36 Year Old Moves in With 16 Year Old

[LadyValkyrie37]

Your 16-year-old daughter falls for a divorcee of 36 and wants him to move in. Would you let him? Meet the parents who did...

By MORAG TURNER

When Alison Garcia, 16, announced that she was leaving home to be with her 36-year-old lover, her parents could have been forgiven for hitting the roof.

Instead, Sheila and Paul Garcia did something most other parents would find unthinkable.

Last month, they invited divorced double-glazing fitter and father-of-one Craig Wright into their home, where he now shares a bedroom with their daughter.

To read more... http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=521271&in_page_id=1879


WTF is wrong with these parents? I'm speechless... and pissed!

[ells9824]

Dare I say, he looks old enough to be her father?

http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/02_04/puppyloveDM2702_468x708.jpg

[ZombieBabe]

I love the way she contradicts herself...

At the beginning of the article:


Alison claims to be "very mature for my age"

While talking about her first couple of dates with him:


"Craig didn't even think to question if I was under-age. I was worried that he might not want to go out with a girl who had just left school. I tried really hard to be mature."If you ARE very mature for your age, then you don't have to TRY really hard at it. :sarcastic:

[gprime]

I know I'm going to be in the minority here, by I applaud the parents on this. They made a very sound decision. Had she been forced to choose between him and them, she could very well have run away from home, suffered through a series of major mistakes, and even ruined her life. In this situation, it lets her work it out in a safe environment, where the potential ramifications of failure are far more mild.

As the parents said, you cannot really expect to stop a 16-yeard old who is so inclined, from having sex. And it may as well be within the framework of a serious relationship, as this seems to be. Taking an authoritarian approach won't change that. To ignore that reality would have been a dangerous, but common mistake here. They defied convention, but quite wisely it seems.

[AnalBreeze]

I'm sorry but I don't find it wise at all! You're the parent now be the parent!
You don't let your 16 year old daughter go out with a 36 year old divorced father
of one, let alone let him move in with you! Kids are so stupid these days because
parents are even "stupider"! What kind of a winner guy is going to date a 16 year
old AND move in with her parents? Then feel like it's ok! If your kid feels like it's ok
then you have probably been a pretty piss pore parent anyway!

Shit like this pisses me off! :mad:


Ok... I feel better now!! :D

[Athena]

Huh...I was just going to post a thread, as I am curious about the more candid responses to relationships involving dramatic age differences.

While I have never before dated in excess of four years difference, I'm single for the first time in my adult life, and dramatic age differences seem totally insignificant in comparison to those same age differences applied to the age I was last single. I think nothing of dating someone within, oh, 20 years of my own age.

Perhaps it has something to do with my personal experience. While my parents were only months apart, my grandparents were nearly 15 years apart in age, and never for a moment considered it to be an issue. Of my three very close friends, two have dated men in excess of 10 years their senior for extended periods of time. One of them has a beautiful child as the result of a relationship that started when she was 17 and he was 36. While the relationship, which spanned years, eventually failed, I could not manage to attribute the failure to their age difference.

That being said - people seem to have very strong feelings in regard to this issue. I can't help but wonder what those feelings are rooted in.

[ells9824]

Societal norms say you would have more in common with someone nearer your age & life experiences. I think that changes once you've received the majority of your schooling and have started a career.

In 2008, society is more geared toward relationships where the people like each other vs. 1908 where marriages could be based on not being able to feed your whole family so you essentially traded a daughter for a herd of cattle by marrying her off.

I think even then,though, it was understood that you waited until the girl was of child bearing age, as there wasn't much of a point to the marriage if y'all weren't bearing children.

When people had to decide what an okay "age" to have sex was that led to all these other questions.

Sixteen and 36? I'd kill one if not both of them.
Twenty six and 46? Not my choice, but also not my choice to make.
Thirty six and 56? Who cares.

[Miss. Hill]

36 and 16 in my opinion to far apart, 16 is a child naive and has no life experience. Especially in this case she is spoiled and has no idea how difficult life can be when you have to face consequences for your actions.

