Horrorholic
November 7th, 2007, 08:53 PM
So, I was at a show last night with some friends (Poison The Well) and, after discussing a situation that we have all been "in the know" about, we realized what a huge dilemma we had on our hands. And, although this situation Im about to explain sounds a bit immature, I genuinely wanted to know what you guys thought once I lay down all the facts and my take on it. Its kind of a long story so bear with me.
My friend Josh has been dating this girl Amanda for quite some time, since the summer of 2002 or there about. They broke up briefly in early 2003 when he decided he liked this other girl (who was chud-fucking-ugly)but now denies that was his reason. Whatever.
Summer of last year they decided to move in together. This is also around the time when he turned into a full fledged alcoholic (I know a lot of you guys drink and I'm not condoning that but this guy has a serious problem... apparently, going to the hospital for alcohol poisoning did not help him realize he had one:( Needless to say, Im worried about him in that respect). After they moved in, I noticed he started to not like her so much. The only reason I felt they were together anymore was a) they lived together and that would be awkward and b) he could always go home and fuck her (Though he constantly reminded us that she wasn't that good and he wanted to fuck someone good before they got married). Bottom line: he doesn't really like her anymore and he doesn't need to say it, its pretty obvious. To make matters worse, I watched her go from being worried about his alcohol problem to joining him and putting on about 20 pounds. She has absolutely no back bone and no friends besides for us, which is kind of sad considering she doesn't really talk to us, she just sits there.
I also want to throw in here that me and him had a falling out about a year or two ago when he kept canceling on plans at the last minute until it built up to the point where I yelled and cursed until there was nothing left to say (And, normally, I don't do stuff like that so I surmise he found this generally shocking). Eventually, he apologized and we went back to being friends, even though I think he is kind of a mess.
Well, after trying college out and not liking it, aka he couldn't be bothered to wake up early in the morning to go to class and was more happy working at Steak N' Shake as a waiter while his girlfriend is getting her BFA in graphic design, he decided that the military was the way to go. After training for a while so he could pass the health test to get in, he signed up under the promise they made about them training him to fly a helicopter right away (To which I said, "You've got to be kidding me... it takes years of training to be able to do that!"). Well, a few weeks before he left for boot camp, we went to the movies and he brought this girl with him named Heather. Heather, I think, is quite hideous and brought little conversation to the table. After asking if that was his new girlfriend, he said, "No, Im still with Amanda. She's just a friend." Ok, no biggie, though I found it weird that from that time on, Amanda never did anything with us when that girl was there.
Well, the night before he left for boot camp, we all went out to eat and someone made a real weird comment about him and Heather, while she was sitting at the table, cheeks brightly blushed, to which he said to me, "I'll tell you about it later." Never happened. Amanda did not show up that night because he said he told her he wanted to be with his friends on his last night and would be spending the day with her tomorrow.
After he left, I started having lunch with his girlfriend on Thursdays, since we both have a break in between classes at the same time. We were talking about the new Resident Evil movie when I asked how come she didn't come to watch it with me, Josh and Heather. She gave me a really blank look and said, "No one invited me." Wow. Then, she asked about her, to which I responded she was really ugly and stupid.
So, every week or so, Amanda sends me a Myspace message or comment asking about lunch for that week. And I noticed something really weird... Heather and Amanda had become friends. At first, I thought it was odd, seeing as they had never met and I had no idea how they found each other. Also, it was weird seeing how bad their love triangle looked, though no one could really say whether anything happened or not. It just looked suspicious.
Well, last night, I mention this at the show and the guys I was with, Brandon and Patrick, start laughing uncontrollably. "Oh, its real funny!" they said. Apparently, the comment made at the restaurant the night before he left was about the party the previous weekend. Josh and Heather had sex, under Josh's assumption that "she'll never see me again anyway. Im going into the army in three days and no one will ever know. Its the greatest plan ever!!11!!!111!!1!"
Now, these two girls are best friends and he comes home in a month, to a surprise welcome home party that both of these girls are attending. Now, this could be the funniest thing I'll ever see in my life, though I can't help but feel really bad for Amanda. In fact, all of us feel really bad, seeing as while I was not at this party, everyone told him it was an awful idea before they did it. The question lies here...
Should one of us say something to this poor girl, so she doesn't involuntarily get embarrassed and devastated behind her wildest dreams at this party? There's a million things going through our minds at this point...
-On one hand, what he did was a real scumbag thing. They had talked about getting married and although he always talked shit about sleeping with something else, I also though it was just that: talking shit. None of us like this other chick. And, although Im friends with this guy, I really can't help but feel like an accomplice. I'm great at keeping secrets but this one is really getting to me for some reason.
