Anthony George did not do a good job babysitting triplets while mom was at bingo

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 03:19 PM

Headline has a huge typo on the website. You know I email reported it. LOL

Anyway poor kids and whythefuck was mom at bingo letting boyfriend babysit??!??!!? This story kinda sounds a little weird to me. I need more details

PITTSBURGH (AP) November 30, 2009 -- A set of 2-year-old triplet girls were injured, one of them critically, when they fell down the stairs at their home "domino-effect" style while wearing plastic high-heeled shoes, the children's baby sitter said.

The 20-year-old boyfriend of the triplets' mother was watching the girls Sunday night while she was out playing bingo, police spokeswoman Diane Richard said Monday.

The boyfriend told police that he noticed the girls following him up the 14-step staircase and he told them to go back down the steps of the Pittsburgh home.

The triplets were wearing high heels when the toddler nearest the top of the stairs fell, knocking the second child into the third, the boyfriend told police. The boyfriend told police that one of the toddlers fell to the landing below, and she was the most seriously injured, Richard said.

When police arrived at the house at about 8:15 p.m. Sunday, one of the triplets was not breathing. All three were taken to the Childrens Hospital of Pittsburgh where two were treated for bruises and a cut lip and released after an overnight evaluation. The third was listed Monday in "very critical condition with head trauma," Richard said.

The Sex Assault and Family Crisis unit of the Pittsburgh police is investigating. No charges have been filed against the boyfriend or the triplets' 25-year-old mother, Richard said.

http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?se...cal&id=7145409

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 03:21 PM

video at link

http://www.wpxi.com/video/21758418/index.html

**lundwall1** · November 30th, 2009, 05:30 PM

Interesting, curious to see how this turns out?

**ImmortalOne** · November 30th, 2009, 05:53 PM

Originally Posted by thequeenofsorrow

Anyway poor kids and whythefuck was mom at bingo letting boyfriend babysit??!??!!?

Why was boyfriend babysitting while mom was at Bingo? WTF seriously you have to fucking ask that?

The word MOM/MOTHER/MOMMY does NOT mean "Stuck in the house all the time". Period. The title Mom/Mommy/Mother does NOT mean "You have no life and every waking moment should be keeping an eye on your child and never letting someone near him or her."

She had a RIGHT to fucking leave the house and leave the kids with him if she thought he could take care of them. *Groan* If he has never done anything or has been responsible for these three little ones before what's the big fucking deal?

They got hurt... OF COURSE THEY DID! Toddlers fall, Toddlers bump themselves, Toddlers get hurt... Of course they are the masters of doing it all on their own too! Mine is constantly telling me about her owies and I AM a Stay at Home Mom... Mine fell down 5 stairs just the other day - does that mean I should have been right there to catch her? Really?

*MAYBE* the boyfriend did something to these little girls -MAYBE- but there is no proof of that at this time. Not every male that is in a child's life is going to hurt the kid. Not every "non-biological" male is going to rape, maim, abuse or otherwise kill a child. If that were the case - damn ALL SINGLE PARENTS BETTER NEVER DATE AGAIN!

14 stairs is a long way to fall. Especially with other kids knocking down on top of you.

**thebooblady** · November 30th, 2009, 06:43 PM

BABY GATES..two if they can climb over one.

**ImmortalOne** · November 30th, 2009, 07:01 PM

Originally Posted by thebooblady

BABY GATES..two if they can climb over one.

There is a flaw with baby gates and stairs. Most baby gates are made for the top of the stairs... very few for the bottom (unless you use a "play yard" style - which isn't reliable if they are over 2 anyway).. We had this issue ourselves, our upstairs and downstairs are "connected" with the living room basically being a huge landing. The options are horrid for that.

