal trainer and works out regularly.

    She now can almost fully extend the left arm that once was stuck at a 45-degree angle.

    Lilly said she'd like to move to New York state next month to live with her sister Natasha, who is being restationed there from Germany. She wonders if an Army career might be right for her, too.

    Money is tight. She relies on food stamps and "financial aid," but she's not quite sure of the source. While in Sacramento, she still wants to review her case files to help fill in the blanks of her childhood. She is taking her driving test Wednesday. She gets therapy.

    And, like every teen, she wants to have fun.

    "I want to go to an opera hecka bad!" she blurted out while talking about her love of music.

    Lilly recently moved into a home in the south area with a friend, just around the corner from her first foster family, Maria and Domingo Gonzalez. They took her in after the arrests.

    Maria, a 16-year foster mom whose orderly home is adorned with children's pictures, found Lilly to be angry and defiant after her arrival.

    But the Gonzalezes told the children their door would always be open.

    So Lilly stopped by the home last month and was greeted with warm hugs. She talked with them in Spanish, then raided their refrigerator.

    "I didn't expect her to go to college – and look at this," Maria Gonzalez said. "She's got a lot of dreams. She's a strong girl.[....]
    http://www.sacbee.com/2011/07/03/374...#storylink=cpy


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    We are not "meek" or "mild";
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    We'll haunt the perpetrators till they Die
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    Some very graphic pics so be prepared

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    For any quirk of fate we may arrange.
    We are not "meek" or "mild";
    Don't turn your back when twilight dims the sky -
    We'll haunt the perpetrators till they Die
    "Rescuing one animal may not change the world, but for that animal their world is changed forever!" - Unknown

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    Foster Parent Terri Lynn Cronin Charged With Child Abuse

    Infant boy twice suffered injuries in her home in St. Charles County
    ST. CHARLES COUNTY • A former St. Charles County foster parent under scrutiny after an infant nearly died in her care in 2009 now faces criminal charges.

    Terri Lynn Cronin was charged Tuesday with two counts of child abuse and two counts of second-degree assault related to her care of Shakur Casanova Knight from March through May 2009 in her home in an unincorporated area of St. Charles County. The charges carry penalties from five to 15 years in prison.

    The charges follow a Post-Dispatch investigation published this month that highlighted Shakur's injuries and how case managers at a private agency failed to follow state laws and protocols to keep the infant safe in foster care.

    State, medical and police records show the agency, Urban Behavioral HealthCare Institute, failed to report to the state Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline that the 5-week-old boy suffered a broken arm on April 12, 2009, while in Cronin's care — six weeks before he nearly died from another incident in the home.

    The newspaper found the agency failed to follow up with hospital physicians who first treated the broken arm, or report the injury to two other foster care agencies responsible for his safety.

    All of those entities could have reported the injury to the state hotline.

    Medical records show the broken arm was diagnosed as a spiral fracture — typically a red flag for child abuse in young infants.

    The newspaper further found the infant remained in the foster home even though a great-aunt had asked to be the child's foster parent after the first injury. Records show the agency dragged its feet on that placement despite a state law that favors placing foster children with appropriate and willing relatives as quickly as possible.

    On May 27, 2009, Shakur was airlifted near death to St. Louis Children's Hospital with multiple fractures and severe head injuries requiring emergency surgery.

    State, medical and police records show Cronin said she slipped in both instances at the top of her home's carpeted stairs causing the injuries. With the first injury in April, Cronin said she abruptly pulled the baby into her body when she slipped onto her behind and slid down the stairs. In the second, she said the infant popped out of her arms and fell on his head on a tiled landing.

    Although medical records show physicians concluded Shakur was a victim of child abuse, criminal charges were originally refused by the St. Charles County Prosecutor's Office. State records also show Cronin was able to have a finding of child abuse by the state Children's Division overturned through a closed citizen review panel.

    But earlier this year, while reviewing the case after a reporter's inquiry, St. Charles County Prosecutor Jack Banas asked the St. Charles County Sheriff's Department to reopen a criminal investigation.

    Banas said there were conflicting statements among Cronin's five children about what happened on May 27 in the home, and said it was clear someone had hurt the child. Banas could not be reached for comment on the new charges.

