Danny Friddle accused of sexually assaulting infant on tape.

[CorruptedMistress]

HONOLULU (KHNL) -- His job is to protect people. But now, an Oahu security officer is accused of sexually assaulting a baby girl.

People who know Danny Friddle say they're disturbed by the allegations. Not only is he accused of molesting an infant, police say the security guard committed the sexual acts while a video camera was rolling.

KHNL News 8 confronts 30-year-old Danny Friddle just prior to his arrest Wednesday.

"There was a tape that was located," this reporter told the suspect. "And apparently, there was an allegation that the tape contained some disturbing material."

A woman told police she came across a bag at a bus stop at Kalihi Valley Homes Monday. She says inside, she found the security guard's work ID and a video of him performing sexual acts on an infant girl.

"Do you know anything about that?" this reporter asked Friddle.

"No, uh, nothing," the suspect replied. "I'm really, I just woke up. I've been up all night."

Friddle is a supervisor at Kalihi-based Alii Security, which declined comment Thursday.

Lisa Asano says she's been his girlfriend for the past year and a half.

"He's a hard-working, good guy who has the best of intentions," Asano said. "He's a really sweet guy, but there's one part of him that needs help."

"Do you know that police are investigating it?" this reporter asked the suspect. "Do you have a comment about it?"

"No," Friddle replied as he walked away.

Sources say Friddle's bag was reported stolen Sunday, the day before the witness found it at the bus stop.

Police are not releasing any other details at this time, but say formal charges are expected to be filed Friday.

http://www.khnl.com/Global/story.asp?S=8015119

Of course, his girlfriend is depressed, shocked, freaked out and wishing to fast forward life: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...iendid=7762238

And he is an evil munkey:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...iendid=2441096

[Jaded]

"He's a really sweet guy, but there's one part of him that needs help."

Noooooo.....
There's one part of him that needs to be CHOPPED OFF, put through a grinder and scattered over a 100 mile radius.

[Unamused Cat]

Here is the bastard.

[rippi202]

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

[rippi202]

"He's a really sweet guy, but there's one part of him that needs help."

Noooooo.....
There's one part of him that needs to be CHOPPED OFF, put through a grinder and scattered over a 100 mile radius.

It's not that I dont agree. I wish that I could just take that part of him and remove it, and just have my sweet darling there. Don't you guys think I KNOW THAT!

[impqueen]

Lisa, I'm sorry you're hurting. But your boyfriend is not the victim here. Do you really think that a guy goes from perfectly normal to molesting little kids on camera overnight? He's done this before. This is not likely his first rodeo.

If you didn't want people saying things about you, you probably shouldn't have defended a pedophile to the press and given your full name.

I'm sorry you are heartbroken, and clearly you are, but you need to stop defending this pedophile, pick up your life, and move on to a healthier relationship with a man who doesn't like to stick his finger, tongue, or penis into little children. Bastard is the nicest thing I can think of to call him, and if you could put yourself in the position of the baby girl he molested, you might be able to begin to understand that.

It might be time to put this guy on the front page. The victim is his daughter, and according to time stamps, she was abused on the same video twice, seven months apart. Friddle is also shown on the video having sex with an adult. Anyone we know?

[Jaded]

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

1) It's really not that difficult to find a persons Myspace. It's called search.
2) Don't want to....thanx.
3) Coddle him all you want....just keep him away from children.
4) We don't put pedophiles in jail to help them....we put them there to keep them from society.
5) Again...don't want to.
6) Seriously...I love sitting on the internet and bitch about the darker side of humanity. It makes me feel sooooo much better about my own life. And besides, I have no life....I need to live vicariously through others.

If you don't want to hear people giving their opinions on that great man ya got there....don't fuckin look! Did you honestly do a search hoping to find people that were sticking up for him and his actions??? Seriously.....keep searching.

Monsters like that can't be 'cured'. There is no cure all, fix all pedophile pill. Wouldn't the world be a much happier place if there was?? Sexual offenders are known for re-offending. Do the research.

No I don't know how it feels to be in your position or his. Why?? Because I would never, EVER stand behind and support someone who has molested a child. I would be the first in line to chop his dick off and shove it up his ass. And how would you know the baby's position?? Think about it for a minute...how do you think the baby feels??

Nope....not a christian. So does that mean I can bash and judge child molestors all I want?? Obviously...I don't care.

As for you.....I don't think you're going to find much sympathy in your position.

