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Thank you so soo much to everyone who has donated!..
As of 9:52 a.m. Sweet baby Ethan Jay Antes is flying high with the angels. Due to his passing I am raising the goal to pay for funeral costs as well.
Rest In Peace ❤
11/18/14-5 /1/16

...o_O *crickets*

This is pretty nauseating. And brief. And cold. "Rest in peace" seems like one chillingly detached way for her to express such a tragedy. I certainly hope it was written by someone else!

I really do try not to be so judgemental when it comes to mothers who were not involved in their child's harm and are clearly mourning, despite however stupid their choices were in a mate (that sympathy doesn't apply to those women who knowingly choose scumbags/perverts -- just saying that some otherwise good mothers are trusting and/or naive to a tragic fault). Unfortunately however, none of that seems to apply here.

I echo everyones opinions about her being compliant in her son's abuse for the sake of the golden D. That, or she must be a few straws seriously short of a haystack. How could ANYONE genuinely not put 2 & 2 together when they see their baby's injuries occur suspiciously over and over and always in the exclusive care of Mr. Right-Now?

Secondly, I can never understand these cold, matter of fact posts -- especially ones asking for money -- put up IMMEDIATELY after their child's passing. I'd be too broken up to even type or think clearly. Are we sure it was the mother who wrote the gofundme page? Please say it isn't so. :confused:
 
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If she is that oblivious, she has no business having children.

"Every time I leave baby with my dick, baby gets real bad hurt."

Fucking DUH.

"And mah baby, he's acting scared around mah dick, and mah family has a feeling there may be somthing wrong. But I have a MAN!"
 
You all make me sick. Being someone who knows this mother personally, you are all quick to judge. She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents.

Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.

Ooooookay then miss peanut gallery. Anyone can love their kid, but guess what? Love isn't enough. It's not. Being a parent means an emotional maturity minimum balance. Know why your friend stuck around and turned a blind eye? Because she's weak, immature and wasn't ready to be a responsible parent. And of course, the golden penis. Her number one responsibility was to her child and SHE FAILED. It was preventable. She failed to protect him. Not one sane adult would stay when their child is injured repeatedly when in the presence of their partner (oftentimes non-biologically related, if you had a little read around here instead of shitting the bed when you googled your girlfriends name you'd probably notice a trend)

Defend her all you want, sweetie. It's entertaining. When you grow up you'll understand. Run along now.
 
@amac I believe it was a friend of Mom who started the Go fund me page, but Mom updated it with a message the day Ethan died thanking everyone for their donations and asking for more money for his funeral. (I mistakenly said Mom started the page, so that is my mistake.)

The post has since been removed (I suspect after someone read this thread), along with the disturbing photo of Ethan (posted somewhere above) in the hospital. Mom's removed post is also somewhere upthread.
 
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My, my, my (said in my best Lt. Joe Kenda voice), lookie what I found.
The (neighbor Steve Martin) noticed Jolley seemed aggressive toward Ethan and his mother, but he didn't expect anything like this.

“There’s been a couple times we’ve heard quite a bit of yelling and screaming, arguing a lot,” Martin said. “They’ve only been here a couple months.”


The probable cause statement showed that a few weeks ago, the toddler sustained burns from scalding coffee, which Jolley allegedly said the boy spilled on himself. A few days ago, the child fell from his highchair, which the stepfather said was the toddler's fault. And this time, Jolley said the child accidentally drowned in the bathtub. All three incidents occurred when Jolley was the only one with the child, the statement said.

“Right now, there is much more to be done,” Hansen said.

So they only lived there a couple of months but the neighbor was aware of Jolley's aggressive behavior towards Ethan and Mom, and heard "quite a bit" of screaming and yelling? Well fuck me sideways, seems Mom was completely aware of her dick's abusive behavior.

Still waiting on all those links that CPS investigated all of Ethan's injuries and gave the thumbs up that everything was A-OK!

http://www.ksl.com/?sid=39589706&nid=148&title=police-man-arrested-in-killing-of-stepson
 
@amac I believe it was a friend of Mom who started the Go fund me page, but Mom updated it with a message the day Ethan died thanking everyone for their donations and asking for more money for his funeral.

The post has since been recently removed (I suspect after someone read this read), along with the disturbing photo of Ethan (posted somewhere above) in the hospital. Mom's removed post is also upthread.

Thanks @Snoods! :) I realized that shortly after making my post. I thought I'd already read the entire thread, but somehow I missed @Mckenzee's comments.
Little ger-der moment. :YOW:

As far as this goes...
She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe? When the state said that the burns on ethan where accidental???she took this boy to the hospital every time and the hospital told her they were accident .

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Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.

I'm glad to hear she didn't write the donation page and I'm very glad to hear you feel she genuinely loved her son. My heart goes out to the whole family.

HOWEVER, that doesn't change the fact that Codey's charges were upgraded to child abuse. Just because CPS and the hospitals said it wasn't, should not have been considered the end-all be-all answer and definitely should not have replaced a mother's instinct to protect her baby when she knew better deep within her gut.

I'm thankful she took her child to the hospital to seek help and she clearly must have been suspicious if the possibility of abuse was discussed, which is all the more reason she should have made the call herself to keep Codey away from her baby. There are things she could have done if she suspected abuse... install nanny cams... have someone else watch Ethan... or you know, DUMP HIM!!!!

Long story short, doctors/specialists/CPS are just as fallible as anyone else. Their word is not always gold. In fact, if you spent a little time on this site you'd quickly realize just how often CPS has failed now dead children who were horrifically abused for months or even years under their oh-so "watchful" eye.

