someone is threatening me...

**Dasias_Proud_Mommy** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:02 PM

So, there's this guy, I've been friends with his whole family forever...him & his sisters.
We lost touch and started to hang out again, then he went to work out of state. He meets his now wife, and for some reason she thinks he is like in love with me or something..she hates me from the start.
So him and I stop hanging out for like 9 months...she leaves.
Him and I start hanging out again, while they were broke up...he tells her WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE that him and I are dating. And that I said that he would be a dumbass to get back with her...

I then get this message....(please don't mind the myspace typing.... it's just easier on there to type like a slob)

Date: Jul 9, 2008 9:12 AM

good luck bitch!!!! keep talkin shit... i will knock them nasty fuckin teeth right down that nappy head of yours!!!!

I reply....Date: Jul 9, 2008 5:48 PM

um....ok.
i dunno what the hell your talkin about....
foreal though...who did you hear this from?
cuz i have no problem with you and even if i did i wouldnt be talkin shit, i dont have time for the drama.
i have a kid and a boyfriend....my family...i dont give a fuck what your doing or what your not doing, i have my own shit to worry about.
so really though, you should really think about the people woh are telling you this....

Then...like nothing ever happened she says nothing for months...

Until today, I get this...
Date: Dec 2, 2008 3:38 PM

how does it feel to be a the biggest lair and cunt i know... it probably feels great right now but i hope to god i run into u when i'm not pregnant, cuz oh its on! you didn't think everitt would tell me the truth or what. everitt will be the last man you use, and he agrees that your kid is fugly... and tell jordan he fuckin thinks hes basically retarded and we want nothing to do with him, so he needs to stop trying to talk to him... you can keep your drama filled life, the only problem i have with you is you lie through your fukin teeth, so have fun being an ugly lying slut, lmao! and raise your ugly kid who had a passy til she was how old, great mommy skill, fuckin whore!!!

I obviously have no clue what she's talking about...Date: Dec 2, 2008 4:16 PM

wtf? seriously? i dont even know what your talkin about...i dont talk to u guys, i dont talk about u guys, nothing...i dont know what your problem with me is, ive never done shit to u or everitt. use him? the truth? puh-lease I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO U TWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE, PLEASE.
we are grown, why the need for the drama??
I got other shit to worry about then ya'll drama. im sorry for what i may have done, whatever it is, i really am, but i really dont need this right now...

but foreal?? who the hell talks crap about a 3 year old???? my daughter is gorgeous, whether you think so or not.
if u wanna get into great mommy skills--we can go there.....cuz u kno u are far from perfect....hunny.

i really wish u would elaborate...because its been months since i talked to u or everitt.....so what could i possibly have done??? and just a friendly reminder... u know as well as i do, everitt lies, a lot... u dealt with it the entire time you two were split up, him sayin we were together to piss u off and shit, u dont think he'll pull that shit again????

if u were wise u would stop talkin shit to me, cuz i will get the police involved....your harassing and threatening me.

I just don't know whether to really get the police involved (did I forget to mention that she now lives right across the street from my new place) or what. I have never done anything to either her or her boyfriend, not used them, not talked about them, nothing. But she insists on harassing me. I'm not sure whether she will carry out her threats or not.
ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT!!!!!!!!! To talk about my kid...and my parenting skills???? What kind of adult talks about a child like that? I have my own place (they stay with his parents), and job (which she's lacking), and take care of my kid...(oh yea...she also got pregnant with another man's kid while she was away from her husband for 4 months).... I guess I shouldn't even defend myself, because I know the truth from the trash that comes out of her mouth.
I'm sorry for venting, I just need some advice.

What would you do in this situaton?

**Rockin Ma** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:10 PM

I say knock that bitch out as soon as she pops out the kid. I think the police may let it slide considering why you did it. I haven't seen your child, but I have NEVER seen an ugly one. She should watch out though, saying things like that while pregnant, her kid may come out looking as ugly as her personality.

**Kitty** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:10 PM

WOW! IF you feel that she might be a danger to you, your family or your property (especially since she lives so close, I would print those messages out and seek an order of protection, more law enforcement agencies are taking a firmer stance on cyber-bullying.. the woman sounds nuts.

**Nell** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:12 PM

Wow. ^^^ I say you put her on ignore on myspace, call the cops about the harrassment cause you have a record, then ignore her! That is all you can do if you are grown.

