19-year-old Pedophile Needs You To Hear His Story

http://www.upworthy.com/this-19-yea...-and-he-needs-you-to-hear-his-story?c=reccon1

 

At about 5 minutes in my skin is crawling.... not sure i can make it through 20 more minutes of this.

 

Maby a hammer to the head would help.

 

As revolting as it sounds to us, these people are out there. And I would much rather they recognise what they are and try to deal with it, and stay in contact with therapists and such than that they hide and molest kids in silence. Let them have their support groups if it stops them from acting on their urges.

Although they lie so much it's hard to tell when they are genuinely trying.

 

I hope it's legitimately a support group but I wouldn't be shocked if it also turned out to be a networking group for many of em.

 

The kid that's talking on the link has never acted out. He became addicted to child porn and was finally shocked enough himself to try and find help. There really wasn't any. The people in his group have not acted out, according to his story - I hope it's true. I want them all to find help if possible and never hurt another child.

 

Watching and being addicted to child porn to me is the same as acting out those urges. You are getting off on a child being raped.

To me that's action enough and enjoying and watching child porn is just as bad as performing it for yourself in it that the more you watch the more you are allowing the perpetrators to get away with it.

Just because he was just watching doesn't absolve him from any harm he created by doing so.

 

I agree. I also believe that is the truth about ALL porn. It's degrading & harmful to all ages. Any suggestions about how to get them to quit watching. I know a lot of men watch - which I find disgusting. Don't get me started on the "girly" mags.

Why is this kind of thing so easy to find. The kid on the tape was finding them when he was 14. Someone on another thread was talking about their child finding porn (around age 9 I think). If it wasn't so easy to find maybe there wouldn't be so many addicts and pervs. It sounded like that's what happened to the kid on the tape - found the porn and became addicted.

I wish I knew the answer. At least this kid wants help.

The fathers, g-fathers, uncles, best friends, moms' boyfriends, neighbors - they're the ones we have to protect out children from. Not to mention the serial pervs. Makes me want to scream.

 

Yeah I had to quit listening around then too and am not even gonna try to finish. I already regret listening to that much.

 

Child porn is not easy to find. That's something you HAVE to search for. To sit there and watch 2 and 3 year olds and younger babies being raped, sodomized and tortured takes a very sick individual to do that.

If he wants help he needs to go one on one with a mental health specialist. If he was so adamant about getting help he would not be announcing it. The only thing that he is going to find is a mentor that's gonna help him take it a step further.

 

Well I did end up finishing it after a few beers to build up the courage, seriously I still can't get over the raw hate that he watches it and admits he likes it. But on the other hand he is taking a step towards talking to a psychologist and he has a group that is adamant about not having Child molesters in the group only a support group of people who know they are attracted to them but don't act on those attractions.... all in all I still hate and despise pedophilia but I think i could refrain from breaking this kids nose if I ever met him. Though it would take a lot of restraint.

 

These animals cannot be cured. They must be rooted out and exterminated. This is my unshakeable belief!

 

In no way shape or form am I defending pedos but I think it is very important for people to understand how victims become the violators , we can't stop the cycle if we don't even understand it fully. The stigma/ guilt associated with it is what keeps young people from even seeking help until they become the monster that created them.

 

Child porn is REAL. It seems like people accept it like a hollywood movie. It's NOT. That child is being abused and every time it is watched that child is raped again. You are watching a child being raped you might as well be right there in person watching it because that is what is happening. The shit isn't simulated. So I don't understand how watching child porn is different from doing it. A child is victimized. And adult porn can't even be compared to child porn in any way because then you are desentizing it and justifying it. These aren't adults they made no choice in the acts they arent getting fucking paid. That is like comparing murder and suicide. Two totally different things.

 

So then study it as a psychiatric disorder and treat it, even if that means with chemical castration

 

I think pedophilia needs to be studied just like any psychological disorder, so we can figure out how it happens, how to prevent it and/or treat it. If it is true that one of the ways it can potentially come about is from being knocked unconscious at a young age (which is weird) then we really need to find out more about it. I think the 19yo is brave for stepping up and trying. If you listen to the whole audio it says he doesn't watch child porn and hasn't since he was younger, and they don't accept anyone into the group who has abused a child, or who does watch/look at photos of child porn. Like many other psychological disorders, this needs to be swept out from under the rug. If you want a really clean house you're going to find some nasty skeletons in the closet and dirty secrets everywhere, but just eliminating the people, will not eliminate the underlying problem. If it truly is psychological in nature, and not solely those who were abused turning into abusers (which it's not, the abused don't always become the abusers) then we have to find a working solution by dragging it into the open and studying it. I try to think of it from the perspective of "What if it was my child who came to me and said 'I'm scared and I think I might be prone to pedophilia'? What is the best that I could do for them?" and while the simple answer to be offered is "Just fucking shoot them in the head", that's not so easily done if it's your child that needs help.

 

Thank you, @Illamina . I've been hoping that someone would articulate my feelings on this with a logical, rational response, and you nailed it. So much better than I could have said it!

 

This is along the same lines, but an article from a couple years ago :

http://www.slate.com/articles/healt...od_sexual_abuse_how_to_treat_pedophilia_.html

I think this is a very important topic. It's really not something you can solve by going around and killing someone else's child to "cure" the situation. They are people. Someone gave birth to them and probably loves them very much.

We can pretend it's never someone who has value as a human being, but the truth is more complex. It's why we're all so shocked and outraged when we find out this Doctor/Judge/father/husband who is so great in our community is a damned child molester/rapist. If those men had help, maybe they wouldn't go that far. But they need support to prevent those drives. There needs to be more of a conversation on prevention of action/how to manage urges, rather than just the demonization/destruction of all who think about it or are attracted to it.

 

Did you listen? He has been trying to get professional help since he was young. His first therapist treated him like a monster, refused to help him in any way, and then TOLD his mother. They then went hunting for any sort of therapist that could help them.

They purposely stay away from people who offend. Their group is based on people who have these urges but would never physically/sexually abuse a child.

Like, that's what made it interesting in the first place. It's the whole 'don't we WANT these people to be able to get help?'

Seriously, the entire point is that it is hard to find mental health support for this.

 

Thanks for your post @Illamina. Wonderfully put. Pretending that pedophilia doesn't exist and only punishing people after they have actually acted doesn't help anyone.