- On the other hand, I could just say its none of my business, even though I would feel awful. She would be devastated beyond belief and, I shit you not, would probably attempt suicide if someone told her, so maybe its not the wisest situation. Hell, maybe her and this girl will become such good friends that they'll end up talking about it...
So, what about it everyone?
My friend Josh has been dating this girl Amanda for quite some time, since the summer of 2002 or there about. They broke up briefly in early 2003 when he decided he liked this other girl (who was chud-fucking-ugly)but now denies that was his reason. Whatever.
Summer of last year they decided to move in together. This is also around the time when he turned into a full fledged alcoholic (I know a lot of you guys drink and I'm not condoning that but this guy has a serious problem... apparently, going to the hospital for alcohol poisoning did not help him realize he had one:( Needless to say, Im worried about him in that respect). After they moved in, I noticed he started to not like her so much. The only reason I felt they were together anymore was a) they lived together and that would be awkward and b) he could always go home and fuck her (Though he constantly reminded us that she wasn't that good and he wanted to fuck someone good before they got married). Bottom line: he doesn't really like her anymore and he doesn't need to say it, its pretty obvious. To make matters worse, I watched her go from being worried about his alcohol problem to joining him and putting on about 20 pounds. She has absolutely no back bone and no friends besides for us, which is kind of sad considering she doesn't really talk to us, she just sits there.
I also want to throw in here that me and him had a falling out about a year or two ago when he kept canceling on plans at the last minute until it built up to the point where I yelled and cursed until there was nothing left to say (And, normally, I don't do stuff like that so I surmise he found this generally shocking). Eventually, he apologized and we went back to being friends, even though I think he is kind of a mess.
Well, after trying college out and not liking it, aka he couldn't be bothered to wake up early in the morning to go to class and was more happy working at Steak N' Shake as a waiter while his girlfriend is getting her BFA in graphic design, he decided that the military was the way to go. After training for a while so he could pass the health test to get in, he signed up under the promise they made about them training him to fly a helicopter right away (To which I said, "You've got to be kidding me... it takes years of training to be able to do that!"). Well, a few weeks before he left for boot camp, we went to the movies and he brought this girl with him named Heather. Heather, I think, is quite hideous and brought little conversation to the table. After asking if that was his new girlfriend, he said, "No, Im still with Amanda. She's just a friend." Ok, no biggie, though I found it weird that from that time on, Amanda never did anything with us when that girl was there.
Well, the night before he left for boot camp, we all went out to eat and someone made a real weird comment about him and Heather, while she was sitting at the table, cheeks brightly blushed, to which he said to me, "I'll tell you about it later." Never happened. Amanda did not show up that night because he said he told her he wanted to be with his friends on his last night and would be spending the day with her tomorrow.
After he left, I started having lunch with his girlfriend on Thursdays, since we both have a break in between classes at the same time. We were talking about the new Resident Evil movie when I asked how come she didn't come to watch it with me, Josh and Heather. She gave me a really blank look and said, "No one invited me." Wow. Then, she asked about her, to which I responded she was really ugly and stupid.
So, every week or so, Amanda sends me a Myspace message or comment asking about lunch for that week. And I noticed something really weird... Heather and Amanda had become friends. At first, I thought it was odd, seeing as they had never met and I had no idea how they found each other. Also, it was weird seeing how bad their love triangle looked, though no one could really say whether anything happened or not. It just looked suspicious.
Well, last night, I mention this at the show and the guys I was with, Brandon and Patrick, start laughing uncontrollably. "Oh, its real funny!" they said. Apparently, the comment made at the restaurant the night before he left was about the party the previous weekend. Josh and Heather had sex, under Josh's assumption that "she'll never see me again anyway. Im going into the army in three days and no one will ever know. Its the greatest plan ever!!11!!!111!!1!"
Now, these two girls are best friends and he comes home in a month, to a surprise welcome home party that both of these girls are attending. Now, this could be the funniest thing I'll ever see in my life, though I can't help but feel really bad for Amanda. In fact, all of us feel really bad, seeing as while I was not at this party, everyone told him it was an awful idea before they did it. The question lies here...
Should one of us say something to this poor girl, so she doesn't involuntarily get embarrassed and devastated behind her wildest dreams at this party? There's a million things going through our minds at this point...
-On one hand, what he did was a real scumbag thing. They had talked about getting married and although he always talked shit about sleeping with something else, I also though it was just that: talking shit. None of us like this other chick. And, although Im friends with this guy, I really can't help but feel like an accomplice. I'm great at keeping secrets but this one is really getting to me for some reason.
- On the other hand, I could just say its none of my business, even though I would feel awful. She would be devastated beyond belief and, I shit you not, would probably attempt suicide if someone told her, so maybe its not the wisest situation. Hell, maybe her and this girl will become such good friends that they'll end up talking about it...
So, what about it everyone?