Ibrahim Kibayasi kills his baby for having diarrhea

**thequeenofsorrow** · September 14th, 2009, 09:49 AM

Bond Denied For Father Charged With Murdering Baby

Bond was denied Friday for a northwest suburban man charged with murdering his 5-month-old son, who died Wednesday afternoon of blunt head trauma caused from child abuse.

Dylan Kibayasi of 1714 Sable Ln. in Mount Prospect was pronounced dead at 12:41 p.m. Wednesday at Advocate Lutheran General Hospital in Park Ridge, according to the Cook County Medical Examiner's office.

An autopsy conducted Friday revealed Dylan died from a subdural hematoma caused by blunt head trauma as a result of child abuse, and his death was ruled a homicide, the medical examiner's office said.

First-degree murder charges were filed Friday against the boy's father, Ibrahim Kibayasi, according to Cook County State's Attorney's office spokeswoman Tandra Simonton. He was denied bond by Judge Bridget Hughes.

The alleged abuse happened on Sept. 3 at the Mount Prospect home Ibrahim Kibayasi shared with his wife and Dylan. Ibrahim, a stay-at-home dad, was taking care of Dylan while his mother was at work when the baby developed diarrhea, which caused multiple diaper changes, court records indicated.

At about 3:30 p.m., his father became angry and started yelling at the baby. He picked Dylan up and shook him multiple times, jerking his head back and forth as he shook him, prosecutors allege. He then threw the baby onto the bed.

He immediately saw Dylan's eyes roll back in his head and noticed the baby was having trouble breathing. He attempted to perform CPR but couldn't because Dylan's nose was bleeding, court records said.

He then drove to pick up his wife, the boy's mother, from work without telling her what had occurred. She immediately noticed the baby's eyes rolled back and called 911, according to court records.

The boy suffered a seizure on the way to the hospital and was initally admitted to Lutheran General in critical condition, court records said. Doctors in the emergency room said the boy suffered a subdural hematoma, as well as a retinal hemorrhage caused by shaken baby syndrome. Tests also indicated the boy had three healing rib fractures, consistent with being tightly squeezed.

Ibrahim Kibayasi gave a videotaped statement to police, indicating he violently shook the baby even though he knew he should not. He told police he grabbed the boy by the midsection and lightly squeezed him out of anger a few weeks prior and did not tell the boy's mother, court records said.

Ibrahim Kibayasi, 29, was originally arrested by Mount Prospect police on Monday and charged with aggravated battery of a child, police said.

He has no criminal history but is considered a flight risk because he was in the United States on a student visa which expired seven years ago. He is originally from Tanzania, court records indicate.

DCFS spokesman Kendall Marlowe said the agency is investigating Dylan's death. The agency had received what Marlowe called "unfounded allegations of abuse" against both parents in June. There are no other children in the home, he said.

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Poor child. I suppose a 5 month old should be potty trained and should have just walked himself to the bathroom and handled the poop situation.

**Little Pea** · September 14th, 2009, 07:32 PM

Oh that poor baby. He was already sick.

What a monster.

**Kimberix** · September 14th, 2009, 08:12 PM

stupid fuck at five months...thats pretty much what all their shits are.

**drkeegee** · September 14th, 2009, 08:21 PM

Now, I KNOW there are great stay-at-home dads. One of my in-laws is one - a very good one. But it seems a LOT of these stories have this phrase in them

Dylan. Ibrahim, a stay-at-home dad

**thequeenofsorrow** · September 14th, 2009, 08:49 PM

It takes a certain kind of person to be a decent stay at home parent. Many people are capable, male or female. It's a lot easier if you have a certain type of personality and actually want to do the job.

I think anymore it's not actually that the parent WANTS to be a stay at home parent ,but it's due to financial reasons. Daycare is so damn expensive. Also, many people are out of work. I guess whoever isn't working or makes less is being the caretaker for the children of the house whether they want to or not.

SO many people are stressed out. This poor baby was the target of some misdirected anger, I suppose. There is no excuse, and I imagine the guilt for having a grownup temper tantrum is worse than any punishment a judge could give.

**drkeegee** · September 14th, 2009, 09:00 PM

Excellent observation Queen
(BTW - karma your way continues daily)

**thequeenofsorrow** · September 14th, 2009, 09:04 PM

I need it!! Thank you!!!

**Chaindrive** · September 15th, 2009, 12:08 AM

I agree about the daycare issue...no way if we had children we could afford it. So that would mean one of us would just stay home. Hubby had a bout of unemployment a couple of decades ago, which meant that he was a house-husband. Hell, I don't even know the proper term for it these days. Anyway, he stayed home for about a year, and we didn't even have kids. I think he would have been more happy if he'd had kids to take care of. All he did was clean house, do laundry, take care of the animals. He was bored to tears, he said.

**Silvahalo** · September 15th, 2009, 12:29 AM

Your right Queen, it does take a special person, mostly a loving, patient, selfless person...well, at least one that does ones best to put baby's needs first. My sister keeps telling me I have the hardest job. Honestly, I was in the shock of my life during the first year of my stay-home time. I was isolated as we had one car to share, and felt extremely disconnected from the life I once had a career. Under different circumstances I can imagine how much more difficult it might have been, but then I wanted to devote myself to my children if given the chance. Although the choice was hard for us monetarily, it was the best choice for us. There really wasn't a hesitation on that. I'm not sure what this father wanted but it is clear he lost it, and more than once with baby Dylan.

Baby Dylan had rib injuries that were old and healing. I'd hope the father would have told himself never again as to injure baby over frustration. But then there is the fact that baby was injured and must have cried from those wounds but yet, baby never received medical attention. I understand frustration with a baby, intimately, as all stay-home parents do, but to leave your baby to suffer wounds you inflicted, well, that's just mean and cruel....completely heartless.

I hope he never forgets what those moments of frustration cost him, and I'm not talking about his life.

Rest in peace baby Dylan Kibayasi. So sorry sweet one.....generations lost.

**Chaindrive** · September 15th, 2009, 12:38 AM

Although the choice was hard for us monetarily, it was the best choice for us. There really wasn't a hesitation on that.

I'm pretty sure that given the same set of circumstances, hubby would have been the best choice. And he would have been awesome at it...still is.

**Chaindrive** · September 15th, 2009, 12:56 AM

Well, I've carried, dogfood, catfood, cleaning supplies, etc. on my motorcycle, at various points in my life (we had one car - it didn't run - my perchant for old t-birds sometimes gets me in trouble with hubby, and he used to drive longhaul, which meant he was never home). We still only have one car (and my bike and his bike) but the car these days is an '06 Cobalt. So it runs always. :)

Nevertheless, even with just a bike (or 3 like I had back then) I could easily strap a baby to my chest, and take it where-ever I needed to take it. No problem.