Jonna Boelke showed her nude photos; Teen's mom wants her as an RSO

[Dakota Valkyrie]

http://i43.tinypic.com/2eplw8l.jpgA Glen Carbon woman who allegedly showed nude photographs of herself to two boys should have to register as a sex offender, says the mother of one of the boys.

The Glen Carbon woman, 45-year-old Jonna Boelke, has been charged with two counts of delivery of alcohol to a minor and two counts of sexual exploitation of a child. She is accused of giving alcohol to two 15-year-old boys in August and showing them nude pictures of herself.
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The mother of one of the boys, a Fairview Heights woman, said Madison County prosecutors have offered Boelke a plea deal in which she would not have to register as a sex offender.
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At her home Monday, Boelke declined to comment on the charges. She said she is suffering from Lyme disease and fibromyalgia.

The Fairview Heights mother said her son met Boelke through an Internet-based game, World of Warcraft. She said she initially allowed her son to be around Boelke because she had no reason to be suspicious of her. The Fairview Heights woman said she wants others to be aware of Boelke.

The plea agreement "defeats the purpose of her having to register," she said. "I don't want this to happen to any other families."

The Fairview Heights woman said Boelke called her one day and gave a story about their children being acquainted.

"She said, 'My daughter's having a birthday party this weekend and we want to surprise her by having (your son) over,'" the Fairview Heights woman said.

The mother said her son's intention was to meet Boelke's daughter. He stayed overnight at Boelke's home that night.

"After her husband went to bed at 2 o'clock in the morning, she brought out the alcohol," the Fairview Heights woman said. "They walked down to the cemetery, down the road. Between 2 and 4 in the morning, she gave them 14 shots of straight vodka, each."

The mother said Boelke then began calling her son, asking whether he could help move furniture or cut her lawn, or go fishing with her or to Six Flags. The mother said she grew suspicious and confronted her son.http://www.bnd.com/news/crime/story/827186.html

With what they are saying here, I'm not sure she needs to register as a sex offender. Although, there may be more that isn't reported here. She should face consequences.

Her MySpace: http://www.myspace.com/jonna_moon

She mentions her son's illness on her eBay profile: http://cgi3.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewUserPage&userid=slayr101

Article on son (autistic with leukemia): http://granitecitypress-record.stltoday.com/articles/2008/07/23/news/sj2tn20080723-0723edw-leukemiapatient0.ii1.txt

While it does not take major brains to figure out that you shouldn't be showing off your nudie shots, I wonder if it was part of her "modeling" crap. I dunno :noidea: it can go any which way for me on this one.

[mysticviewer]

She feels younger and youthful than 33 and hates to tell her age....ummmmm 15 years young? :nono2:

[dr_awkward]

According to the mom:

Between 2 and 4 in the morning, she gave them 14 shots of straight vodka, each.

I say bullshit at that, at least. Those boys would have been in the hospital after 14 shots, not ogling nudie neighbor pics.
I don't know, while it's obvious the boy's mom is exaggerating some things, she's right to be concerned that Boelke had the boys sleep over and even continued to call and try to spend time with them.
She may be one of those people who never seem to want to grow out of being a teenager. Hard to say if her intent was malicious, or just an attempt to stroke her own ego by having a couple young guys think she's hot.

[Death Bed]

The only crime I find her guilty of is looking that good after 40.

[malq]

What would the case be if it were a 40 year old male showing nudes of himself to teens and giving them alcohol?
I am willing to bet harsh and mandatory RSO.
I see no difference except I wished it happened to me when I was 15.

[jenthgr8]

The only crime I find her guilty of is looking that good after 40.

She is pretty foxy. Hot damn!

What would the case be if it were a 40 year old male showing nudes of himself to teens and giving them alcohol?

Excellent point. If this were a man, not a hot woman, I think some of us would feel differently about the severity of the crime.

[Athena]

I see no difference except I wished it happened to me when I was 15.

And, therein lies the difference.

Not long ago, we had a thread about a Romanian girl who auctioned her virginity for $3,000+ dollars. Several of the women here wondered why the hell a man would pay that much for sex.

Why? Why do men pay ridiculous amounts for sex? Throw thousands of dollars away on a lifetime of nudie mags and porn? Why is the "headache excuse" synonymous with women, but not men? If we were to compare the number of men on the internet surfing for porn or asking random women for nudes to the percentage of women who do the same, what would be find?