    Court records pertaining to the charges filed Tuesday cited the spiral fracture in the arm as being "highly specific" for inflicted injury in infants. The fracture also was not compatible with the explanation given by Cronin of slipping down the steps with the baby in her arms, according to records. Those court files go on to list the extent of the injuries Shakur received on May 27, including a depressed left skull fracture, severe brain swelling, placement on a ventilator, multiple subdural hemorrhages, retinal hemorrhages in both eyes, seizures and a left collarbone fracture.

    Terri Cronin could not be reached for comment, and though court records list her family as living in St. Charles County, real estate documents indicate their house was sold. State records show Terri Cronin and her husband Jeffery Cronin were licensed foster parents starting in 2006 until they voluntarily relinquished the license in September 2009.

    Shakur, now 3, has been adopted and renamed Cristofer by Lennie Bell, the great-aunt who came forward to be his foster mother when he was in the Cronin's foster home.

    Bell said Tuesday all foster and adoption agencies need to "be more careful on who they place babies with." She said she was pleased criminal charges had been filed.

    "He deserved to have his day," she said of Shakur. "Somebody is responsible for what happened to him and needs to be accountable.
    [...]
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    As Lennie Bell looks on at left, her great-nephew Cristofer Bell kisses speech pathologist Janice Lanto goodbye after therapy at St. Louis Children's Hospital on Feb. 6, 2012. Bell became Cristofer's foster mother after he was injured twice in seven weeks while in the custody of a St. Charles County foster parent. Bell renamed Cristofer, who had been born Shakur Casanova Knight
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    Cristofer Bell, who was born Shakur Casanova Knight, plays with play dough with speech pathologist Janice Lanto during a therapy session at St. Louis Children's Hospital on Feb. 6, 2012

    Cristofer Bell celebrates with speech pathologist Janice Lanto during his therapy session

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    Lightbulb Momma's Hold Your Babies Close

    As mother's we are the first line of defense in seeing our children are cared for and protected.
    Making the best possible decisions when it comes to leaving your most treasured ones with anyone is one of the most fundamental things we can do as a parent. We take out policies to protect our homes, are vehicles, and other worldly goods but yet many fail, fail entirely to take the time and common sense in leaving their children with people they know well and believe them to be trust worthy---yes, and even then, sometimes as a parent we are betrayed by ones we deemed acceptable; even family.

    Still, a simple background check can tell you far more than what person might be letting on about themselves. Even then, there are far too many times in which a mother knowingly and willingly leaves their child with a known abusive and or violent criminal as a baby sitter---a baby sitter!
    how that works into a mother's mind is beyond me.
    ---did you know that boyfriends are statistically the most likely to abuse a child? yes. sad truth.

    "Jabraylon Bayles lost a five-week fight for life having been immersed in the water and suffering injuries so severe surgeons had to remove part of his stomach"


    16 month old Jabraylon Bayles was a baby left defenseless.
    read it on the dd forums---->Toddler-Dropped-in-Boiling-Water
    Additional article here.


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    Child Abuse Signs to Look for That May Not Be Obvious
    Columbia, SC --
    April is Child Abuse Prevention Month in South Carolina and nationwide, and a spate of recent cases highlights the need for it.

    Nicole Renee Dicosola and her boyfriend, Joshua Michael Moton, are in the Spartanburg County Detention Center on child abuse charges after deputies say Moton hit or shook Dicosola's two-year-old son so violently that the child has brain damage. Doctors had to remove part of the child's skull to relieve the swelling in his brain.

    In Anderson County, 37-year-old Renita Yvette Lee is in jail and charged with abuse that investigators say left her two-year-old step-granddaughter in a coma.

    And in Kershaw County, 24-year-old Catharine Ammons and her live-in boyfriend, 27-year-old James Watson, are in jail charged with illegal neglect of a child. Deputies say her 4-year-old daughter has two broken legs, a broken arm and is bleeding internally from a lacerated liver.

    Numbers from the state Department of Social Services show that the state has seen an increase in physical abuse cases. In the fiscal year 2008-09, there were 1,498 physical abuse cases confirmed by DSS. In 2009-10, there were 1,487. But in 2010-11, that number jumped to 1,702.

    Carol Yarborough, executive director of the Dickerson Center for Children in West Columbia, says she has seen the increase. She thinks it's mainly because of parents being stressed by the economy. "We work with child abuse investigations and we also provide treatment for child abuse," she says.

    While some signs of abuse may seem obvious, like a child with a history of broken bones or other injuries that don't seem consistent with typical childhood injuries, Yarborough says you won't typically see just one thing that's an indicator of abuse.

