Bernard “B.J.” Caple is a deadbeat who hates his kid

[andrea]

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Nothing says I love my kid like skipping out on child support and leaving ‘em high and dry. Isn’t that right, “B.J.”?

Today’s deadbeat fucktard, Bernard J. Caple 32, is currently staring on the Illinois Child Support Enforcement wanted list for past due support to the tune of $71,979. His last known address was in Durham, N.C. where he has previously pleaded guilty to “resisting a public officer” and earned 60 days in jail.

Caple has been careful to evade arrest and no current address can be found for him. However, he couldn’t resist getting a myspace page (private) which shows him living in Junction City, KS. If any of you out there want to take a shot at finding his address, the number to turn him in is 1-800-447-4278 (TTY: 1-800-526-5812) or you may alternately send information by email (hfswebmaster@illinois.gov)subject – “Deadbeats”.

DOB: 11/01/75 Height: 6'03" Weight: 205 lbs Hair color: Brown Eye color: Hazel Last known address: 520 Walton Street Durham, NC 27703-4638

[ImmortalOne]

Damn and I thought $19,199 past due child support was bad. WoW.

[ceisdsgil]

my first thought was: "Does BJ stand for Blow Job?" :noidea:


i hope they find this guy.

~ceisdsgil

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These are *my* thoughts. IF you do not like them, Tough! Put on your big girl panties and learn to deal with it.

[tricia381]

my first thought was: "Does BJ stand for Blow Job?" :noidea:


If it did, he might be able to afford to pay his child support.

[Abroad]

If it did, he might be able to afford to pay his child support.

If he'd stuck to those, he would not have to worry about paying child support in the first place.

[Aelwynn]

I did a little bit of snooping. All I could find myself was a Byran J Caple, 32, from Ottawa, KS. I doubt it's the same person. I hope someone finds this dickweed soon. That's a ton of money he owes.

[Gilbrit]

wanted list for past due support to the tune of $71,979

If he was out of work, the only requirement would be to prove that and earnestly get another job.

The guidelines may be different from state to state but if you are not working, you cannot pay child support. The court may hassle you but it beats racking up a debt to the tune of 71k.

In owing that much money now, he may have gone below the radar and now only works for cash.

[StaceyC]

BJ Caple has dropped off the face of the earth again. I kicked him out a year ago after being married to him for 7 1/2 years (the divorce was finalized this month!!!). He has since refused to return phone calls from his 2 kids that we have together after preaching about he can't live without his children. He originally moved in with his dad in Junction city, KS, but has since moved back to Champaign, IL to live with his mom. Yes, 34 years old and back to living with his mom. He has never paid a penny in child support and refuses to have a job so he doesn't have to pay. He is a compulsive liar who will tell you anything you want to hear and steals when he doesn't have beer/cigarette money. He pawned my wedding band for $30 and then bitched at me for losing it when I freaked out because I couldn't find it. I found the pawn ticket later in his wallet. I tried to make things work for the sake of the kids. I supported his lazy ass for 7 years. I rolled my eyes as he told people how he was a Navy SEAL, toured with Oz Fest, built houses all over the US, and played college football, but he doesn't know the difference between reality and the shit he tells people anymore. Even when confronted with physical proof that he was lying, he still tried to make up cover-up stories. I hope that he is found and spends a long time in jail and that my kids grow up to forget he was ever part of their lives.

[jenthgr8]

So, did he owe child support on children from a previous relationship? Did you know he was dodging it? Did his facial hair look that gay in real life?

[petrina]

so... what does the bj stand for, stacey?

[Amazon]

I did a little bit of snooping. All I could find myself was a Byran J Caple, 32, from Ottawa, KS. I doubt it's the same person. I hope someone finds this dickweed soon. That's a ton of money he owes.

Turn it in.
Better to check and be wrong rather than not check and be right.

[Amazon]

BJ Caple has dropped off the face of the earth again. I kicked him out a year ago after being married to him for 7 1/2 years (the divorce was finalized this month!!!).

Mind you, I am behind you 1000%, but I wonder what you hope to gain from this loser?
You've got two children from him that I bet are beautiful, and since we know the sins of the father don't spread to the son (children), you no longer need this waste of skin. You're obviously smart enough to divorce him/it.
I'm not gonna say "get over it" because... how DOES one get over it? I never did when something similar happened to me, only thankfully no children are involved.

[Rotten Apple]

Mind you, I am behind you 1000%, but I wonder what you hope to gain from this loser?


Its not what SHE hopes to gain but probably more what she wants for her children.

Can you imagine having to cover up for an asshat that has basically abandoned his children? The presence of a father in a child's life is worth way more than any money could make up for.

Hopefully there are other strong male role models around.

[proudmom]

Its not what SHE hopes to gain but probably more what she wants for her children.

Can you imagine having to cover up for an asshat that has basically abandoned his children? The presence of a father in a child's life is worth way more than any money could make up for.

Hopefully there are other strong male role models around.

This is so so true... My 8 year old son has a father that was there for the fist 6 years of his life every weekend he took him for visits every holiday. Then one day he took off to Oklahoma. Never said a thing just didn't pick my son up from school on Friday like usual (that was the most heartbreaking call i ever got was him screaming that daddy didn't want to get him for the weekend).

My sons dad is a loser always has been but it meant alot to my son that he was there for those weekends. He didn't care that daddy didnt work and daddy lived in his grandpas basement. All he cared about was that he got to see him every weekend.

