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    A Boy the Bullies Love to Beat Up, Repeatedly



    FAYETTEVILLE, Ark.


    All lank and bone, the boy stands at the corner with his younger sister, waiting for the yellow bus that takes them to their respective schools. He is Billy Wolfe, high school sophomore, struggling.

    Moments earlier he left the sanctuary that is his home, passing those framed photographs of himself as a carefree child, back when he was 5. And now he is at the bus stop, wearing a baseball cap, vulnerable at 15.

    A car the color of a school bus pulls up with a boy who tells his brother beside him that he’s going to beat up Billy Wolfe. While one records the assault with a cellphone camera, the other walks up to the oblivious Billy and punches him hard enough to leave a fist-size welt on his forehead.

    The video shows Billy staggering, then dropping his book bag to fight back, lanky arms flailing. But the screams of his sister stop things cold.

    The aggressor heads to school, to show friends the video of his Billy moment, while Billy heads home, again. It’s not yet 8 in the morning.

    Bullying is everywhere, including here in Fayetteville, a city of 60,000 with one of the country’s better school systems. A decade ago a Fayetteville student was mercilessly harassed and beaten for being gay. After a complaint was filed with the Office of Civil Rights, the district adopted procedures to promote tolerance and respect — none of which seems to have been of much comfort to Billy Wolfe.

    It remains unclear why Billy became a target at age 12; schoolyard anthropology can be so nuanced. Maybe because he was so tall, or wore glasses then, or has a learning disability that affects his reading comprehension. Or maybe some kids were just bored. Or angry.

    Whatever the reason, addressing the bullying of Billy has become a second job for his parents: Curt, a senior data analyst, and Penney, the owner of an office-supply company. They have binders of school records and police reports, along with photos documenting the bruises and black eyes. They are well known to school officials, perhaps even too well known, but they make no apologies for being vigilant. They also reject any suggestion that they should move out of the district because of this.

    The many incidents seem to blur together into one protracted assault. When Billy attaches a bully’s name to one beating, his mother corrects him. “That was Benny, sweetie,” she says. “That was in the eighth grade.”

    It began years ago when a boy called the house and asked Billy if he wanted to buy a certain sex toy, heh-heh. Billy told his mother, who informed the boy’s mother. The next day the boy showed Billy a list with the names of 20 boys who wanted to beat Billy up.

    Ms. Wolfe says she and her husband knew it was coming. She says they tried to warn school officials — and then bam: the prank caller beat up Billy in the bathroom of McNair Middle School.

    Not long after, a boy on the school bus pummeled Billy, but somehow Billy was the one suspended, despite his pleas that the bus’s security camera would prove his innocence. Days later, Ms. Wolfe recalls, the principal summoned her, presented a box of tissues, and played the bus video that clearly showed Billy was telling the truth.

    Things got worse. At Woodland Junior High School, some boys in a wood shop class goaded a bigger boy into believing that Billy had been talking trash about his mother. Billy, busy building a miniature house, didn’t see it coming: the boy hit him so hard in the left cheek that he briefly lost consciousness.

    Ms. Wolfe remembers the family dentist sewing up the inside of Billy’s cheek, and a school official refusing to call the police, saying it looked like Billy got what he deserved. Most of all, she remembers the sight of her son.

    “He kept spitting blood out,” she says, the memory strong enough still to break her voice.

    By now Billy feared school. Sometimes he was doubled over with stress, asking his parents why. But it kept on coming.



    In ninth grade, a couple of the same boys started a Facebook page called “Every One That Hates Billy Wolfe.” It featured a photograph of Billy’s face superimposed over a likeness of Peter Pan, and provided this description of its purpose: “There is no reason anyone should like billy he’s a little bitch. And a homosexual that NO ONE LIKES.”

    Heh-heh.

    According to Alan Wilbourn, a spokesman for the school district, the principal notified the parents of the students involved after Ms. Wolfe complained, and the parents — whom he described as “horrified” — took steps to have the page taken down.

    Not long afterward, a student in Spanish class punched Billy so hard that when he came to, his braces were caught on the inside of his cheek.

    So who is Billy Wolfe? Now 16, he likes the outdoors, racquetball and girls. For whatever reason — bullying, learning disabilities or lack of interest — his grades are poor. Some teachers think he’s a sweet kid; others think he is easily distracted, occasionally disruptive, even disrespectful. He has received a few suspensions for misbehavior, though none for bullying.

    Judging by school records, at least one official seems to think Billy contributes to the trouble that swirls around him. For example, Billy and the boy who punched him at the bus stop had exchanged words and shoves a few days earlier.

    But Ms. Wolfe scoffs at the notion that her son causes or deserves the beatings he receives. She wonders why Billy is the only one getting beaten up, and why school officials are so reluctant to punish bullies and report assaults to the police.

    Mr. Wilbourn said federal law protected the privacy of students, so parents of a bullied child should not assume that disciplinary action had not been taken. He also said it was left to the discretion of staff members to determine if an incident required police notification.

    The Wolfes are not satisfied. This month they sued one of the bullies “and other John Does,” and are considering another lawsuit against the Fayetteville School District. Their lawyer, D. Westbrook Doss Jr., said there was neither glee nor much monetary reward in suing teenagers, but a point had to be made: schoolchildren deserve to feel safe.
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    Those fucking mean ass kids should be VERY thankful Billy's parents are so supportive of him, otherwise they'd probably end up on the wrong end of a bullet. You can only push people around for so long before they push back.

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    It sickens me that the school board/district won't do anything about this

    BUT at what expense are these parents going to "make a point"?

    I understand the issue of not wanting to move out of the school district, but their child hasbeen knocked unconcious Several times and although they are doing a better job than some parents would (actually adressing the school district and such), at what point do you say "this is dangerous for my child and I can make the point while he is in a safe place!"?

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    I'm not sure I'd submit my kid to this for the sake of a principle. I would still fight the school and bullies, but I would be torn about purposefully exposing my kid to it.
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    I think that schools should start to implement a nationwide program to teach kids basic manners and empathy to promote understanding and tolerance of others, because that shit isn't being taught in the home too much anymore. I would suggest that a basic Code Of Conduct Klass (C.O.C.K.) should be started in elementary schools and then taken to more philosophical levels when they reach middle/high school. This is something the country needs I believe.

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    This story made me cry, I get emotional about stories like this b/c I watched my brother go through that hell and it has shaped who he is today....

    My older brother (1 yr. older than me) was tortured in school & this story reminds me of alot of the shit that he went through.... I tried to defend him everytime I saw him being bullied b/c he has Aspergers, when kids would make fun of him or hit him he would just stand still like and avoid their eye contact. He was considered an "easy target"... any kid that wanted to be a part of the "cool kids club" used their stories of kicking his ass as a way in (b/c he was the tallest kid in school)!

    I cried for him every year before the first day of school. I tried to protect him and I even choked one boy on the school bus b/c he kicked my brother in the face... I was the one that got suspended ! My mom got sick of it and started home-schooling my brothers and I... My younger brother & I went back to highschool after 2 years but, my older brother never did...

    He's 28 y/o now & 6'4" yet, he still has no self confidence and if anyone confronts him... he just shrinks back down to that 12 y/o boy. He's so handsome and tall but, he doesn't see that... he only see's the "worthless kid" that everyone else saw in elementary school & junior high. He is a total hermit now....

    Bullying really can ruin peoples lives ! When you are treated like shit & told that you are shit your entire life... it sticks with you.
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    Ms. Wolfe remembers the family dentist sewing up the inside of Billy’s cheek, and a school official refusing to call the police, saying it looked like Billy got what he deserved. Most of all, she remembers the sight of her son.
    This alone makes me see red... absolute vicious red

