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    Judge Allows Underage Couple To Marry; Her Parents Not Given Chance To Object

    Without hearing their side, a Franklin County judge stripped a Westerville couple of their parental rights this week by allowing their 17-year-old daughter to marry her boyfriend against their wishes.

    "The judge stole my daughter," said Elizabeth "Lisa" Squeglia. "I'm outraged. I can't even mother her. I can't say 'goodnight' to her. I can't hold her. I can't hug her. I can't give her any advice."

    Gabrielle Squeglia, who is 17 and about two months pregnant, was married after a court hearing on Tuesday to Dustin Mitchell Goldman, also 17.

    The marriage effectively emancipates the teens from their parents. Each turns 18 in a few months.

    But those are crucial months, Mrs. Squeglia said. She said she'd prefer to help her daughter establish her independence and seek counseling at this time.

    The decision by Probate Judge Alan S. Acker is unusual, legal experts said. But the boy's father called the judge's actions "courageous."

    According to Acker's ruling, Gabrielle believed she would be forced to have an abortion if she remained at home.
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    Mrs. Squeglia said she discovered that her daughter had married about 2:15p.m. Tuesday when she arrived at Westerville North High School, where both teens are seniors. Gabrielle wasn't at her usual pickup spot, so the mother went to the office.

    The principal, who'd heard that the couple had married, phoned the judge; Acker confirmed it.

    Acker did not return phone calls or e-mails requesting comment for this story. But his ruling says he relied solely on the testimony of the teenagers and the groom's parents, Goldman and his wife, Kelli.
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    According to Acker's entry, testimony demonstrated that "Gabrielle is currently living in a volatile home where Gabrielle fears for her and her unborn child's physical and mental health and safety."

    Gabrielle's parents said they were never told of a hearing and never got to tell their side.

    Acker's ruling says, "Testimony was given that both Gabrielle and the principal and social worker at Westerville North High School have contacted Children Services several times out of concern for Gabrielle's safety and well-being."

    The school district did make a report - once - to Franklin County Children Services on Oct. 1, spokesman Greg Viebranz said, adding that they have a duty to report any claim of abuse. Mrs. Squeglia said her daughter recently made the claim to a school social worker.

    But Children Services dismissed the complaint Oct. 7.

    Kathyrn Mercer, a family-law expert at Case Western Reserve University's law school, found it strange that Acker didn't allow the girl's parents to address allegations before issuing his decision.

    She also questioned why the court wouldn't refer the case to Children Services or Juvenile Court if Acker had thought that the girl was in danger.
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    Goldman said that he and his wife are supporting the young couple, who are living with them, doing well in school and planning to attend college.

    Daniel Squeglia said his wife has never hit or threatened their daughter, and said they didn't want her to marry before she turns 18 in January.

    His wife said she never pushed her daughter toward an abortion and recently saw a priest for guidance.The Rev. Michael Watson, of St. Andrew Church in Upper Arlington, confirmed that Mrs. Squeglia phoned Wednesday, worried that her daughter had married so young and asking for help.
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    "I'm outraged. I can't even mother her. I can't say 'goodnight' to her. I can't hold her. I can't hug her. I can't give her any advice."
    I'm not sure where this woman is coming from on those statements. I do all those things to my daughters and they are well over 18.

    I think the judge probably did the right thing but in the wrong way. I doubt hearing from her parents would have changed much... but they should have been given the chance.
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    One of the things we had to learn in Ethics of Medicine is that having a baby will emancipate the teen automatically. Now it begs the question, is that before or after actually giving birth?

    I get the feeling that this mother wanted to corner her daughter into abortion and this judge effectively blocked her path to putting her will on her daughter. Last I checked getting married does not prevent hugs, kisses and conversations. Some parents just need to stop trying to be control freaks in their kids lives and allow them the consequences of their actions, good or bad.

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    i'm on the fence about this one...

    on one hand the girl was pregnant and just a few months away from being 18

    on the other hand, the boy's parents facilitated the marriage without consulting her parents which is a pretty shady move on their part

    i really don't know how i would react if it was my daughter...i think i would feel more betrayed by the other parents than anything
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    Quote Originally Posted by HijabiGirl View Post
    One of the things we had to learn in Ethics of Medicine is that having a baby will emancipate the teen automatically. Now it begs the question, is that before or after actually giving birth?
    i was 17 when i became pregnant with my son...i was emancipated while pregnant...i was able to apply and receive medicaid, food stamps, and WIC on my own and i was able to get utilities in my name as well...all before i turned 18...(i'm in NC though, don't know about other states)
    where's the Bold Fairy when you need him? I just KNOW you all are pointing & laughing at me in the "point & laugh" thread that I can no longer see!! :(

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    The girl could have just as easily filed for emancipation on her own (but for what point since they were going to marry). If the hearing was "ex parte", then only one side (the girls) would have been heard. Although it probably would not even have hit the courts before her birthday unless it was declared an "emergency".

    On further thinking about it, the girl did what was closer to "right" than other methods. She could have just run away and hid out until her birthday. If found, she could have battled from within the juvenile system. The route this young couple took is at least more responsible.

    Too bad the mom views it as "all about me".
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    why is this news?

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    Quote Originally Posted by hellsbells View Post
    why is this news?
    Because her mommy is throwing a hissy fit. It takes all sorts.

    Just in time for Halloween! Scare all the parents!
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    I'm thinking we ought to be hearing this kid's name later, as front page material. Something tells me that there is going to be a later custody dispute between paternal grandparents and this couple.
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    "I'm outraged. I can't even mother her. I can't say 'goodnight' to her. I can't hold her. I can't hug her. I can't give her any advice

    Mom sure cared about herself a lot. Perhaps if she had provided proper guidance to her daughter earlier this would not be a problem. Obviously the girl felt like she couldn't rely on her own family so she did what she had to do. I did think in some states that once you became pregnant and you were over the age of 16 you could choose to get married with out consent. If she turns 18 in a couple of months, she is already pregnant with this mans child, why try to stop the marraige. I think the couple was doing the responsible thing.
    I remember a 14 year old girl that got married after her 2nd child. We were in 9th grade at the time!!!! Her parents gave consent.
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