A difference. A BIG difference.

Males and females are not the same. We have very different sexual interests hardwired into us. Often times, a 40 year old male is using the alcohol to make his young female target malleable. To a couple of teenage guys being hit on by some milf, the alcohol is just a bonus.

I don't know how to go about accounting for the difference. But it should be considered when it comes time for sentencing. Age of consent laws were established, in part, to prevent the creation of victims. How many people consider these boys victims? What are the odds that these boys consider themselves victims?

[Dakota Valkyrie]

she's right to be concerned that Boelke had the boys sleep over and even continued to call and try to spend time with them.
Even the MOM says her son's intention was to meet Boelke's daughter. Why was she allowing her son to sleep over someplace she was unfamiliar with and where a young girl was interested in her son??

[Peeperann]

At her home Monday, Boelke declined to comment on the charges. She said she is suffering from Lyme disease and fibromyalgia.


And what is her reason for sharing that info? Is that her excuse? LMAO! No Athena, I really don't think of the boys as victims, as DB said, most 15 year olds want this shit to happen. Should it have? No. She is pervy and wrong.

[dr_awkward]

Even the MOM says her son's intention was to meet Boelke's daughter. Why was she allowing her son to sleep over someplace she was unfamiliar with and where a young girl was interested in her son??

That's another thing that struck me, Boelke just calls the boy's mother up one day and says "I know your teenage son, can he come over and spend the night for my daughter's birthday?" From the article it doesn't sound like she had met Boelke or even knew for sure she had a daughter, but she allowed her 15 year old to stay there anyway.
Perhaps she's overreacting now because she feels guilty about underreacting then.

[Death Bed]

I added her on MySpace. I will get to the bottom of this.

[Meagan]

There's a lot more involved with this woman. A lot more! The newspaper can only say so much...

[Death Bed]

Makes me wish I was 17.

[DogMom]

There's a lot more involved with this woman. A lot more! The newspaper can only say so much...

Do tell.

[Meagan]

Makes me wish I was 17.

Wow!! You look like you're about 45 yourself. Why don't you just send YOUR teenage son over there to go fishing with their family?

The fact of the matter is these are CHILDREN - whether they are boys or girls. She's a mother of two teenagers herself and a very sick child AND A HUSBAND! Her children are victims also.

Men are pigs, Death Bed. You're saying it's okay to get these kids drunk and show them nude pictures of yourself? Maybe you need to register.

[Nell]

Men are pigs, Death Bed. You're saying it's okay to get these kids drunk and show them nude pictures of yourself? Maybe you need to register.

Unwarranted hostility, today at DD. Are you the mother of this boy?

[Meagan]

Unwarranted hostility, today at DD. Are you the mother of this boy?

I can't speak for the mother of the boy in the article but I do know the other family, and the detective who handled the case. As you can see from the posts, men have this "high five" reaction to this type of case and it makes me sick. It's not unwarranted hostility if someone is making light of a child being abused.

[Nell]

We make light of a lot of things here, or we couldn't hang for long. Seriously. You are flipping out on people for jokes. I totally understand were you are coming from, but chill.

If I had to judge which story was the most horrific on DD, this one would be at last freaking place. Did she even touch their willies or was it just showing of pics? Really, I am curious. Cause the baby that was hammered to death would get my outrage before this shit.

[Death Bed]

Wow!! You look like you're about 45 yourself.

This is me in my prime!:

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_vAl473slkq8/R54X699i3tI/AAAAAAAAAVg/aRqyNDU_zZM/s400/Piper_Gateway_greeting%5B1%5D.jpg

Why don't you just send YOUR teenage son over there to go fishing with their family?

I have a son? WTF? I had a dream this afternoon I had a baby kid in the house. That was scary enough, but now I have adolescent? This day just gets worse and worse!

Men are pigs, Death Bed. You're saying it's okay to get these kids drunk and show them nude pictures of yourself? Maybe you need to register.

Men are pigs and women are whores! You need to go back to your home on WHORE ISLAND.

I'm not saying that what she did is right, she should be punished for breaking the law. What I'm saying is that I'm sure the boys are not traumatized at all.

[Meagan]

I do apologize but I didn't know the baby that was hammered to death personally like I know this case. I didn't read the baby case either but I'm sure people weren't making light of it. How terribly awful!