    I wouldn't put my child through that on principle either, and I sure as fuck would be raising all holy hell @ that school
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    OMG!!! The SCHOOL Re-FUCKING-FUSED to call the police???? I've seen this with my own son. Until he beat TWO boys up on the back of the school bus (yeah, two at the same time), He had been beaten up by the SAME boys on the SAME bus with the SAME driver just a few weeks before. He'd had a broken shoulder (from a sledding accident)...one boy held him down (by the shoulders) while the other boy punched him in the face....he had a nasty black eye totally swollen shut....they didn't do SHIT to those kids....my son's shoulder never healed right. He was a sweet little boy who liked to wear a Davey Crockett faux raccoon hat....the same boys took his hat, threw it down and started steppping on it...he kicked BOTH of their asses....rather badly....the school wanted suddenly to discipline HIM....I filed with the state Dept of Education....they took one look at the pictures of when he had been injured on the school bus...and not only told the local school district to back down on disciplining him...they started an investigation of the school district...something having to do with a federal law regarding the safety of students both at school and while being transported by the school
    until he beat TWO boys up in the back of a classroom (yeah, two at the same time)....one of the boys in class was the grandson of the teacher. Bitch was totally blind to two boys harassing one smaller child at the back of her class...until my son took both of the screaming bitches down and knocked the shit out of them....uh...the bitch was suddenly no longer blind, deaf and dumb
    I again filed with the state and the teacher was reprimanded....she was also told (by the state) that she could not speak to my son, discipline him or even walk into the same area of the playground, school or cafeteria where he was. We'd had other issues with the same teacher. She was nuttier than a fruitcake. She even followed my son into another teacher's class and threatened him in front of others (he was 8 at the time). She had slammed my daughter into a locker for trying to protect my son in the hallway. We weren't the only family who had these problems with her. The State Dept. of Education took up an investigation regarding her as there was some question of whether children were safe around her.
    I pray that this family wins their law suit against the school district and the bullies. But, if I were them, I'd still remove my child from that school district. As parents, they need to protect their child.

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    this is reallly sad..
    Ive only been out of high school a few years, ((yes im a baby)) and i recall all those asshats who were so mean to the "awkward" kids. The school board never wanted to get involved because it would damage their good reputation in the competitive school district && the principals and such always wanted to avoid bad attention && of course, the lawsuits.

    Thus, leading to a few known suicides, overdoses and majorly, DROPOUTS.

    These school officials of Billy Wolfe make me sick but also, if he is sooo tortured, why do his parents continue to allow his exposure to this?? Just curious, but if I had a tortured soul of a son who obviously had problems in that neighborhood and such, I'd do what I could to change it. They have online high school courses now.... other schools a town away.... homeschooling .... etc. ??

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    I have pictures of my son on my profile. As you can see, he is a nice, strong, sturdily built young man. But he's had at least 3 good size (and REALLY unexpected) growth spurts since we moved here 3-1/2 years ago. He was really small for his age when he was bullied (where we used to live). He also had some learning difficulties. Add the fact that he had a really innocent and sweet nature, and BINGO....the ideal kid to be picked on by bullies. Fortunately, he's a big strong young man now who most idiots won't try. He's still really sweet natured and he stands up for any kid that he sees being bullied.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Death Bed View Post
    Those fucking mean ass kids should be VERY thankful Billy's parents are so supportive of him, otherwise they'd probably end up on the wrong end of a bullet. You can only push people around for so long before they push back.
    He should have started pushing back from day one.

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    What a sad story. I definitely would raise hell with the school board, but I would also definitely remove my child from the situation once realizing it was not getting better.

    For a parent, that has to be frustrating because no matter what you do-or rather doing anything, usually only makes it worse. And sadly, these days, parents of bullies are just as bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CPL CHUD View Post
    He should have started pushing back from day one.
    I am sure if he were bigger he would, they target him because of his size.

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    It's not always easy to push back. You don't want to push back in fear of escalating the violence.

    A former boss of mine had her niece bullied in Junior High School by a group of girls. I gave her the book Odd Girl Out. (I originally had it because my daughter was bullied.) She gave it to her niece's parent.

    They sued the parents of the bullies AND the school. That lit a fire underneath the school district. They expelled the ringleader and disciplined the other girls.

