I think at some point DBT (Dialectical behavior therapy) may be of help to him, but thus far he has not been able to follow through. His therapist before he was arrested, was a DBT therapist and since he has been incarcerated, he has been in DBT groups, but he has been removed because he cannot handle being around the other inmates. He is currently in a psychiatric program in a Kansas State prison, special management, and he spends much of his time in isolation. He is currently pending a due process hearing so they can send him back to Larned State Hospital where he will most likely spend a good portion of his 20-year sentence.
The interesting thing is that in spite of him being him, him being heavily medicated, and in spite of everything that has occurred, I am still able to communicate with him. Shortly after his 18th birthday, I went to court and got guardianship of him without question. He did not fight me on the issue.
Make no mistake, I am aware that my son is a criminal. However, I feel that his crime is a complicated one. The thing that has been toughest for me to swallow if the fact that this Innocent girl, my son's victim, came into my home for a reason. I know this because she was advertising is on backpage.com. Unfortunately, she only got half of what she bargained for. She was advertising sex and she didn't get paid for it. Within in a two-hour window (because my mother in law and my daughter had actually just left my home) She came into my home soliciting sex, my son raped her and did not pay, he let her go, I came home and could not get back in because my home had become a crime scene. The police took a lot of my personal belongings as evidence, many of which had sentimental value. I moved very shortly after that. Needless to say, it was very difficult for my family to stay there. The day of the sentencing the girl showed up to speak. She was wearing next to nothing, very short skirt and about 5" heals. She addressed the court about how she will not have night terrors anymore now that my son is locked up.
From the perspective of someone looking in, it is really easy to see who the bad guy is and who the victim is, but being the middle of it, its really hard not see things a bit grayer than others. Honestly, I know I should not think this way, but the day of my son's sentencing, I truly wanted to just write her a check for whatever he owed her and be done with it. If appearances are everything, she did not appear to be in victim mode. She was smiling and bubbly, while I could barely function. I have never felt more like a victim than I have in the past two years.....Like some sort of casualty of this shit storm.