    "It would be a cluster of things that seem wrong," she says. "The child seems to flinch whenever an adult would approach them or seems afraid or seems extra sad. If they're unkempt, if they have a lot of other things going on besides just a bruise or a scrape."

    She says research shows that most children who are abused don't tell anyone. In some cases, they're too young to tell anyone. But in others, they either don't realize that what's happening to them is wrong, they've been told by their abusers not to tell and the children are afraid of the consequences if they do, or they don't think anyone will believe them.

    If you do have suspicions, DSS says you should report them to your county DSS office or to local law enforcement.

    Yarborough says, "It really is about just trusting those instincts. [...]
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    Guns N’ Roses guitarist DJ Ashba tells emotional story of childhood abuse


    Guns N’ Roses guitarist DJ Ashba is sharing his emotional story of childhood abuse for the first time. Ashba says he was physically and mentally abused by his father from a very young age.

    “It has been hard for me as it’s something I have blocked out my whole life… I moved out when I was 16, and I never looked back,” Ashba told FOX411’s Pop Tarts column exclusively. “But if I can help just one person who is being bullied, then this is worth it. It is such an important topic, and it stays with you.”

    Ashba is embracing a new role apart from his famous rock band as the new spokesperson for the anti-bullying website, BULLYVILLE.com. “I had to get involved,” he told us. “I don’t get involved in things unless I believe in them 100 percent.”

    In a lengthy personal account to be posted on the website, Ashba details his earliest memories being “petrified” not only for his own safety, but for his mother’s too, as “every moment of every day” would depend on his dad’s mood.

    “Instead of a hug and a kiss, my morning wakeup call consisted of my dad’s fist coming through my closet door, similar to Jack Nicholson in the ‘Shining.’ The craziest part about all of this is I spent my youth years constantly trying to gain his respect,” Ashba wrote. “I even went as far as to put him on a pedestal, making him out to be some kind of hero in my undeveloped mind, just to have him beat me down time after time.”

    But the real hero, Ashba says, was his mother.

    “Looking back now realizing how she risked her own safety for my wellbeing. She was the real war hero, fearlessly putting herself in the line of fire,” he continued. “The fear was so overwhelming that I would literally pee my pants.”

    Ashba tells of the time he spent “hiding in the back of the closet, going into convulsions as if I were somehow dancing to the destructive sound,” and reflects on the time he was about three years old, and tumbled down the stairs, crying, into the room where dad sat in front of the fireplace.

    “Stockings hung from the mantle and lights shone bright through the greenery,” he recalled. “My dad stood up from the couch and sternly commanded that men don’t cry. He said, ‘you want to be a little cry baby, I’ll give you something to cry about,’ as he beat me.”

    Ashba said he has used his tumultuous past as motivation to be the best person he could be and, saying that despite everything, he has come to forgive his dad.

    “I don’t hate him, I don’t wish anything bad on him – nobody gives you a handbook on how to be a father,” Ashba added. “I don’t know what to expect (from him) now that I have told my story, and I don’t really care. This time it is about me, not him.”

    A source close to Ashba says he and his estranged father have recently started texting once in a while to work towards resolving their differences, and that the father has come to see him at performances.

    Ashba’s father could not be reached for comment, but his current wife, reached on the phone, denied any knowledge of him having abused his son.

    Ashba says that while he is working to mend family fences,“Anger sort of fuels the fire that keeps me going inside, and in a way, success today really comes from seeking approval that I never got when I was little. But no matter how big or successful you become, there is always a hole in your heart.

    “I’m lucky that I am in a position where I have a voice, I can step up and bring awareness, and I wanted to share my story and be a spokesperson for Bullyville because it provides an online community and a place for people getting bullied to get help and understand they aren’t alone…
    [...]
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    KANSAS CITY, Mo. - More than 100 tombstones were on display Wednesday to honor victims of child abuse and neglect.

    The presentation is put up every year to mark child abuse prevention month. Operation Breakthrough serves more than 500 Kansas City children every day to ensure they have nutritious meals and a safe place to go. The goal is to raise awareness.

    They say the key to stopping abuse and neglect is education.

    “It’s said in our society, you have to get a license to have a dog,” said Jackson County Sheriff Mike Sharp. “You have to a license to fish, but you don’t have to have a license or any kind of training to be a parent.