    I wish these parents good luck in their lawsuits. Unfortunately, it takes a lawsuit to get their attention.

    Billy's parents should remove him from school. No child should have to put up with that everyday. I'd get him a tutor - and sue the school for the expense.
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    These are the types of people who go into the medical field.

    Look out, bitches.

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    I think the parents are the problem, they need counseling, there's something wrong with parents that put their child through something this insane. The parents are sick and responsible for what this child has gone through

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    I watched a MSNBC documentary about this situation some time ago, and, lemme tell you... the situation is not NEARLY as straightforward as it's portrayed here.

    Sure, there is a lot of really unjustified bullying that goes on in a school setting. But there are also kids who bring it upon themselves for one reason or another. I went to school with one - a smart ass kid who would essentially goad people into beating him up. This is exactly the kind of kid students at FHS say Billy is. Even the local newspaper raised this possibility.Read this entire interview/article.

    His parents are very bizarre, keeping meticulous records of these incidents and encouraging their son to talk about it publically, but discourage him from changing any of his behavior that might contribute to these events. When I watched these interviews, my heart initially bled for the boy. But as the documentary continued, I got the impression that this situation is nowhere NEAR black and white, good and evil. Frankly, it seemed to me his parents fed off these events, turning him into a martyr, so the boy continued to subject himself to them - maybe even provoke them - because of the attention he got from his parents as a result.

    It's only a hypothesis, but that's why I think they won't switch him schools. It's not out of principle - it's because their gig would be up. Here, they're "lucky", for lack of a better term, because the other boys have already been labeled the bullies. No one seems to even consider that Billie might be provoking some of these fights. If he changed schools, the problem would either stop, cutting the parents off from the vicarious adversity they thrive on, or Billie would start picking fights again in an attempt to recreate the situation so that he could continue to get the attention that he gets from his parents.

    Consider two things for me.

    1.) Why does this still continue? With all the publicity surrounding the issue, people have banded together to defend Billy. But the ones closest to the issue, the students, nearly ALL contend that Billy is the one that instigates these fights. Could this still be happening because the school has been attempting to address the bullies when... they're not actually the problem?

    2.) "I don't know." Billy's consistent answer to the question, "Why do you think they target you?" "I don't know," is a bullshit answer under these circumstances. It's an answer that suggests the "victim" is hiding something.

    Who here has been bullied? I have. And you know what? A bully ALWAYS lets you know exactly why you're being bullied. It's part of the arsenal. It cuts even deeper than the physical attacks.

    Now, I would never condone or justify the use of physical violence on the part of those deemed bullies in this situation. I don't care how annoying or antagonistic a kid is - you never hit them because of it. That said, I honestly believe Billy knows EXACTLY why he's targeted... and he responds the way he does because he knows that it's partially his fault, but if he just feigns ignorance, his parents will ride to his defense.
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    There is an order to things. There is a heirarchy in all walks of life. School is no different. Some are bullies....some are bullied. This is the law of nature. I feel no empathy for this spineless little whelp. His parents are doing him no good here...they are raising him to be a victim and a coward. If he does not face up to the challenges in life now...he will never face them. This society does not need less bullying............it needs more! The young men of this world...the western world...are being raised to be little girls!
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    sue the school. sue each teacher, aide and/or adult who witnessed or heard of the bullying and did nothing. when kids are at school, the school and its teachers and administrative staff are considered to be "in loco parentis". (sp?) they stand "in place of parents", and bear the responsibility not only for teaching, but also for ensuring the safety of the students in their care. at least in Louisiana. most likely nothing would come of it; but the publicity and resulting bad press might force a change in school policy to something more proactive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carolinablue View Post
    sue the school. sue each teacher, aide and/or adult who witnessed or heard of the bullying and did nothing. when kids are at school, the school and its teachers and administrative staff are considered to be "in loco parentis". (sp?) they stand "in place of parents", and bear the responsibility not only for teaching, but also for ensuring the safety of the students in their care. at least in Louisiana. most likely nothing would come of it; but the publicity and resulting bad press might force a change in school policy to something more proactive.
    To bad they can't sue the parents for being freaks, I think there's a whole lot of attention disorder going on here, kind of like munchens syndrome, the son wants the attention and so do the parents, it's the OH! look at poor us syndrome
    We need all the attention we can get, and if we have to get the shit beat out of our son to get it, so be it

