New Study Finds Young Men To Be Clueless

[Athena]

Perhaps I should should feel bad for being a flirtatious character? Nah...They're going to assume I'm flirting either way, apparently. Why not have fun with it? :p

Clueless Guys Can't Read Women
Jeanna Bryner LiveScience Staff Writer
LiveScience.com
2 hours, 35 minutes ago

More often than not, guys interpret even friendly cues, such as a subtle smile from a gal, as a sexual come-on, and a new study discovers why: Guys are clueless.

More precisely, they are somewhat oblivious to the emotional subtleties of non-verbal cues, according to a new study of college students.

"Young men just find it difficult to tell the difference between women who are being friendly and women who are interested in something more," said lead researcher Coreen Farris of Indiana University's Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences.

This "lost in translation" phenomenon plays out in the real world, with about 70 percent of college women reporting an experience in which a guy mistook her friendliness for a sexual come-on, Farris said.

Some might think the results come down to "boys being boys," and so even the slightest female interest sparks sexual fantasy. But the study, to be detailed in the April issue of the journal Psychological Science, also found that it goes both ways for guys - they mistake females' sexual signals as friendly ones. The researchers suggest guys have trouble noticing and interpreting the subtleties of non-verbal cues, in either direction.

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[Pirelli Jones]

I don't think its just young guys, don't smile at me on the street unless you really wanna bump uglies.

[Angel]

Guys are clueless......hmmmm....and this is new news, HOW? I've been firmly convinced for years that men are clueless - and not just in the romantic sense, either. Hell, most men whose wives I've had the pleasure of talking to, had to be taught by said wife, that socks and underwear don't actually walk THEMSELVES to the laundry room. My husband seems to still have trouble with that concept on occasion. Clueless....absolutely!;)

[skeptical]

Researchers are just now figuring this out? I've known it for 25 years!

[Rotten Apple]

Non-verbal cues are too easily misinterpreted by everyone I think.

This is why men and women are always accusing each other of playing games.

Wouldn't it be easier if everyone would just say, "Hey, at some point in the future, I would like to have intercourse with you."

That way, once the other person responds, everything is out in the open. No guessing.

See how simple?

[Athena]

Oh, I don't know, Kathy...A little mystery is a good thing, no?

[Rotten Apple]

Oh, I don't know, Kathy...A little mystery is a good thing, no?

I'm being silly, a little more modesty should be used I think, but I think girls who play games are the ones that confuse the hell out of these poor guys.

Its just a part of being single that I DO NOT miss.

[Athena]

I'm being silly, a little more modesty should be used I think, but I think girls who play games are the ones that confuse the hell out of these poor guys.



Oh, I know you were exaggerating. :p

Still, haven't you ever innocently friendly to a guy, only to have him latch on? In fact...weren't you complaining about that kind of situation with a co-worker not too long ago?

[CPL CHUD]

I'm sorry, what were you girls saying again? I was watching T.V.

[The Diabolical Mr. Lieman]

They were playing more games, CHUD.

You see, women love to flirt, and deny. Its a power thing to them. But really...I know without a shadow of a doubt...a girl smiles at me?

She wants it.

But the irony of this thread is great.

[impqueen]

You see, women love to flirt, and deny. Its a power thing to them.

Dude, sometimes you scare me.

If i want a man, I tell him. I may not tell him right away, but I don't let years pass before I get it said. If i'm flirting with a man, he will figure it out and it won't take long.

That said, I have been friendly in a professional manner with men who thought I was more available than I was. I've had a couple of scary stalkers who've had me moving and changing employment and everything else, all because I was nice and trying to be friendly, but not flirtatious. And those guys are really, really scary. Now that I work at home I don't have to deal with that, and that's one big reason I am no longer in the medical field.

One man told me it was my fault because of how my eyes and lips look. I know, right? Like I can help that. Jebus.

[Rotten Apple]

Still, haven't you ever innocently friendly to a guy, only to have him latch on? In fact...weren't you complaining about that kind of situation with a co-worker not too long ago?

Heh. I sure did. :o

But in all fairness, he was attracted to me and initiated all conversation. He kept trying because I didn't immediately tell him to fuck off. It is my job and I do have to be cordial to my co-workers...most of the time.

Let's just say, he leaves me alone now. :D

[swivel]

New study finds that women can't learn to just say what they fucking mean.

This study was conducted by the same group that previously concluded that men tend to speak their mind.

Fortunately, both studies were carried out by an all-male group of scientists, who published their findings with neat graphs and a detailed synopsis of the research methods.

A rival group of female scientists have been working on similar studies for two decades now, and after much in-fighting, bickering, back-stabbing, and having their progress bogged down by trying to do all work as an egalitarian "committee", rather than assigning a leader and delegating tasks to the most qualified amongst them, they finally wrapped up their research and presented their findings at a major conference by getting on stage and conducting a long series of shrugs and micro-facial maneuvers.

[gprime]

I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I always assume, apparently several times mistakenly, that women are merely being friendly, with no greater intentions. Frankly, non-verbal cues are a pain in the ass. And so are verbal ones, unless they are frank and direct.

[The Diabolical Mr. Lieman]

Dude, sometimes you scare me.

If i want a man, I tell him. I may not tell him right away, but I don't let years pass before I get it said. If i'm flirting with a man, he will figure it out and it won't take long.

That said, I have been friendly in a professional manner with men who thought I was more available than I was. I've had a couple of scary stalkers who've had me moving and changing employment and everything else, all because I was nice and trying to be friendly, but not flirtatious. And those guys are really, really scary. Now that I work at home I don't have to deal with that, and that's one big reason I am no longer in the medical field.

One man told me it was my fault because of how my eyes and lips look. I know, right? Like I can help that. Jebus.


The stalker thing is freaky. As much as I criticize women, men I think, are worse in many ways. I watch Carmella, my gf sometimes, and shes very attractive, and I see men acting like complete and utter fucking morons around her. And we're weak as hell, man. WOmen turn us to shit.

But sure, Ive been guilty a few times of taking things wrong. :cool: