Parenting Tip #5,273: How To Make Sure Kids Don't Miss The Bus

[Dakota Valkyrie]

An Orlando mother faces a charge of cruelty toward a child after her 16-year-old daughter told police she lit a piece of paper on fire and pushed it through a hole in her bedroom door, setting a chair on fire.

Adriene Latrice Ashley, 32, was arrested Wednesday morning by Orlando police at her home in the 4400 block of Crossroads Court.

According to an arrest affidavit, the girl said she was getting ready for school about 7:45 a.m. when her mother came to the door and told her to come out. She said she told her mother she wasn't ready and Ashley became upset and started yelling.

The girl said her mother knocked the door knob off and punched a hole in the door, so she pushed a chair in front of the door to prevent her mother from entering her room.

When her mother pushed the burning paper through the door, it landed on the chair, setting it on fire, she told officers.

She said she used a cup of water to put the fire out.

Ashley told officers she was afraid her daughter was going to miss her bus and her daughter became verbally abusive toward her, calling her "stupid" and "petty."

http://articles.orlandosentinel.com/...s-court-mother

[CbabyRKO]

Wow Mom. I think your daughter kinda won that argument. The truth like an unexpected poke in the bung hole hurts but you get over it. Setting your daughter's room on fire and quite possibly killing her? Yeah that'll take a little longer to get over...
I bet next time she'll just let the girl miss the bus and walk her but to school!

[malq]

Damn! I almost disliked this thread. That hambeast popped up on my screen and I sharted a little bit.

[TheMeaningOfItAll]

Oh, my! Posts like this make me dread the teen years with my three girls. Listen, if I tell them to get their asses ready and on the bus, they'd better be ready to go. As for pushing the lit piece of paper through the door, I just see it as a dumb mom who was at her wits end. Not okay, but I bet her daughter will think twice next time she smarts off to her mom...once mom gets out of jail, that is.

ETA: I can totally picture this pissed off mom saying, "I'll show you stupid, you little brat..." and then shoving the flaming paper through the door. Yep, that's stupid alright.

[Dakota Valkyrie]

Oh, my! Posts like this make me dread the teen years with my three girls. Listen, if I tell them to get their asses ready and on the bus, they'd better be ready to go.

Having gone through the teens 6 times, I can tell you it is a "trial" with some kids. Others are no problem. BUT if you lay the groundwork from infancy on up, the "trials" you face probably won't be anywhere near as bad as trying to get a teen to straighten out that has never been guided in the first place.

You'll only FEEL like you want to set their rooms on fire... not actually do it.

[cubby]

The only advice I got is to say what you mean and mean what you say, don't threaten something you know you'll never follow thru on, like screaming something like if you don't straighten up I'm gonna knock you into next week, you know you're not gonna do that and the kid knows you're not gonna do that, so make your threats more realistic and then DO IT~! Have fun with it and them!!! LOL

[TheMeaningOfItAll]

Having gone through the teens 6 times, I can tell you it is a "trial" with some kids. Others are no problem. BUT if you lay the groundwork from infancy on up, the "trials" you face probably won't be anywhere near as bad as trying to get a teen to straighten out that has never been guided in the first place.

You'll only FEEL like you want to set their rooms on fire... not actually do it.

Amen. I took the three girls to a doctor appointment for my oldest today and we had to go to several places in the hospital and everywhere I went people were complimenting me on how well-behaved they were. My youngest was messing with this thing on one of the lady's desk and all it took was "the look" and she put it back. They know I don't put up with that kind of stuff. You can act like a typical kid, sure, but you had better follow my rules and boundaries or there will be consequences. I have left grocery stores, malls, movies, etc. when they misbehave. It is usually around the two or three year old age. It's only taken once or twice for them to know I mean business. I think every mom has felt so helpless at one point or another that she just doesn't know what to do with her misbehaving child. That's where the wit and grit part comes in. Hubby and I say being parents is like the theme from Survivor: Outwit, Outlast, Outplay.

[cubby]

Outwit, Outlast, Outplay, Perfect!

My ex couldn't understand why the kids took advantage of him so much, it was because he would threaten to kill them then ignore them the rest of the time or just give up and give in. when you don't follow thru or just give in without even trying, of course they know you for the sap you are. My boys got around me some but they had to work harder at it cause I was harder to get around. Nobody was innocent until proven guilty, at my house there was just the caught and the uncaught. LOL