    “And I think we missed the boat there. I think we miss an opportunity to teach people to be good parents.”
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    Awareness video from dreamcatcher for abused children
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    Evil has a wholesome, hometown face,
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    Evil walks among us, wearing a mask
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    Father sent to prison for shaking a baby so badly she may never fully recover

    Michael David Suchodolski appears for his sentencing at Kent County Circuit Tuesday, April 24, 2012. Suchodolski was convicted of abusing his infant daughter, Karmen Johnson
    GRAND RAPIDS, MI – Karmen Suchodolski got less than three weeks of life as a fully-able child before her enraged father shook her so violently, she cannot even take food from a bottle.

    Michael David Suchodolski was sentenced today to five to 15 years in prison after Kent County Circuit Judge Donald Johnston heard from Karmen’s mother about the extent of her injuries suffered Oct. 5.

    “She will not be a normal baby,” said Samantha Johnson, the mother of the now 6-month-old infant. “She can’t move her arms or her legs normally.”

    “She may never recover,” Johnson said as the 26-year-old father watched from the other side of the courtroom in Kent County Jail garb and handcuffs.

    Johnson said the baby is fed through a tube, has to wear glasses and has to have physical therapy. Johnson now refers to the baby as Karmen Johnson, although court records list her last name the same as her father's.

    Courtesy PhotoKarmen Suchodolski

    According to police, Karmen suffered a fractured skull and bleeding of the brain after being shaken.

    Johnson said her other children are devastated both by the injuries suffered by their little sister and the absence of their father. She said they ask about their father and she struggles to come up with an explanation.

    Johnson said Karmen’s older brother is now frightened of men, even his uncles, as a result of the abuse of his baby sister.

    Suchodolski offered little in the way of explanation for his behavior. Johnson said he was upset because he wanted a son not a daughter.

    Last month, he pleaded guilty to first-degree child abuse.

    “I’m just really sorry for everything that’s happened,” was all Suchodolski said as the mother of his two children wept.
    [...]
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    Samantha Johnson, middle, reacts after giving a victim statement against Michael David Suchodolski at Kent County Circuit Tuesday, April 24, 2012. Suchodolski was convicted of abusing their infant daughter, Karmen Johnson
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    FFS, Suchodolski had a son already. WTF is wrong with guys like that? Why would a woman love and marry a man like that? He looks like a skinhead already, all he needs are a bunch more tats on his fugly face.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tundratot View Post
    FFS, Suchodolski had a son already. WTF is wrong with guys like that? Why would a woman love and marry a man like that? He looks like a skinhead already, all he needs are a bunch more tats on his fugly face.
    oh, I so agree. And a big o target tats to the head so whomever gets to chance to smash his skull in will do so repeatedly.
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    Remembering Lea Sophie


    AUTOPSY RESULTS
    Lea-Sophie died a horrible death by starvation
    22.November 2007 - Source: German News-Headlines

    The five-year girl from Schwerin, which was recovered yesterday in an apartment by ambulance and then died in a hospital, was dramatically undernourished and suffering from dehydration. This resulted in the autopsy. The child's parents have failed to anscheinden to supply according to her daughter.

    The five-Lea-Sophie in Schwerin is painfully starved and thirsty. For months, the parents have their child "does not adequately and properly fed," said chief prosecutor Hans-Christian Pick.


    Finally, Lea-Sophie have weighed only 7.4 kilograms, 20 would have been normal. The girl had consisted only of skin and bone and also exhibited established ulcers.Traces of violence had not been identified.


    Against the arrest warrant was sought because of parents' community manslaughter. In Schwerin, the message triggered by the death of the child from terror. Also sharp criticism of the work of the authorities was loud.

    According to a report of the Schwerin Volkszeitung, citing a doctor have been in the child hunger edema and open wounds found on the body, the hairs are in tufts failed. The girl must have lain for days in feces. A five year old girl should, according to doctors 15 to 20 kilograms of weight. The weight of the child, then, rather corresponded to that of an infant. The 23-year-old mother and 26 years old father had been arrested because of the urgent suspicion of homicide by omission.
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    That story sickens me. The sentence also sickens me. Those two parents neglected and starved their little girl deliberately after their baby boy was born, despite the fact they could muster the energy to feed their pets? It was absolutely deliberate and that just proves it. Then, they protest in a letter on her grave they don't know what happened? Oh, sure.

    I'm curious about two things, though. One, the parents in this case--contrary to so many we see here on the D'D--are not fatties themselves. Two, who saw this little girl just as she lay dying and reported it? If the family was not hiding her from the world, why didn't someone report her sooner?
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