**MC30** · November 30th, 2009, 07:51 PM

i feel bullshit here. And ONLY because while i was growing up (granted between the ages of 3-7) we lived in a townhouse apartment and i swear i fell down those stairs at least 6 times...not to mention the everlasting bruses on my shins from hitting them climbing up the stairs. after we moved out of there we move to a second level apartment where there were cement stairs, a landing, and then more stairs. and yes, i fell down them as well. off the patio, onto the landing, and down the other set.my knee was bloody and i had a huge (i mean HUGE) bruse covering my thigh that concerned my mom so much she took me to the Dr. They asked if anyone had hit me, i said no, i had just gotten my cabbage patch twins and was showing them to the neighbor...ect...ect. although i was less graceful then that adv. kid, i doubt i was built any different. just from that, i have a hard time buyin' this.

**thebooblady** · November 30th, 2009, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by ImmortalOne

There is a flaw with baby gates and stairs. Most baby gates are made for the top of the stairs... very few for the bottom (unless you use a "play yard" style - which isn't reliable if they are over 2 anyway).. We had this issue ourselves, our upstairs and downstairs are "connected" with the living room basically being a huge landing. The options are horrid for that.

Why is the bottom any different than the top? Just curious because my friends and family that have stairs have them at both and didn't have any problems. My brother has the plastic ones made by Safety First mounted to the wall at both areas and my friend across the street some white metal ones.

**myowndisaster23** · November 30th, 2009, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by thebooblady

Why is the bottom any different than the top? Just curious because my friends and family that have stairs have them at both and didn't have any problems. My brother has the plastic ones made by Safety First mounted to the wall at both areas and my friend across the street some white metal ones.

Most baby gates have to be wedged between two flat surfaces, in many cases stairs don't end with two walls, it is usually a wall and the edge of a banister or the just the railing. This can make it difficult to find a gate that you can safely secure. this was the problem my best friend had with her 1 year old and their new apartment. Also, the end of the railing at the bottom of the stairs had gaps big enough for even my three year old to fit through so the kids would constantly find a way to get around the gate and up the stairs. Ugh, this is why I don't have stairs... I would never rest!

**ImmortalOne** · November 30th, 2009, 10:12 PM

Originally Posted by thebooblady

Why is the bottom any different than the top? Just curious because my friends and family that have stairs have them at both and didn't have any problems. My brother has the plastic ones made by Safety First mounted to the wall at both areas and my friend across the street some white metal ones.

As someone else said there isn't a solid wall to wedge and use spring loading for the baby gate. In the case of mine... I have 1 wall for both sets. So my stairs kinda do... || | . (Wall, metal railing with small spindles, flat angled surface the same height as the stairs)...

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 10:19 PM

Ummm. calm. down.
I would not let some 20 year old kid watch my kids so I could go gamble. Sorry. If she really felt the need, go after they're in bed. I haven't left my 1 year old alone other than to go to doctor appointments since she was born. As a mother with older kids (9 and almost 11) I realize the time they are little is very short and I am happy to spend as many moments as I can with my little one. Yes I am a Stay at Home mom too.

I think the story is odd. I fell down this many steps and so did my 9 year old as an infant and she only got a bloody lip and I got one bruise.

Did the boyfriend really think that telling 3 2 year olds to go back down stairs would really work? What was so important that he was gonna leave them downstairs alone?

I don't really think it's worth it to get all bold/capital letters. Sheesh. Opinions are like assholes. I explained why I felt the way I did and I'm not freaking the fuck out back.

P.S. I was a single parent for a few years too. I never said not to date or that any male would hurt kids but fuck SHE made the 3 kids I doubt homedude was too happy about being the babysitter since he was willing to leave 3 2 year olds downstairs alone......

I want more details.

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 10:30 PM

It seems like perhaps some force may have been used, being pushed down the stairs, the video said they will not disclose whether drugs or alcohol was involved. Perhaps he wanted to be alone to puff and they followed and he got angered. They usually don't say they won't disclose if drugs and alcohol were a factor unless it was indeed a factor.

I juat want more details. I want the baby girl to be ok. There's been no updates that I can find.

