Fuck that...
As women we should be cautious as to who we date, REGARDLESS of having children or not!!!
After my husband left almost a year ago (to be with someone half his age AND younger than his oldest son...
) I have started to think about dating. As a parent (and a pretty awesome one at that) I wouldn't even consider letting a man MEET my son, without being CERTAIN that he has no sex or abuse cases first. I will be safe now, not sorry later.
Having a new man meet my son, will be a process that I will make known to any potential relationship. I will explain that for the safety and emotional well being of my child, i will take precautions (yes, ABSOLUTELY including a background check) before he can even think about meeting him. He will be someone I intend on having around long term BEFORE he meets my child. PERIOD.
That being said, a man who has honest intentions in loving me or having a serious relationship with me will understand my reasons, and will be patient with my process. If he can't, then that saves me the whole process cuz, I won't waste my time on his ass. I am certainly not about to drag my son thru my dating process. It will take a pretty awesome man to meet my kid. And while it may scare a few men away- run mother fucker cuz I want no doubts, and no drama around my kid. PERIOD!
I KNOW what kind of person I am, and what kind of parent I am. Being a good parent is not enough. When it comes to mini, he doesnt deserve a good parent- he deserves an exceptional parent. I WONT SETTLE ON BEING LESS THAN THAT!
I cannot for the life of me- not at all- understand how single women with kids would NOT think of their childs safety FIRST. His safety and well being ARE and WILL ALWAYS BE my FIRST priority.
ETA: And once someone has passed the process- and has been given the privilege of meeting my son, I will still be very observant of their interaction. It doesn't stop there. It is MY job to remain watchful and cautious when it comes to him.