**Peeperann** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:15 PM

Originally Posted by Kitty

WOW! IF you feel that she might be a danger to you, your family or your property (especially since she lives so close, I would print those messages out and seek an order of protection, more law enforcement agencies are taking a firmer stance on cyber-bullying.. the woman sounds nuts.

Exactly what I was going to say. Print them out and get an EPO. It may stop anything from actually happening in the future. And you have a 3 year old. Who knows how crazy she really is.

**Death Bed** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:22 PM

Heh, it sounds like she is all talk, from what I'm reading. She's obviously not bright at all, most of her vocabulary is composed of badly spelled explecitives and empty threats. I mean she called you a "lair". All this time I've been under the impression that you were an actual person, not a home for dragons, or a giant white worm. Just ignore her, she's not worth getting upset about or responding to. Tell Tom about this shit and he'll have her myspace deleted. I had a problem last summer with a couple of cyber stalkers from over at Dread Central who were impersonating me on myspace (I know, I'm easy to obsess over) and I reported them and it was dealt with rather quickly.

**Dakota Valkyrie** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:25 PM

I wouldn't bother doing anything. If she posts a comment, just leave it but don't reply (or delete it as that aknowledges you saw it). Do nothing.

Getting a PO will just feed her and not be of any actual value - it won't stop her from crossing the street to bop you. Keep an eye on her but let her move on to some other drama.

You will NEVER convince her that she is wrong or you are misunderstood. If you don't feed the drama queen she will move on to others... that type always does. (Big deal if she hates you - no big loss).

Like the old saying: You can't have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent.

**Death Bed** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:30 PM

Originally Posted by Dakota_Valkyrie

Like the old saying: You can't have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent.

And she's OBVIOUSLY unarmed!

**penelopejo** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:31 PM

Honestly, I would move. If where you live is an apartment or a rental, you can print the messages as this is grounds for breaking the lease when there is a possible threat to you. But if it is a home, then you can always do what these other fine ladies suggested. Although, I'd do it quick. She needs some meds. I don't know how people can go around putting down babies. Maybe it's her hormones talking but still, bitch sounds CRAZEEE!!

**Death Bed** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:33 PM

Man, the bitch ain't gonna do nothing but wait another 5 months or so and idly threaten her again.

**penelopejo** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:41 PM

Originally Posted by Death Bed

Man, the bitch ain't gonna do nothing but wait another 5 months or so and idly threaten her again.

The only reason I said that is because she has her 3 year old with her. It's really better to be safe than sorry. I wouldn't want my child to see me fight another person because they could possibly get hurt trying to save me.(children do that) We already know of one child who died because her parents had a fight in front of her and they didn't even know what happened to her. So, yeah, she may be all talk and no bite but what if she does stay true to her word and after she pops out the baby she attacks her. Then again, I may be wrong and it may just be the hormones talking.

**Death Bed** · December 2nd, 2008, 06:47 PM

I feel if she was really as pissed off as she is stupid, then she would have already curb stomped her back in the summer. She's just looking to get some attention.

**optimistic pessimist** · December 2nd, 2008, 08:48 PM

i was in a similar situation once, this woman would call me and harrass me over the phone. she would say mean things about my kids and call me derogatory names. i would just laugh at her and would keep my calm cheerful demeanor because that seemed to piss her off more than anything, so she always hung up on me. but, the fun soon wore off and i involved the authorities.

an officer came to my apt. right away and took my statement. he also listened to the msgs i saved (he didnt even get thru a whole msg before he handed the phone back to me shaking his head). anyway, he called her right then and there and informed her that what she was doing was against the law and she would be arrested if it continued. she never called me again. i hope everything works out for you.

**Dasias_Proud_Mommy** · December 2nd, 2008, 08:55 PM

First off, I'm not a fighter, I've never been in a fight in my life....she attacked a girl with a beer bottle once, that scares me a little. I mean I could hold my own, it's just that I don't want to have to.

I own the place that I live so moving is not really and option right now.

I think I may talk to a police man that I know, but getting a PPO would force her and her husband and child to move out of her parents house and I don't want them to not have a place to stay....because of the baby.

I've never had someone after me like this, she is a tad crazy, but hopefully she's all talk...

The first time she messaged me she was up state in the UP and I'm in the LP, so that's why I wasn't worried before.

I'm just so shocked that she would go as low as to talk about my child though, it has me beside myself.

**Pete Bondurant** · December 2nd, 2008, 08:57 PM

You should move....to Burma...Myanmar.