[impqueen]

http://www.dreamindemon.com/2008/03/...s-home-movies/

Danny Friddle has now been charged with thirteen counts of sexual assault or child abuse on a female victim less than two years old, who is reported to be his daughter by his second marriage to a woman named Sarah. He apparently was abusing his daughter on video as early as June 2006, when she was a small infant, and again in early 2007 after he began dating Lisa, who posted above.

I can't personally imagine defending this disgusting piece of shit. I only hope that as her shock clears and the denial gives way to reason, she hightails it the hell out of that relationship.

[Morbid]

Wow, a fucking pedophile and a pedophile coddler in the same thread.

I always wondered with these girlfriends of pedophiles....how does it feel to know the hands of your boyfriend that once touched you, or the lips on his face that were pressed against yours...were once inside a toddler's vagina. The fact that you don't want his ass dead more than the rest of normal society is sickening. You should be sharing the same cell with the fucking bastard, you sick, pathetic, waste of space. The fact that I have to share my air with you two morons almost ruins my day.

The only thing that makes it better for me is the fact that your man will be in prison, being treated like pedophiles are treated, and you will always be unhappy and alone, you pedophile coddling, asswipe.

I think I may just do my part today, and get this one on the front page.

As far as "Good Christians go", I think you will find you are talking to the wrong crowd.

[The Diabolical Mr. Lieman]

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

Honestly, I truly think he and people like you deserve to be executed. Im glad you think he deserves time, but to actually defend him once he's done this makes you guilty by association. Plain and simple. Im sure he has a human side, a compassionate side. But for you to actually go to bat for someone who sexually assaults a child makes you jus as sick as he does. The only victim here, is the child. Not him, not even you.

You can parade around here accusing people of Christianity, and hypocrisy, when you have no idea of anyone here. Sure, many of us have problems. But our problems dont consist of being pedophiles. His does, and its your problem now too, as youve chosen to align yourself with him.

So as much as you want to mope around, playing the victim, acting like a pathetic selfish sniveling little piece of shit, it doesnt change the fact that he is the aggressor, and you have chosen to defend someone who did that.

To me, the solution here is unrealistic. Both of you should be taken out to a clear field, and shot once each in the head. Honestly, I dont know why we waste out time with the likes of you two (yes, two, because you aligned yourself with a pedo, and thats how youll be looked at) as a government. We shouldnt spend any more than the cost of a bullet and the payroll for the motherfuckers that squeeze the trigger on trash like you.

I truly hope the worst for you and your boyfriend. The only solace I can take from this, is that when I finish typing this, Ill forget about this, you, your story, and youll still be in ruin months from now. :p

[Jaded]

We shouldnt spend any more than the cost of a bullet and the payroll for the motherfuckers that squeeze the trigger on trash like you.

Couldn't have said it better. Except, I don't think we would need payroll...I'm sure there are plenty of people who would volunteer! I'd be in line to sign an application...and I'd even provide the bullets.

[Morbid]

I would use a bullet on the pedophile, as he is just a broke human being. Pedophiles probably cannot help themselves. But for the coddler?

A nice, big bucket of rocks would suffice.

[Miss. Hill]

Why do all people who find the DD after making the front page come here with almost the same exact comments. It's really ironic they all think alike pedophiles, rapist, murders, and all their loving family and significant others (for the most part)!

Some examples....
*Ummmm you don't know us so mind ur own bizness
*Your gonna take all this back when the truf comes out cuz (enter scum name here)
is innocent!
*You all are fucking assholes (hahaha)
*Go out of their way to defend their filthy homes or boyfriends or whatever
*Never say condolences to families or show sympathy of any kind for the victim(s)
*Who do you all think you are you gots no right talkin shit about us


To the pedophiles girl, a few comments...

***The little girl your BF sexually assaulted is the victim do you not have any concern for her she is a baby, wtf. In my eyes your man is worthless he should be castrated and shun by society. There is no help for people like him.

If I were you, I would be in a hot shower trying to scrub his filth off me! I wouldn't sleep with thoughts of him and I being intimate *throw up*! I would need therapy to get over the fact that I loved a man that had sex with an infant *gagging*. I doubt this is new for him and what baffles me is you seem to have been aware stating, "He's a really sweet guy, but there's one part of him that needs help." What???

I hope you can move on from this as I would think it would be difficult.