The detectives were disgusted by this woman, and there was other disturbing activity besides just the photos but she is only charged with the four charges and they are dropping the ones that will make her register. It's kinda like her word against the kids and these are the only things she admitted to. I don't know for sure, but I'm sure that's probably why the other kid's mother is getting newpaper coverage. Frankly - if it was my kid I would have just taken matters into my own hands. I do apologize. Men will be men I suppose. It's not the first time we've sat around the table chatting about the case and I've heard that reaction from a man who has been told the story. The newspaper didn't report HALF of what happened. Apology accepted?

[Meagan]

[QUOTE=What I'm saying is that I'm sure the boys are not traumatized at all.[/QUOTE]

This is very very inaccurate...

[Death Bed]

Megan, I accept you.

This is very very inaccurate...

I hope she gets what she deserves then.

[Nell]

Thank you for answering. No apology necessary.

[Meagan]

Thank you both for understanding. It's hard to watch people you know go through things like this. I'll keep you informed if I hear anything else. The final court date is soon. All I know is the mother is obviously persistent and I hope it pays off. She called the station constantly when it all started. Just getting it on the internet probably helps people that are smart enought to google someone's name. Maybe she's saved one young kid out there. Boy or girl...

[tricia381]

I'd like to know what else was going on, what she wasnt charged with.

[Spice4Life]

I am the mother in this article. Thanks for the support Megan. If you'd like to privage message me, perhaps we can chat. I hope the other family is doing well.

And Nell - I agree that there is no reason for arguments.
I cannot really comment on the details of the case because it is pending, but I'm very glad this article made it onto this forum. Thank you also Dakota! It's important that people are aware of this article.

I cannot speak for the other family, but our family has been traumatized by the events. Thank you all in advance for your needed support.

[Tazzzz]

I am the mother in this article. Thanks for the support Megan. If you'd like to privage message me, perhaps we can chat. I hope the other family is doing well.

And Nell - I agree that there is no reason for arguments.
I cannot really comment on the details of the case because it is pending, but I'm very glad this article made it onto this forum. Thank you also Dakota! It's important that people are aware of this article.

I cannot speak for the other family, but our family has been traumatized by the events. Thank you all in advance for your needed support.

Hi Spice4Life, You have my support, I don't think its right for a man or a woman to get away with this. If it was a man doing this you wouldn't have any were near the problem you are having. I wonder how much her own son plays a part of the outcome of her charges???? Do you think his disability's are effecting the case??? Meaning is she using a sympathy card to get out of some of the charges??

[Spice4Life]

Hi Spice4Life, You have my support, I don't think its right for a man or a woman to get away with this. If it was a man doing this you wouldn't have any were near the problem you are having. I wonder how much her own son plays a part of the outcome of her charges???? Do you think his disability's are effecting the case??? Meaning is she using a sympathy card to get out of some of the charges??

Thanks so much Tazzzz for the kinds words. I'm new to the site and only came on because of I noticed this article was linked. I'm finding the whole site very intersting and plan to hang out. :proud2:

I would certainly hope her son's disabilities are not a deciding factor in the end result but I cannot speculate what the prosecuting attorney must be thinking. She was charged for a reason and that reason was obvious or they wouldn't have charged her. It saddens me greatly that they are also victims out of this mess.

The children are the only reason that my son spent the night there to begin with because she called me and told me that the children knew each other for years and that there was a birthday party where 8 to 10 other teenagers would be. AND that it would be well-supervised which was a bold-faced lie. I spoke to this woman for 2 1/2 hours on the phone and while we were chatting I searched for her name on the Internet, which pulled up all the articles on her sick son, how she was an advocate for autism, etc. This is what disturbs me the most now.

I thought I had done my homework and she was very convincing. She appeared to be a decent, caring mother of two - and a wife - but instead there was not 8 to 10 other teenagers there, and she gave these two boys excessive amounts of alcohol where my son doesn't even remember what happened after he passed out and woke up shaking uncontrollably (in his words). As well as many other instances I'm not at liberty to discuss. I made a huge mistake and have huge regrets that my son and I are both paying for. This is why I am doing everything I can to stop this cycle. My hope is that at least now if someone has suspicions and searches the internet then there will be no speculation as to whether or not they should allow their children to spend the night, and others won't have to go through what we did.

Thanks again for the positive support.