**Rockin Ma** · December 2nd, 2008, 08:59 PM

Sorry I said kick her ass over saying that about your kid. That's what I would do, but it is wrong. I'm too impulsive. I would keep an eye on your car though. She sounds like someone who would key it walking by or flatten a tire in the middle of the night.

**blue_zombie** · December 2nd, 2008, 09:01 PM

Just give me directions, I'll come up, throw myself around a little bit, and trust me, bitch won't bother you again.

Seriously though, like everyone else has said, print out the information, and if you feel that she is going to act on her threats, notify the authorities. Technically, vigilante justice isn't the best course of action, so taking matters into your own hands and beating the bitch down may have repercussions you don't want to deal with, jail for example. Document everything that she does, and then wait for the bitch to make one false move, the minute she does, dial 9-1-1 and have her ass taken away!!! (It will work better than Calgon!) Don't even reply to her postings, you are just feeding into her bullshit drama. Put her on ignore, and avoid them at all costs. Hope this helps!!!

**Dakota Valkyrie** · December 2nd, 2008, 09:06 PM

I'm just so shocked that she would go as low as to talk about my child though, it has me beside myself.

That'll get a mommy every time! If you ever run into her and her kidlet, just say "What a cutie" and go on your merry way. That'll get a mommy every time, too - but in a better way.

**Death Bed** · December 2nd, 2008, 10:28 PM

Post the link to her myspace page.

**DarkPrincess** · December 2nd, 2008, 10:54 PM

I'm with penelopejo. Move away from those 2. They're nothing but trouble. If she sends you more messages, don't reply and show them to the cops. Don't be too upset or phased by her talking shit about your kid. She has no class, as you already know.

**April** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:24 AM

Post the myspace link... Anyone that can talk about a child is a fucking tard. You can delete her from your friends list and make a rule that only your friends can message you. She sounds like a serious cunt faced asshole. I say ignore, delete, report, just don't reply. Tat is only fueling the fire and it isn't worth it. I certainly wouldn't appologize to the hooker - not if you don't fell you have done anything. She sounds like a mental midget.

**claddaghgirl** · December 3rd, 2008, 06:23 AM

DPM...
Make sure you have saved everything she sent you. It sounds like you are dealing with someone who is a few cans short of a six pack.

Don't reply to her...don't fuel the fire. But like I said keep anything she sends you and notify the cops and make sure they are aware of the situation.

For the time being be a bit on guard...it will fizzle out...she will probably find someone else to pester.

Cladd

**claddaghgirl** · December 3rd, 2008, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by Dasias_Proud_Mommy

Thank you all for your help.

I'm not sure I should post the Myspace link, just incase I file charges, I don't want me posting her MySpace page to affect anything...

I'm just so worried about my daughter, for her safety.
Im highly doubtfull that she would do anything, but I'm not SURE.

ugh...I hate this shit.

Don't post the myspace stuff, DPM, just in case. Stay aware and let the cops know what is going on. Keep us updated if she does anything else, ok.

**Dasias_Proud_Mommy** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:11 PM

Thank you all for your help.

I'm not sure I should post the Myspace link, just incase I file charges, I don't want me posting her MySpace page to affect anything...

I'm just so worried about my daughter, for her safety.
Im highly doubtfull that she would do anything, but I'm not SURE.

ugh...I hate this shit.

**Peeperann** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:13 PM

That's the problem hunny, you can't be sure what she'll do. Just be really careful. You have to protect that beautiful child of yours.............

**Death Bed** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:26 PM

Originally Posted by April

Post the myspace link... Anyone that can talk about a child is a fucking tard.

A-fucking-men! Like I was saying with the problem I had with the cyber stalkers, they called my gf's 12 year old son "retarded", but then they went on to not only write Shark Swarm but brag about doing so. It was an irony that did not go unnoticed.

**Death Bed** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:26 PM

Originally Posted by dasias_proud_mommy

thank you all for your help.

I'm not sure i should post the myspace link, just incase i file charges, i don't want me posting her myspace page to affect anything...

I'm just so worried about my daughter, for her safety.
Im highly doubtfull that she would do anything, but i'm not sure.

Ugh...i hate this shit.

kill her mommy. Kill her mommmy. Ki ki ki ki ah ah ah ah.

**tray-bay-bay** · December 3rd, 2008, 12:49 PM

That's seriously fucked up to talk shit about your child!

Do you know the parents they live with? Perhaps you could talk to them. Maybe they will just explain to her that they're too old for the drama. If they fear losing their place to live, maybe she'll get her shit together.