[CorruptedMistress]

Of course, his girlfriend is depressed, shocked, freaked out and wishing to fast forward life: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...iendid=7762238

I forgot to add "sucks at life" up there as well.

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

Just because you are 'private' on myspace doesn't make you invisible.

And it's true, I really don't have anything better to do with my time then sit here and babble about other people's problems. Thank you for having all kinds of mental problems for me to babble about!

As a former victim of child endangerment and sexual abuse, I actually do know what it is like to be in that baby's position. Do you have any idea what it is like to be violated by someone you trusted? To want this to be over and have no way of saying no? From what is being said, the baby was rather young, so she is atleast lucky enough to never have to remember her FATHER doing these awful things to her.
Even more so, I had the pleasure of knowing people in your position and you are all the same, stick by your man even though he does the worse possible thing to his own children. Is there really no other penis you can get out there? Come on lady, how can you defend this man's actions? No one is hurting you and no one is hurting him (though he freaking deserves it), the only one hurting here is that baby! Why not try to defend a real victim, like that little girl, instead of a grown man who made the decision to rape this child, was dumb enough to video tape himself committing the crime, and even stupider for leaving it where someone could've easily gotten ahold of it.

Don't come here and be mad at us, be mad at him, atleast if you can't hate him for molesting that baby who had no choice but to sit there and take his abuse, atleast hate him for getting his dumbass caught!

It might be time to put this guy on the front page. The victim is his daughter, and according to time stamps, she was abused on the same video twice, seven months apart. Friddle is also shown on the video having sex with an adult. Anyone we know?

Depending on the date, I would say it was probably his wife at the time, Sarah Kiyoko Kalilikane.

http://starbulletin.com/2005/12/18/news/vitals.html

Or it might even be Lisa as she claims to be with him for over a year and a half. Sleeping in the same house where that baby was molested.

Lisa, tell me, did you guys buy a new bed or is there a possibility that you are sleeping in a bed where a baby was probably raped?

[gprime]

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

Actually, we all just have blood orgies in honor of the dark prince Satan.

[I am Legend]

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

there is no good side to a person like that, he was able to trick ya is all.

there is no cure for that shit. except the death penalty.

no one is amused by this shit. at the end of the day, its good to see his face just in case i ever run into him, so i know for sure whose ass i am beating.

and yeah, im pretty sure you will have a hard time finding any christians around here. basically, if there was a jesus, he would be a complete dick for letting shit like this happen in the first place. so for me personally, as a devout atheist, i can judge his child-raping ass all day long.

i know its hard onya, but you really should move the fuck on as fast as possible and do everything in your power to help get this fool put away for as long as possible.

[rippi202]

OKay...okay...
actually....you are all kind of right.
1. I am not "defending" him, he deserves any time he gets.
2. I do feel filthy to an extent
3. I did not know about this until the police told me
4. I AM seeing a Counsoler..and that has been a great help
5. The woman on the tape is me, not his ex-wife, so leave her out of this
6. I'm so confused right now, and you have to realize I'm still getting over everything too...

...you know...
the thing is..I know all the players in this sad story...
all of them
and nobody ever saw it coming...nobody...
anyway
that's all

[Lizard]

OKay...okay...actually....you are all kind of right.
1. I am not "defending" him, he deserves any time he gets.
2. I do feel filthy to an extent
3. I did not know about this until the police told me
4. I AM seeing a Counsoler..and that has been a great help
5. The woman on the tape is me, not his ex-wife, so leave her out of this
6. I'm so confused right now, and you have to realize I'm still getting over everything too...

...you know...the thing is..I know all the players in this sad story...all of them
and nobody ever saw it coming...nobody...anyway
that's all

Best of luck to you, Lisa. Really.

[impqueen]

For what it's worth, Lisa, I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how it feels to have your heart shattered, and I know people don't always react in a set way when that happens. You seem like a smart girl and a nice person. Counseling will help, over time.

It was brave of you to come back here and read, and braver of you to post. I do feel for you, I really do. And i know you hurt for that baby as much as any of us do. So you hang in there, and one day you'll wake up and it won't hurt as much as it did the day before, and then you'll be okay. Take care of you. And let yourself be really, really mad at that sonofabitch, because he deserves it. You gotta cry, you cry for you, not for him. He doesn't deserve your tears or your love.

[rippi202]

For what it's worth, Lisa, I'm sorry you're going through this. I know how it feels to have your heart shattered, and I know people don't always react in a set way when that happens. You seem like a smart girl and a nice person. Counseling will help, over time.