Two years later and my son still struggles with not having his daddy around anymore. From time to time he still asks why he left. His dad calls him on his birthday and on Christmas but my son wants so much more. I was lucky and my fiancé has totally taken him in as his own boy. He even coaches my sons baseball team.

Not sure why i felt the need to share that just thought it was appropriate i suppose.

[thequeenofsorrow]

Yes, 34 years old and back to living with his mom. He has never paid a penny in child support and refuses to have a job so he doesn't have to pay. .

girl my kids dad is 47 and lives with his mom. he's on welfare for a bad back/says he cant work. i feel you!! *hugs* mine is 100 months behind give or take a month

[petrina]

hmm. maybe that is why i fall in lurve with older men.

[Alicatt]

Just in case this loser wants to go back to JC in KS I will send his pic out to my guys down there Ft. Riley is right there and Military guy take great offense to child support dodgers since they have no choice but to pay since the government owns their asses so they make sure others pay as well! Oh is there any type of reward for this dude?

[Rawrehz]

get yo money honey $!$

[scorpiogirl]

You people must be bored.

[Nell]

You people must be bored.

WTF?

[mysticviewer]

Nice to know I can have my daughters sperm donors face put up on the Il state site. BTW they should update his photo...he must have had that taken ten years ago....he looks different in his myspace pic.

[Amazon]

Its not what SHE hopes to gain but probably more what she wants for her children.




Good call. I hadn't though about that. But... sounds like the children are better off without him as well.

[buzzbomb]

I wouldn't dispute that this guy is a loser peice of crap, or the other deadbeat dads who are being mentioned - but I can't help but wonder...

...if these guys were such huge peices of shit, and "have always been that way" - why the hell would you decide to procreate with them? And then to ice that cake, why expect a total loser like that to actually fix his screw ups and pay after the fact?

I wouldn't go impregnate a retarded hooker with a meth problem, and then complain that she was a horrible mom and wife. I just wouldn't fuck with her in the first place. I suppose hindsight is 20/20 and all that, but it seems like more than half of the stories on this website could be avoided if these douchebag losers like BJ weren't gettin' so much play from the ladies.

[biteme]

I wouldn't dispute that this guy is a loser peice of crap, or the other deadbeat dads who are being mentioned - but I can't help but wonder...

...if these guys were such huge peices of shit, and "have always been that way" - why the hell would you decide to procreate with them? And then to ice that cake, why expect a total loser like that to actually fix his screw ups and pay after the fact?

I wouldn't go impregnate a retarded hooker with a meth problem, and then complain that she was a horrible mom and wife. I just wouldn't fuck with her in the first place. I suppose hindsight is 20/20 and all that, but it seems like more than half of the stories on this website could be avoided if these douchebag losers like BJ weren't gettin' so much play from the ladies.
psychopaths can seem quite normal even charismatic for long periods of time, always a believable excuse for whatever, because they believe it themselves it rings true

[buzzbomb]

Them believing it themselves has nothing to do with if the woman believes it, and decides to let some douchebag jizz all up in her guts.

And let's be honest here - while I'm sure there's a few cases of someone just radically changing, or perhaps being a good enough liar to fool a woman who wasn't a total retard - look at the above posts I am referencing.

I'm not seeing anything there about how awesome the guy was and then changed, it's all "He's always been a douchebag". Which I'm sure is the case. And it seems like with something as important as procreating and deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone, perhaps you might want to be more selective, and perhaps do some due diligence and make sure the guy's stories check out.

So I stick by what I said before, if the ladies out there weren't giving these fuckups so much action, probably more than half the posts on DD wouldn't be here.

The morale of the story? Don't fuck losers, and then complain when they don't take care of their kids or you. They're losers - that's what they do, and you should be smart enough to figure that out and avoid it.

[Amazon]

But... "It can't happen to me. This time it will be different."
It's true. We all have to stumble every so often to learn a lesson.
I can't tell you how charming my ex was. I believed him, fell in love with him.
Many many people told me he was a loser, but I didn't listen, COULDN'T listen because I loved him and he loved me and that was all that mattered.
So I can see how this woman got involved. Too bad there are children to deal with it, too.
No, what I said above doesn't make it right, or even that love is enough, but for love... lonely people will do almost anything.

[thequeenofsorrow]

"...if these guys were such huge peices of shit, and "have always been that way" - why the hell would you decide to procreate with them? "

yeah that was a "my bad" here . i was 16 and believed a whole lot of BS.

very good question though

[buzzbomb]

You know... I thought again about my post, and while I may still be right in posting it, like my dad used to say "Son, just because you're right doesn't mean you're not an asshole". I think I may have been out of line saying that. Gasp! Yes, I am actually apologizing.

Things like this just bother the hell out of me. I grew up seeing my mother pick the wrong men over and over, and get screwed because of it. I saw my sisters repeat that time and time again, and it just killed me.

The fact is, though, that if my mother had chosen some clean-cut guy who would have kept a regular 9-5 job and been the typical "good dad", I wouldn't be here right now. Instead she chose a slacker, a pothead, a man who died without a penny at the age of 52... who was also one of the finest men to ever walk the face of this planet.

I still don't see the point in bitching about it after the fact - but I suppose we're all entitled to a few mistakes, especially when matters of the heart are involved. Not a whole lot of logic in love, and it's stupid to try to place it there.

Again, my apologies.