The first 3 months are the hardest with a newborn baby. These young parents, I wonder if they got any help from grandma? When my very young sister got unexpectedly pregnant, I was determined to make her see the error of her ways and make her own up to responsibility, and I did. I preached, argued and made her do as was expected of her. Then I thought long and hard about being in her place. I had a change of heart as I knew that she would need as much support from me, her older sister to reach those expectations and to simply do right baby her baby.
I have no idea what these circumstances were for these two, but I would like to think that now that the baby is out of their care, they have learned a lesson, a hard lesson and grow from that instead of being a torn family forever. What they did to baby Cayden is deplorable, and there is no excuse for it. Still, I do think that a a lot of young starting families...very young in this case, need a lot of support from family and friends to make it through the first hump of becoming parents.
The first thing I told my sister was there is no way this is going to be easy but there is a way to come out of this loving your baby and yourself as a new mom. Patience, patience and a lot of SLEEP! I stayed to help with the baby the first several weeks and took them off there hands many a time when I'd get a call telling me how desperate she was. I taught her how to better cope with a crying baby, colic and all that comes with a newborn. I said, never, ever handle your child when you are at your wits end, put him down and walk away....she told me she did this on many occasions that she lost count.
I don't know why these parents hurt their baby repeatedly. You would think the "OMG", realization would kick in after the first time. Wonder if anyone in the family noticed the baby crying every time he moved or was moved?....sigh..... so sad, the hope of a real family.
Just wish more of these incidents could be avoided. Maybe their just SOB's, or complete idiots....maybe both. Either way, I hope Cayden gets a better chance at the start of hs life, with a repaired family or with one that will love and cherish him. Be happy and healthy wee one.


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