Again just speculation until more details are released. There's no names given yet so I'm not hurting anyone by speculating...

**twinklestars** · November 30th, 2009, 10:45 PM

I agree every mom needs a break and if Bingo was her break time from TRIPLETS! so be it, at least she wasn't shooting meth or selling the girls.

But the whole "very critical condition with head trauma" is not sitting to well with me. Like maybe he beat the crap outta this one girl then pushed them all down the stairs to make it look accidental. Just seems fishy but I will again hope it's "just and accident".

**theskyisfalling** · November 30th, 2009, 11:15 PM

Were these outdoor stairs or indoor stairs?

I know when I lived in the projects the stairs up to my apartment on the second floor were lethal. Solid concrete all of em' and solid concrete to land on if you fell. There were only ten stairs, but I'm telling ya man if I would have fallen or one of my children then it would have been lights out.

And no...I am not implying that they live in the projects. It says a home. What kind of a home? Where? Because if those were stairs like the ones I had then yeah, it could be legit.

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 11:18 PM

picture of the home at the video link above

**ImmortalOne** · November 30th, 2009, 11:34 PM

Originally Posted by thequeenofsorrow

Ummm. calm. down.
I would not let some 20 year old kid watch my kids so I could go gamble. Sorry. If she really felt the need, go after they're in bed. I haven't left my 1 year old alone other than to go to doctor appointments since she was born. As a mother with older kids (9 and almost 11) I realize the time they are little is very short and I am happy to spend as many moments as I can with my little one. Yes I am a Stay at Home mom too.

You haven't once had a babysitter so you could have a night out away to be with adults? Really? Are you still sane? I ask this seriously because while time passes quickly (oh I do know that) - parents and adults need adult interaction and "Me Time" no matter how good a parent they are. In fact such "Me Time" is sometimes very crucial to the ability to properly parent.

Also, Bingo is different than going out to the damn Casino. Who is saying the mom isn't 18-22 years old anyway? At least she was going to Bingo (which is -usually- a church function) and not out all night at the bar or something.

I was a 17 year old mother on my own. I met my first husband and he fully stood in and "babysat" and everything for my oldest daughter before he was 20. Was that wrong? Nope.

I think the story is odd. I fell down this many steps and so did my 9 year old as an infant and she only got a bloody lip and I got one bruise.

Stairs of any kind are dangerous (indoor, outdoor, 2 steps, 20 steps). Period. Some people break limbs on 3-5 stairs. Some people break their neck on 5-10 steps. Some people stub their toes and others have no ill effects. In this case we have 3 children tumbling down the stairs makes sense if they landed on one of them. (ie the bottom child is the one that is most hurt).

Did the boyfriend really think that telling 3 2 year olds to go back down stairs would really work? What was so important that he was gonna leave them downstairs alone?

Sometimes, mind you only sometimes, telling my Itty Bit to "Go downstairs" works. Especially if I tell her to go watch TV etc. So yeah - it could've really 'worked'.

Why did he not want them up the stairs... hmmm, I go up my stairs to my next level all the time and leave my little one in the middle level of the house. Sometimes (like in my home) the only bathroom is up there and maybe he wanted to take a shit in peace (damn him if that was the case huh?). Maybe he was going to go have a cigarette, and isn't smoking around the kids.

I don't really think it's worth it to get all bold/capital letters. Sheesh. Opinions are like assholes. I explained why I felt the way I did and I'm not freaking the fuck out back.

P.S. I was a single parent for a few years too. I never said not to date or that any male would hurt kids but fuck SHE made the 3 kids I doubt homedude was too happy about being the babysitter since he was willing to leave 3 2 year olds downstairs alone......

I want more details.

What got me is how you insisted that the mother basically give up her entire life for the child and how dare she have something outside the home to do. People have lives outside of their families, healthy lives. Fathers go out bowling, fishing, hunting. Mothers go out shopping, coffee, to the gym, etc without their children. There was not a damn thing wrong with that. Just because people become parents does not mean that their lives outside of their families and homes are over.

As far as "homedude" not being too happy about being a babysitter... You don't know that. You do not know what happened. That is what bugged me so much. That homedude could be the best thing that ever happened to those kids and treats them like gold yet because an accident happened you are judging him and the mother? You don't know if he's been in their lives as a father figure from the day that they came home from the hospital or anything else.

Hell my 16 year old isn't all too happy about being a babysitter on demand (99% of the time without a choice), but does that mean she's going to hurt the toddler? Hell no.

Again - I am not saying the guy is innocent and I am not saying he is guilty. But damn if we aren't living in glass houses sometimes here. Sometimes people make mistakes. Sometimes accidents (yes accidents) happen. This world isn't perfect, this site proves that. This guy is proven to be the child abusing asshole we so often see - well then I will fully be in line with everyone else in what a jackass he is, etc. However till then - no.

**thequeenofsorrow** · November 30th, 2009, 11:49 PM

Nope I haven't had a babysitter in 14 months and I'm ok with that. Until my kids are older, it's my job. I don't regret it. I was a mom at 17, too.

As far as the rest of the story goes, I'm not saying anything else until I know more. I was simply speculating and I'm leaving it at that. They could be the two most wonderful freaking people in the whole fuckin world. As a person who had some major issues growing up NO I don't let ANYONE watch my children except one of my parents. No boyfriend, no friend, no babysitter NOTHING. Yes I am sane I simply don't want my kids to have anything like what happened to me happened to them. The older kids, ok, they can tell me what goes on but not my baby. You can judge and call me insane and whatever but I'm not taking a chance with anyone.

I HOPE these two are great people but I get the feeling they're not. I may be very wrong.

**ImmortalOne** · November 30th, 2009, 11:51 PM

Originally Posted by thequeenofsorrow

Nope I haven't had a babysitter in 14 months and I'm ok with that. Until my kids are older, it's my job. I don't regret it. I was a mom at 17, too.

As far as the rest of the story goes, I'm not saying anything else until I know more. I was simply speculating and I'm leaving it at that. They could be the two most wonderful freaking people in the whole fuckin world. As a person who had some major issues growing up NO I don't let ANYONE watch my children except one of my parents. No boyfriend, no friend, no babysitter NOTHING. Yes I am sane I simply don't want my kids to have anything like what happened to me happened to them. The older kids, ok, they can tell me what goes on but not my baby. You can judge and call me insane and whatever but I'm not taking a chance with anyone.

I HOPE these two are great people but I get the feeling they're not. I may be very wrong.

I didn't say you were insane - I asked if you were still sane. I understand that for some people they don't leave their children's side... To me that isn't healthy (mentally, emotionally, emotionally).

**OMalley** · December 1st, 2009, 12:50 AM

Just sayin':
When I was 3 yrs old, I used to fall down the stairs all the time. Don't ask me why, the hall light was always off and when I left my room at night to go to my Mom's room, I fell down the stairs. Carpeted, but nothing ever happened to me other than a few bruises. My son fell down our carpeted stairs when he was 4 & broke his collar bone.

So I don't know what's going on with these people. I can't blame the mother for wanting a night out and hell, it was only bingo. Hopefully she thought her boyfriend was equipped to care for the kids. The injuries do seem a bit severe, but then again there were 3 of them on the stairs. I hope that this was just a terrible accident and that all the kids heal quickly & completely!

**ImmortalOne** · December 1st, 2009, 12:55 AM

Originally Posted by OMalley

Just sayin':
When I was 3 yrs old, I used to fall down the stairs all the time. Don't ask me why, the hall light was always off and when I left my room at night to go to my Mom's room, I fell down the stairs. Carpeted, but nothing ever happened to me other than a few bruises. My son fell down our carpeted stairs when he was 4 & broke his collar bone.