It was brave of you to come back here and read, and braver of you to post. I do feel for you, I really do. And i know you hurt for that baby as much as any of us do. So you hang in there, and one day you'll wake up and it won't hurt as much as it did the day before, and then you'll be okay. Take care of you. And let yourself be really, really mad at that sonofabitch, because he deserves it. You gotta cry, you cry for you, not for him. He doesn't deserve your tears or your love.

I know...I know it will...someday it will hit me. and...everything will change.

Thank you, and I'm sorry for any "additional drama" i may have caused. Its slowly sinking in. and thanks for putting up with me.

In retrospect I guess sites like these are pretty awesome, maybe someday after Im married and have children I will come across this site and realize that some psycho lives across the street, and I will be able to thank sites like these.

....sorry..and best of wishes to all

[impqueen]

Well, as much as you probably don't feel like it now, i hope that sometime when you feel like venting a little rage, you find that this is a great place to do it. You can take out all your anger on other people. It's pretty awesome. Feel free to hang around when you feel like it, even if you never look at this particular thread again.

[Dreamin']

As bad a deed this dude has done, why is everyone pickin' on Lisa? She must be in horrible shock and must have really felt deeply for this slimeball. I do happen to know her and she has been doing her darndest to keep herself together. She is such a sweet, giving, compassionate person with a deep loving side to her. I have known her for over a year, and she has always managed to make me smile, whenever I was in a bad mood. We can't blame her for his actions. She has been dealt with a terrible blow and is dealing with it as best she can. I feel for the baby, wife and Lisa for this has affected them all deeply. I am a mother also and can feel the mother's pain as she deals with the reality of what has been done to her baby. Lisa, should you read this, it will take time to heal....but know that your friends are here to help you thru' this!

[zander2008]

um...okay...first of all how the HECK did you get my myspace page? eh? its on PRIVATE FOR A REASON.

2. You don't know the good side of him
3. I still think there is a good side of him
4. He does need to go to jail so that he can get help
5. don't call him a bastard you bastard, you don't even know HIM!

6. WOW...do you guys seriously have nothing better to do all day other than babble about other people's PROBLEMS! don't you think we have enough to deal with.

I go on the internet to try and find out how BAD THE DAMAGE is for everyone involved and here you guys are chit-chatting about it?!?!?!

Well im glad our troubles amused you.
If you want to argue with me, you can, my profile is set so you can yell at me, scream at me, all you want.

I'm just saying there is a part of him that I loved, and loved me back, and then there is this monster that needs to be cured. So don't put my link up there, and don't diss him, and don't keep HURTING US!

you dont even know how it feels to be in my position, his position, the baby's position, or any of the other people involved. So you all can keep chit-chatting about stuff all you want.

And I bet many of you are "good Christians" aint ya? well...isn't one of the things important to Christians is "forgiveness"? and not to judge. Well you all messed up royally on that one!

I am sorry to say this, he will not be cure. Sex offenders don't get cure. After he did this horrible crime, I'm sure he will say, "this is the last time..." but you need to be prepare because it might not be the last time. If my husband did to my child, I'll be gone like wind. I'll make sure he is in jail, I'll make sure he is not allow to see my child. No matter how much I've loved him, children always come FIRST. The baby he raped, is INNOCENT. Realize that. I don't think you are awful person...you did not know he will do something like this. I'm sorry but you need to get on your life...do not let him get into your life again.

Let God be his judgement.

[Superman's Cape]

I am sorry to say this, he will not be cure. Sex offenders don't get cure. After he did this horrible crime, I'm sure he will say, "this is the last time..." but you need to be prepare because it might not be the last time...

Unfortunately, you are correct. These folks are not cured and jail/prison does not get them help. I am a sex offender probation officer and my state has just started placing folks like this on lifetime satellite based monitoring to keep track of their movement. It is cheaper than prison and pretty effective in that most of these guys do not want to go to prison due to the fact that they will have to be placed in isolation for danger of being murdered by the other inmates. Castration is not an option because it is not humane I know some of you were thinking this.

From my experience many of the sex offender's I work with can be highly intelligent, extremely manipulative, and some can be very charming. Most are in complete denial of their crimes or do not see what they have done is wrong. The majority play a very good victim themselves to gain sympathy by those who are unsuspecting (typically women).

We require our offenders to go through a very stringent program in which the therapists require they admit their crimes and discuss the trauma they have caused to their victims. We try to get them to sympathize with the victim instead of creating guilt about what they have done. Feelings of guilt tend to lead to disdain.

In a nutshell and to say the least, these folks are wired differently and maintenance is the only way to protect the general public. Any therapist who states different is not a certified sex offender therapist. There is no rehabilitation and this is accepted by both law enforcement and mental health agencies. Statistical studies back this up.

The sad thing is the fallout of people like Lisa who is also a victim in the situation. We are seeing the process of denial in it's early stages here and she may possibly be investigated and charged for child endangerment depending on the situation and her state's laws. I see it happen all the time. Unfortunately, these unsuspecting women end up finding out the hard way by either being charged as an accomplice to a crime they try to hide or having their own children (if they have any) get abused. --- I am not talking about my guys on probation of course as I keep a tight rein on these guys.

I really do not blame unsuspecting (I am speculating) women such as this poster in here as they usually are victims themselves even though it is easy to sit back and judge them or say I told you so. She needs hugs and a good therapist that can school her to the ways of such men in order not to fall into the same patterns with future relationships that we as humans fall into since we are creatures of habit.

Many of my male convicted sex offenders end up finding women with low self esteem who feel sorry for the offender and either take their side and enable the offender's denial or think that they can change the offender or the offender will change for them.

There is a very high rate of recidivism with sex offenders and with this more and more states are adopting live-time satellite monitoring. It is not a perfect system, but I'd rather spend my tax dollars on this social program than bailing out the banks again ;)

I want to thank the owner of this site providing these news nuggets as it actually keeps me tuned up to perform my job and reminds me of the various sicknesses that are prevalent within human nature and reminds me to never be mentally disarmed by the individuals I work with.

It is good to have forums like this just to remind the public of the monsters that lurk around every corner. Not to create paranoia, but to justify the reality that there are idoits like this out there and to be more aware of your surroundings.

.....I also like to see that there are still decent people such as most of the folks that post here that actually care about their fellow human even if the criticisms are harsh and sometimes misguided :)

[Lizard]

Awesome post, thanks, and welcome. One of the few truly interesting conference presentations I ever sat through regarded the use of lie detectors on sex offenders in the community since they're so good at lying....

[impqueen]

Got a new update from Lisa overnight.

She is definitely feeling like she got lied to a lot by Danny Friddle. She also tells me that Danny has now pled not-guilty and she's feeling pretty upset about that.

I think Lisa's a good person. I think she had no idea this was happening, and she and Danny's ex (the mother of the victim) have gotten pretty close during all this. She's going through a lot of stuff right now, but I have to give her credit for coming here, taking her lumps, and coming back to let us know how she's progressing through this mess.

[Jaded]

Got a new update from Lisa overnight.

She is definitely feeling like she got lied to a lot by Danny Friddle. She also tells me that Danny has now pled not-guilty and she's feeling pretty upset about that.

I think Lisa's a good person. I think she had no idea this was happening, and she and Danny's ex (the mother of the victim) have gotten pretty close during all this. She's going through a lot of stuff right now, but I have to give her credit for coming here, taking her lumps, and coming back to let us know how she's progressing through this mess.

I think she took some pretty serious lumps here too. I do have to give her credit for coming back....I'm sure that wasn't easy. I hope everything turns out OK for her.

[CatsMeow]

Unfortunately, you are correct. These folks are not cured and jail/prison does not get them help. I am a sex offender probation officer and my state has just started placing folks like this on lifetime satellite based monitoring to keep track of their movement. It is cheaper than prison and pretty effective in that most of these guys do not want to go to prison due to the fact that they will have to be placed in isolation for danger of being murdered by the other inmates. Castration is not an option because it is not humane I know some of you were thinking this.

From my experience many of the sex offender's I work with can be highly intelligent, extremely manipulative, and some can be very charming. Most are in complete denial of their crimes or do not see what they have done is wrong. The majority play a very good victim themselves to gain sympathy by those who are unsuspecting (typically women).

We require our offenders to go through a very stringent program in which the therapists require they admit their crimes and discuss the trauma they have caused to their victims. We try to get them to sympathize with the victim instead of creating guilt about what they have done. Feelings of guilt tend to lead to disdain.

