jlt080405
April 28th, 2008, 01:48 PM
my name is tonya, i have read probably at least 60% (maybe less) of the site over the last couple of weeks. I have turned my mother and a few others on to the site. I love it! i have been obsessed with the psychology of crime for as long as i can remember. I am 36 with a female partner named jessica and our 4 year old child. I was abused as a child (in more than one way) and I am committed to ensuring the public's awareness in as many ways as possible to potential or known offenders of various degrees.
As a sidenote, I would really appreciate help in finding ANY articles on a particular offender who molested me and my sister over the course of 6 mos. to one yr. My personal memories of it are very jaded, however, i believe that there are still many parts of the memory that are factual, I will fill in that information before asking this communities help in finding any info on the offender.
My sister and myself were molested over a period of many months by a "family friend" who was likely at minial 16-22 yrs older than us. I believe this abuse started when i was somewhere between the age of 7-9 which would have been sometime between the years of '78-'80. After my younger sister (three yrs younger) slipped to my parents by complete accident that my parents' family friend ( I believe his name was Dave, and i distinctly remember hme driving a van) was doing something very fun - touching and performing oral surgery on our vaginas, allowing us to touch and "kiss" his genitals. my parents called me in and inquired about my younger sister's claims. I told them they were all true and this had been going on for many months. I also told them that this was not only restricted to me and my baby sister but many neighbor girls that came to our house to play. The last actual memory that i have of this is when "dave" came to our house after we had talked to our parents but before the police had finished their investigation. I clearly remember my dad breaking a bottle and stopping dave with the bottle at his throat as soon as he stepped out of his van. From there everything is way too muddled.
When i was about 15 or 16 i started having nightmares about dave, and after severe behavioral problems, i summoned up the courage to tell my mother the truth, that i was having nightmares about dave. Where he is, if he would find me and my sister again, etc. I think that a very recent molestion i suffered around this time triggered the subconscious spurring the nightmares. I also learned at this time that i had gone through six months of psycho-therapy immediately following the incident, not even one session do i remember. Additionally, I told my mother i was extremely upset that the police didnt believe us. To which my mother responded that was the furthest from the truth they took the allegations entirely as truth and proceeded in investigation and ultimately charges awaiting trial.
My mother went on to tell me that "name omitted" 's grandfather (who apprently was in some level or another of law enforcement) had killed dave and left him in his van somewhere deep in michigans woods. Apparently this was done b/c at this time it was not uncommon to release people awaiting trial or during trial to household that had other children as residents. Allegedly, whem my friends grandfather learned of where this fat, sick, fuck was living amongst many other children, he decided to eliminate him in fear of other abuses awaiting trial. He allegedly killed dave in the woods where he would likely never be found.
At around (this may be off by a few years) 26 (1997 or so) I again told my mother that thoughts of dave were overwhelming my memories. She told me she had recently read an article online that stated they had in fact found his body i believe somewhere in the woods in michigan. due in part to emotional issues, i decided not to read the article.
I would appreciate any help in finding articles or info on this matter.
I believe at the time of the incident i was living in Houghton Lake michigan. I would love to find out what really happened, although i must confess i would not want info on the girls grandfather who my mother alleges killed dave becoming public (he did society a favor even if it was a crime, possibly saving countless additional children future abuse) although after seeing my father after everything came out i would have to say it could just as easily have been him. He passed away in 2000 so i honestly do not know.
As a sidenote, I would really appreciate help in finding ANY articles on a particular offender who molested me and my sister over the course of 6 mos. to one yr. My personal memories of it are very jaded, however, i believe that there are still many parts of the memory that are factual, I will fill in that information before asking this communities help in finding any info on the offender.
My sister and myself were molested over a period of many months by a "family friend" who was likely at minial 16-22 yrs older than us. I believe this abuse started when i was somewhere between the age of 7-9 which would have been sometime between the years of '78-'80. After my younger sister (three yrs younger) slipped to my parents by complete accident that my parents' family friend ( I believe his name was Dave, and i distinctly remember hme driving a van) was doing something very fun - touching and performing oral surgery on our vaginas, allowing us to touch and "kiss" his genitals. my parents called me in and inquired about my younger sister's claims. I told them they were all true and this had been going on for many months. I also told them that this was not only restricted to me and my baby sister but many neighbor girls that came to our house to play. The last actual memory that i have of this is when "dave" came to our house after we had talked to our parents but before the police had finished their investigation. I clearly remember my dad breaking a bottle and stopping dave with the bottle at his throat as soon as he stepped out of his van. From there everything is way too muddled.
When i was about 15 or 16 i started having nightmares about dave, and after severe behavioral problems, i summoned up the courage to tell my mother the truth, that i was having nightmares about dave. Where he is, if he would find me and my sister again, etc. I think that a very recent molestion i suffered around this time triggered the subconscious spurring the nightmares. I also learned at this time that i had gone through six months of psycho-therapy immediately following the incident, not even one session do i remember. Additionally, I told my mother i was extremely upset that the police didnt believe us. To which my mother responded that was the furthest from the truth they took the allegations entirely as truth and proceeded in investigation and ultimately charges awaiting trial.
My mother went on to tell me that "name omitted" 's grandfather (who apprently was in some level or another of law enforcement) had killed dave and left him in his van somewhere deep in michigans woods. Apparently this was done b/c at this time it was not uncommon to release people awaiting trial or during trial to household that had other children as residents. Allegedly, whem my friends grandfather learned of where this fat, sick, fuck was living amongst many other children, he decided to eliminate him in fear of other abuses awaiting trial. He allegedly killed dave in the woods where he would likely never be found.
At around (this may be off by a few years) 26 (1997 or so) I again told my mother that thoughts of dave were overwhelming my memories. She told me she had recently read an article online that stated they had in fact found his body i believe somewhere in the woods in michigan. due in part to emotional issues, i decided not to read the article.
I would appreciate any help in finding articles or info on this matter.
I believe at the time of the incident i was living in Houghton Lake michigan. I would love to find out what really happened, although i must confess i would not want info on the girls grandfather who my mother alleges killed dave becoming public (he did society a favor even if it was a crime, possibly saving countless additional children future abuse) although after seeing my father after everything came out i would have to say it could just as easily have been him. He passed away in 2000 so i honestly do not know.