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    I found this article and all the responses very interesting. It seems to me that the majority of public schools try to turn their head to bullying in hopes that it, or the parents will just go away. A couple of years ago my daughter was being harassed on the school bus by a few girls. She put up with the shit until one day this girl walked by and punched her. Yes, the bus driver didn’t do a damn thing about this girl running up and down the aisle while the bus was moving. My daughter ignored it the first time. The second time the girl came by and hit her, my daughter grabbed her wrist so hard it about brought the other girl to tears and my daughter told her if she did it again, she was going to punch her. Well, sure as shit as the girl was getting off the bus she punched my daughter, then flew into empty seat across from her knowing she was going to get it. My daughter got up, nailed one good punch on her, and sat back down. The other girl got off the bus crying to her momma that my daughter hit her.
    Well, the other girl’s mom went to the school claiming my daughter was a bully and my daughter was punished. I was pissed and insisted that the other girl be punished as well. I was told even though she was hit first, she was not allowed to hit back. I asked the principle how long it would take him to hit me back if I went down to his office and started punching him daily; of course, I got no answer to that one. My daughter was continually harassed even after that incident. Only they wouldn’t hit her. They’d throw shit at her. They threw a cup of applesauce at her one day and it landed in her hair. She called me at work after that so upset. I started harassing the principal of that school daily every time anything happened, and finally got a camera put on the bus. Up to that time, the principal kept implying that my daughter was the troublemaker. After the first incident caught on tape showed otherwise, it finally settled down. The next year my daughter got her license, and now she drives to school to avoid the shit. If it can be avoided, any responsible caring parent would and should get their child out of a situation like that. I agree this boy’s family has some issues of their own. Why don’t they at the minimum teach this boy self-defense?
    I’ve always taught my kids never to start a fight, and to be nice to everyone, even the weirdos, as they’re the ones most likely to come in to the school shooting. Maybe if they’re nice to them they’ll be less likely to be shot. However, I’ve always taught them as well to fight back if needed. As I see it, the school is the only place around here where it isn’t allowed to protect yourself. If my daughter had hit that girl anywhere else but school property, she’d be totally justified and would be in no trouble. The school systems suck.
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    Who here has been bullied? I have. And you know what? A bully ALWAYS lets you know exactly why you're being bullied. It's part of the arsenal. It cuts even deeper than the physical attacks.
    Athena, I agreed with you on just about everything until here. It's just not true. I was bullied by a group of boys, they'd bark at me in the halls ( I was NOT ugly by the way, not a knock out, but certainly no dog), steal my purse, and jump on it breaking every thing inside, the usual annoying things in class sitting behind me flicking my ears, pulling my hair, poking me, knocking my books out of my arms, playing keep away with whatever they could grab etc. And this was in 8th and 9th grade. Other than being the new girl, I still have no reason why. The girls didn't bother me, just this group of boys.

    These boys never gave a reason for targeting me, and they didn't stop until one day, I punched one of em in the face. Then, they acted like I didn't exist for a while, and then acted like they didn't understand why I didn't like them, but that was about a year after the shit stopped.

    Personally, I don't see why, if the parents really felt that their son was a victim, why aren't they actually doing something about it other than calling attention to it? Enroll him in a self defense class so his ass isn't getting kicked, get the kid a tazer or something, change schools or home school for christ's sake.
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    hey you guys..guess what. i haven't been living in a cave or anything....but um, this is the first i've read about this here, and um, i've been serving this kid and his mom sushi for about 3 years. it wasn't until today she showed me the myspace supporting him. she said today that the court case is coming up soon, but really i had never put 2 and 2 together. This boy is one of the nicest, most polite young men i have ever met. it breaks my heart that he had to go through this.