NO MORE VICTIMS!!

[Tazzzz]

Well I can honestly say, I saw the same articles you did and I would have pretty much did the same thing. They sure pumped her up in the articles and made her look pretty darn good. A real tear jerker article. She probly made a bunch of money off the contributions.

[Meagan]

I am the mother in this article. Thanks for the support Megan. If you'd like to privage message me, perhaps we can chat.

It's great you are here. Hope it is all well with you and your family. I'd like to talk privately. Be in touch soon. Good luck with the case!

[Spice4Life]

Well I can honestly say, I saw the same articles you did and I would have pretty much did the same thing. They sure pumped her up in the articles and made her look pretty darn good. A real tear jerker article. She probly made a bunch of money off the contributions.

Yea - and she lives in a VERY VERY nice home. You kinda wonder how she sleeps at night.:frown22:

[Nell]

Well sounds like you did absolutely everything a good mom could do and this still happened. Shows it can happen to anyone at anytime. I am so glad your son has you, as I have an idea of what he is going through. No one should be taken advantage of, male or female, and it sounds like that is what happened. Just because your son wanted to drink does NOT make it ok for this grown woman to rape or molest him. And yes, men can be raped.

[Spice4Life]

Well sounds like you did absolutely everything a good mom could do and this still happened. .
Thanks for the kudos. A person can really beat themselves up when something like this happens. My trust level - by the way - is GONE!

Please just search the internet everyone and don't let people get away with this sort of thing when it happens. Don't just walk away. It needs to be addressed for the next victim's sake... There are TWO teenage boys involved here...

I think any teenager would probably say yes to alcohol if it was a "mother figure" pouring it for them. Children have enough problems with "peer pressure" than to have an adult be the one who is doing the coercing. It just amazes me! You spend 15 years trying to teach your children what's right for something like this to happen by another "mother figure." I think I'm still in shock.

[Spice4Life]

Sorry guys - not sure how to link this follow-up with the previous article, but I just had to share the great news!!

News - Breaking news
Friday, Jul. 17, 2009
Plea bargain has been pulled for woman accused of showing boys photos of herself naked.
BY BRIAN BRUEGGEMANN - News-Democrat

A plea deal that would have let a Glen Carbon woman avoid registering as a sex offender is off the table, according to the mother of a boy who allegedly was shown nude pictures of the woman.

Jonna Boelke, 45, is charged with two counts of delivery of alcohol to a minor and two counts of sexual exploitation of a child. She is accused of giving alcohol to two 15-year-old boys in August and showing them nude pictures of herself.

Boelke was scheduled for a court appearance Friday, but it was canceled.

A Fairview Heights woman who is the mother of one of the boys said in an interview last month that Boelke was to be given a plea deal, under which Boelke would not be required to register as a sex offender.

The mother said Madison County State's Attorney Bill Mudge called her since then, and told her the proposed plea agreement is off.

"He said he contacted the defense attorney directly, or personally, and told him that all plea deals made to this date are null and void," the mother said Friday.

Boelke's attorney could not be reached for comment. Boelke has referred questions to him.

Stephanee Smith, a spokeswoman for the state's attorney's office, confirmed that Mudge has spoken with the mother. Smith said she couldn't comment further because the case is pending.

The mother said she's grateful Mudge is reviewing the case.

"He has stepped up and done the right thing in my eyes, taking the time to look over the case and make the decision to stop the plea," she said.

The mother said her son met Boelke via the Internet. The mother said Boelke called her one day and gave a story about their children being acquainted. The boy stayed overnight once at Boelke's home, according to the mother.

The mother said she searched for information about Boelke on the Internet before allowing her son to go to Boelke's home, but found nothing suspicious. The mother said she wants Boelke to have to register as a sex offender.

"That's sincerely the only thing I want," she said. "I don't care if she has to go to jail or if she's fined. I just need others to be aware."

Contact reporter Brian Brueggemann at bbrueggemann@bnd.com.
OMG WAS THIS GREAT NEWS!!! William Mudge is a good, honest man who cares about our children. Give him your vote! He certainly would have mine!

[Death Bed]

Congrats!

[Spice4Life]

Congrats!

Thanks! We need all the help we can get!

[Chaindrive]

The mother said her son met Boelke via the Internet.

There are times when I HATE the Internet. WTF was she doing talking to a minor on the netz!?