In a nutshell and to say the least, these folks are wired differently and maintenance is the only way to protect the general public. Any therapist who states different is not a certified sex offender therapist. There is no rehabilitation and this is accepted by both law enforcement and mental health agencies. Statistical studies back this up.

The sad thing is the fallout of people like Lisa who is also a victim in the situation. We are seeing the process of denial in it's early stages here and she may possibly be investigated and charged for child endangerment depending on the situation and her state's laws. I see it happen all the time. Unfortunately, these unsuspecting women end up finding out the hard way by either being charged as an accomplice to a crime they try to hide or having their own children (if they have any) get abused. --- I am not talking about my guys on probation of course as I keep a tight rein on these guys.

I really do not blame unsuspecting (I am speculating) women such as this poster in here as they usually are victims themselves even though it is easy to sit back and judge them or say I told you so. She needs hugs and a good therapist that can school her to the ways of such men in order not to fall into the same patterns with future relationships that we as humans fall into since we are creatures of habit.

Many of my male convicted sex offenders end up finding women with low self esteem who feel sorry for the offender and either take their side and enable the offender's denial or think that they can change the offender or the offender will change for them.

There is a very high rate of recidivism with sex offenders and with this more and more states are adopting live-time satellite monitoring. It is not a perfect system, but I'd rather spend my tax dollars on this social program than bailing out the banks again ;)

I want to thank the owner of this site providing these news nuggets as it actually keeps me tuned up to perform my job and reminds me of the various sicknesses that are prevalent within human nature and reminds me to never be mentally disarmed by the individuals I work with.

It is good to have forums like this just to remind the public of the monsters that lurk around every corner. Not to create paranoia, but to justify the reality that there are idoits like this out there and to be more aware of your surroundings.

.....I also like to see that there are still decent people such as most of the folks that post here that actually care about their fellow human even if the criticisms are harsh and sometimes misguided :)

Terrific Post SUPERMAN'S CAPE: Could you explain more about your supervision methods. I have not heard of this before and just want to understand more about it. How can you know the perp is not with a child?

If you see this message and reply, many thanks.

[ThreeOnAMeathook]

They'll call him Friddler the Diddler in prison.

[Superman's Cape]

Terrific Post SUPERMAN'S CAPE: Could you explain more about your supervision methods. I have not heard of this before and just want to understand more about it. How can you know the perp is not with a child?

If you see this message and reply, many thanks.

Most states are on board with what's called a sex offender control program.

Here is a basic outline (pdf brochure):

NC Sex Offender Control Program

You will see the term treatment used. This is a politically correct use of the term - it still boils down to total control. Some offenders will never benefit from treatment. There is a fairly high recidivism rate with sex offenders. Most sex offenders are not caught due to the age of the child (not adequate verbal skills) and people such as girlfriends/family in denial that something is not quite right. Sex offenders count on this.

If you are feeling collegiate and have your thinking cap on here is one study done in Alsaska regarding treatment and rates of recidivism:

Study


There is also sophisticated network of sex offenders that is in a realm of their own. You are starting to see the FBI get involved in sting operations. Our SBI also stings people on the net regarding kiddie porn.

Nambla can be found easily on the net and believe me this group is policed heavily to the point where sex offenders are not sure who is the police or their buddies. ;)

No one can be 100 percent sure that the "perp" is not with a child. Most offenders offender on children they know. It is a misconception of the public that children are constantly snatched up by these "monsters". The media plays on the fears of the public - it sells well. This is more in line with serial killers and true psychopaths.

Anyway....This is where the community comes in, and believe me, once an offender is registered everyone knows it. I am called pretty quickly if one of my folks is seen with a child they are not supposed to be around.

I keep my folks constantly on edge. Most are scared to death of me and rightly so as I have the power to arrest most immediately and ask the judge to revoke them if they violate. Really though we want to keep them on probation for the full term as a control mechanism for public safety, because if they elect to serve time and are released there really is no way to monitor them. This is why states are starting to use satellite based live time monitoring systems. Another control mechanism.

Keep in mind these are not your garden variety criminals who do not mind going to prison as a second home. Most sex offenders do not like prison or jail. They typically get beat up once they are found out and have to be isolated for the duration. Even your most hardened criminals and murderers do not like folks that prey on helpless children.

Most offenders try hard to be my buddy and to attempt to get bits of info on me as in who is my family, what I like, etc., it's a constant psychological cat and mouse game with some and I have to attempt to stay 2 steps ahead. That's probably what I like most about working with these individuals.