    this is pretty cool, supporting Billy.
    http://www.myspace.com/mslovesbilly
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    My husband and I were just talking about this phenomena. A few kids are singled out for abuse in every grade. I will never understand it. My husband said he was singled out because his mother only bought him Wal-Mart clothes. They were not poor just very frugal. Either way it was noticed by the other kids and what started out as just words did turn physical over time. By high school all of the crap had stopped for some reason. Now that we have a child of our own my husband is very concerned about how we dress and groom her. Only name brand clothes and shoes. If I am not home to do her hair they usually stay home, lest someone think she looks unkempt ( always up do's with bows or down with lots of curls and recently she wants her hair down and completely straightened, not an easy feat considering her hair is down to her waist). That childhood bullying really changed him I guess, how could it not. Sometimes considering what some of these kids are put through, the abuse they are forced to endure I can understand why they snap and murder their abusers. I think it is something like battered womens syndrome. THese kids are forced to face their abusers 5 days a week, usually with out support from their parents or from school staff.

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    im out of thanks but thank you Pene. when i spoke to his mom today she told me she had turned down dr. phil and oprah as she did not want it to be a circus. she also mentioned that he has been in therapy since 2004 and his therapist had let them (his parents) know that he has considered suicide. this breaks my heart. this boy really is so sweet as are his parents. i live here and i can see how this happened. the class lines are clearly drawn, and although Fayetteville has a population of about 70,000 it is still a small town. hell, when i moved to ar when i was 9, i moved to a town of 420 people. they tried...little did they realize the huge chocolate chip cookie i had on my shoulder. it worked on my side at the time.
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    Now that we have a child of our own my husband is very concerned about how we dress and groom her.
    You know what the stupid thing is? It could very well be that someone won't like that your daughter is such a rich snob with her great clothes and target her for that. You just never know what someone will decide not to like and target them for.

    Bullies made my life a living hell, too. I wish for 5 seconds, they could really feel the shame and horror they put me through. Bet they wouldn't do it again. If ever I saw them now, I'm pretty sure they'd be in for good bitch-slap. That stuff sticks with you, like dog shit you've stepped in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sheevaa View Post
    You know what the stupid thing is? It could very well be that someone won't like that your daughter is such a rich snob with her great clothes and target her for that. You just never know what someone will decide not to like and target them for.

    Bullies made my life a living hell, too. I wish for 5 seconds, they could really feel the shame and horror they put me through. Bet they wouldn't do it again. If ever I saw them now, I'm pretty sure they'd be in for good bitch-slap. That stuff sticks with you, like dog shit you've stepped in.
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    I was real lucky, when I went to high school in 93. Being "off" became really fashionable and man, I had that from the ground up. I remember reading their poems and I remembered the soulless hag that singled me out because I didn't peg my jeans. Her poem was pretty good though. ...Whole lot of formula and she spelled everything right... I was beyond her then but man, at 16 years,I scratched that wound. I laughed behind her back. I admit it.

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    My little cousin was being bullied during high school. Not sure why; there's nothing weird about him. A group of kids would follow him around taunting & threatening him. The kids started following my cousin home. One kid started calling the house at all hours of the night, hanging up. This went on for a while; my cousin was sick over it & was considering dropping out of school. Cuz's mom called the school, the school board, the superintendant of schools - no help. She called the phoning bully's parents - no help. Finally she told her son: you've got to stand up to them. If you don't you'll be a target for every bully in that school. Just make sure you do it on school grounds so it'll get broken up before you get too hurt (she was really afraid of the bullys attacking her son off school grounds, stabbing him or leaving him badly hurt.) One of the kids was taunting my cousin during class...He jumped onto the bully & got one or two punches in before the fight was broken up, was suspended from school for 3 days and was never bullied again.

    When my kids are older I'll tell them: don't start any shit, but don't take any shit, either. Maybe not in those words.

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    They pick on both ends of the spectrum. I'm gonna tell mine to be unafraid and if he or she hits you first, mop the floor with them. Avoid it though, as long as you possibly can.
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