My biggest problem here is this 36 yr old living with a 16 yr olds parents having no issue with bangin their daughter and living in their home, wtf. I would be so embarrassed if I was dating a 16 yr old guy and was so broke down we lived with his mommy and daddy.

[TXChris]

In all honesty, my biggest issue with this is how does a 36 year old "man" explain to someone that he is living with his 16 year old girlfriend's parents? Seriously. There HAS to be some sort of issue pertaining to one's image of themself.

[Athena]

In all honesty, my biggest issue with this is how does a 36 year old "man" explain to someone that he is living with his 16 year old girlfriend's parents? Seriously. There HAS to be some sort of issue pertaining to one's image of themself.

There are plenty of reasons for it to make sense. Maybe it's logistical. Maybe it makes the parents feel more comfortable. Maybe the man had developed a relationship with the parents. Who knows?

I think it's short-sighted for people to judge based on such limited information.

[TXChris]

Ouch! I was just trying to make a funny. I'm going back to drinking beer. :p

[Athena]

Atta boy. Stick to what you know.

[Miss. Hill]

There are plenty of reasons for it to make sense. Maybe it's logistical. Maybe it makes the parents feel more comfortable. Maybe the man had developed a relationship with the parents. Who knows?

I think it's short-sighted for people to judge based on such limited information.

Maybe so but I do think he would have more pride then to live with her mommy and daddy. Also the article stated they would move into a less then nice apartment if the parents didn't take them in. So it seems the 36 yr old maybe busy with his relationship and has less time to focus on a career. Or maybe the child support is to much?

[TXChris]

Hey, I'm damn good at my drinking, among "other" things. And I'm talking to the Ziegen tonight. It's beautiful. :)

[Athena]

Also the article stated they would move into a less then nice apartment if the parents didn't take them in. So it seems the 36 yr old maybe busy with his relationship and has less time to focus on a career. Or maybe the child support is to much?

Heh...Did it, really? I admit, I skimmed.

Yeah, if he moved in for financial reasons, the dude's a loser. I'm a 25 year old chick with no college degree and I've supported myself just fine since I was 18. If I was the parents, because, you know, I would be both of them...I would be worried about the financial implications more than the age gap. Finances are the number one cause of divorce in western nations. Love DOES NOT conquer all. :p

[Heather4877]

I'm not sure that the 16 year old's maturity is even an issue here. I'm more concerned about the fact that a 36 year old man that is happy to start dating a 16 year old and move in with her parents is seriously lacking in maturity himself. There's a moral issue here that seems to have flown right by him. I wasn't able to read the attached article as there's something wrong with my computer, but it wouldn't matter if he was a great provider or not, there's something going on in his head that's not right and as a parent I'd be extremely loath to have anything to do with him much less allow my child to have a close relationship with him. He clearly likes young girls, and while most men don't act on such impulses he doesn't seem to have a problem with it. Also, he's willing to allow his children witness (I don't know their ages) what a low-life he is. When I was in high school I was able to get into and drink at the bars legally (grew up in Germany) and whenever older men, most likely young service members in their early 20s, hit on me I always wondered what was off about them that women their own age weren't interested in having relationships with them. I have no problem with age gaps when it comes to relationships, my father is 9 years older than my mother (although I've made many jokes about him being 18 while she was jumping rope in the school yard), however even a five year difference can be dramatic if one of the players hasn't even reached adulthood. A girl in high school, or having just quit school (even worse), has no experience in making real-life decisions. I think if she was as mature as she claims to be then she'd see him for who/what he is...a sick man. I'm not surprised he's divorced. I'm wondering what this girl will think of her parents' decision later on in her life when she has her own children.

[princessgrandma]

This thread is so old, the kid is legal now. Step away from that dead horse.....:deadhorse:

[Valasca]

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[Nell]

Who cares how old the thread is? Heather4877 posted a very well thought out post that i agree with.

You guys are bitches.