I have a 12 year old... who used to fall down the stairs on a regular basis... like 1-3 times a day... I kid you not! From the time she was around 3 till even now... she's also the child that walked into a middle bar between two doors in the school!

**AussieMum** · December 1st, 2009, 06:08 AM

My child fell down carpeted indoor stairs about 2 years ago. It was about 6 steps that she fell. It was a complete accident and one of those 'freak' things. Life has changed for her since then. She sustained a very slight brain injury that hopefully will not affect her long term ... but could.

Anyhow, my point is... its really about how you fall, what you hit on the one down, at what angle etc. you could fall down 20 steps and get up and walk away. Alternatively you could fall down 1 step, whack your head the exact wrong way and pass away.

So in the case of these sweet triplets I'll wait for more info.

But I do hope and pray the little ones all recover fully and no foul play was involved.

**thebooblady** · December 1st, 2009, 08:17 AM

Originally Posted by myowndisaster23

Most baby gates have to be wedged between two flat surfaces, in many cases stairs don't end with two walls, it is usually a wall and the edge of a banister or the just the railing. This can make it difficult to find a gate that you can safely secure. this was the problem my best friend had with her 1 year old and their new apartment. Also, the end of the railing at the bottom of the stairs had gaps big enough for even my three year old to fit through so the kids would constantly find a way to get around the gate and up the stairs. Ugh, this is why I don't have stairs... I would never rest!

Oh, neither of theirs had 2 walls at the bottom. The gates were affixed to the banister. I'm not sure if they had to make any modifications to it though and that would probably not go over too well in an apartment.

**ineedanap** · December 1st, 2009, 10:18 AM

You haven't once had a babysitter so you could have a night out away to be with adults? Really? Are you still sane?

Count me in on the no babysitter's club. Lauren is 3.5 and I have left her with my mom or my husband's mom for short periods, but certainly not to go to play bingo or to a bar or anything. I am still mostly sane.

**skeptik** · December 1st, 2009, 12:45 PM

First baby sitter I ever had was maybe 2 months ago. Bebe is 19 months now.

I am not sane.

**koochie** · December 1st, 2009, 12:48 PM

Originally Posted by ineedanap

Count me in on the no babysitter's club. Lauren is 3.5 and I have left her with my mom or my husband's mom for short periods, but certainly not to go to play bingo or to a bar or anything. I am still mostly sane.

aidan is 6, graham 1....they go to nanna during the day (aidan to school) then i am home with them unless they go visit their other nanna..i have gone out 3x in the last 6 yrs...i just dont have the desire to be without them

**Pene784** · December 1st, 2009, 01:23 PM

I have never hired a babysitter. Usually my mom, my mother in law, sister or my husbands aunt will watch my daughter if I need a sitter. Having said that I do not see a problem with hiring a babysitter as long as you know them well. I would do it if I had not been blessed with a lot of great women in my family. I want, no need a night out with my husband to keep our marraige strong and steady. That is a gift I give to my child, a mom and dad that love each other and her.

**thehesbomb** · December 1st, 2009, 01:43 PM

No babysitter here, either. He's 2 now and has never been watched by anyone other than me, hubby, my mom or my sister. And I like it that way. Everyone that cares for him is 100% invested in his well-being.

**Nell** · December 1st, 2009, 02:13 PM

I'm gonna split the difference here and agree with you both. Moms, especially young moms, need to get out without the kids once in awhile. And yes, accidents happen, so until i hear more i can't say for sure that he did anything bad to the kids.

I have had babysitters for my kids. And not only my family, because let me tell you, family is not always the best. I have seen on this site where family nuts out and kills babies. The uncle that shook his niece to death, anyone remember that? I find no fault in getting a babysister you checked out and trust. That doesn't make you a bad parent. Just like not fully trusting your 3 toddlers alone with a new very young boyfriend doesn't make you a bad parent either. It is a choice. One i bet she is rethinking right now.