Nothing replaces a mother's own intuition and common sense.
 
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Codey's arrest records that I was able to find.

April 7, 2014
http://www.mugshotsnow.com/ut/7-davis-county/
  1. 1: DRIVING ON SUSPENDED OR REVOKED OPERATOR'S LICENSE
  2. 2: DRIVING ON SUSPENDED OR REVOKED OPERATOR'S LICENSE
  3. 3: FAILURE TO YIELD
  4. 4: FAILURE TO STOP
November 11, 2013
http://www.mugshotsnow.com/ut/7-davis-county/
  1. 1: POSSESSION OF DRUG PARAPHERNALIA
  2. 2: DRIVING ON SUSPENDED OR REVOKED OPERATOR'S LICENSE
  3. 3: DRIVING ON SUSPENDED OR REVOKED OPERATOR'S LICENSE
  4. 4: POSSESSION OR USE OF A CONTROLLED SUBSTANCE
  5. 5: FAILURE TO STAY IN ONE LANE
March 8, 2011
http://mugshots.com/US-Counties/Utah/Salt-Lake-County-UT/Codey-Jolley.6097790.html

09CR14679 12.24.100 DUI Driving under the Influence of Alcohol/Drugs
 
I'm going to open up a bit here. Back in October when we moved back to Michigan, I was at work and got a call that my mom's boiling hot coffee (she boils water and drinks instant) spilled on the right side of Miles' face and shoulder/collarbone area. He ended up with second and third degree burns. It could have been worse but the quick actions of my mom and aunt removing his shirt, applying cold compresses and rushing him to the hospital slowed the damage. He was transported to Hurly Burn Center in Flint by ambulance from Lapeer. It was the longest drive of my life to get to him. The days that followed were excruciating for him.:( He healed quickly and the burn clinic nurse was amazing. What I'm getting at is how terrible a burn is. It's hard to watch.:( My mom blames herself and to this day could probably still have a stroke over it. If I thought for ONE SECOND my own mother was hurting my child I'd throw her ass in jail so fast... Let alone a stupid boyfriend (my m would never hurt my kid). My kids get hurt, my house gets dirty but CPS has never been at my door. The state only intervenes if there's a good reason. I'm seriously in tears over that poor baby. I don't even know if I'm making sense right now.
 
I'm going to open up a bit here. Back in October when we moved back to Michigan, I was at work and got a call that my mom's boiling hot coffee (she boils water and drinks instant) spilled on the right side of Miles' face and shoulder/collarbone area. He ended up with second and third degree burns. It could have been worse but the quick actions of my mom and aunt removing his shirt, applying cold compresses and rushing him to the hospital slowed the damage. He was transported to Hurly Burn Center in Flint by ambulance from Lapeer. It was the longest drive of my life to get to him. The days that followed were excruciating for him.:( He healed quickly and the burn clinic nurse was amazing. What I'm getting at is how terrible a burn is. It's hard to watch.:( My mom blames herself and to this day could probably still have a stroke over it. If I thought for ONE SECOND my own mother was hurting my child I'd throw her ass in jail so fast... Let alone a stupid boyfriend (my m would never hurt my kid). My kids get hurt, my house gets dirty but CPS has never been at my door. The state only intervenes if there's a good reason. I'm seriously in tears over that poor baby. I don't even know if I'm making sense right now.

I'm so sorry, Tolerant, that's horrible! Thank goodness he healed quickly, but I can't imagine how painful it must have been for your little man. :( I'm a huge baby when I burn my finger on the stove.

Aww, your poor Mom, my mom would feel the same way. <3
 
I'm so sorry, Tolerant, that's horrible! Thank goodness he healed quickly, but I can't imagine how painful it must have been for your little man. :( I'm a huge baby when I burn my finger on the stove.

Aww, your poor Mom, my mom would feel the same way. <3
One of the worst times in my life. He won't remember, but I always will. I can't even imagine the people that have to watch their kids suffer from cancer or car accidents. It's terrible. I'm just broken after those pics. Terrible.
 
I have been with my husband 10 years. I love and trust him with our kids and if HE SPILLED COFFEE on Quinn... He would be in a hotel. The end. KIDS FIRST.. Dick, money, marriage, other second. Why is this hard to understand? I can get a lot of guys to fuck me. I can only make one Misty, Allison, Elliot, Sebastain, Quinn and Marlee. There is not second chances with a child.
 
One of the worst times in my life. He won't remember, but I always will. I can't even imagine the people that have to watch their kids suffer from cancer or car accidents. It's terrible. I'm just broken after those pics. Terrible.

I'm so sorry that happened to your precious one. <3

As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, my hubby got horrible 2nd and 3rd degree liquid (oil) burns all over the back of his hands and fingers about 3 weeks ago. It makes me want to faint every time I help him change his dressings. He's been in terrible pain, but he's a grown man and a Marine to boot, so he tries not to show it. We've both said about a thousand times that we're just SO thankful it didn't land on his face. My point being that it's hard for me to even see an adult go thru burns and I can't imagine what poor little Ethan endured and on his wee face no less.

My heart goes out to you for you and your son's/family's awful experience Tolerant! That would be heartbreaking! Thank goodness your son was tenderly cared for though and given all the protection and love he needed. <3

From @Snoods post:
  1. 3: FAILURE TO YIELD
  2. 4: FAILURE TO STOP

How prophetic. :(
 
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You all make me sick. Being someone who knows this mother personally, you are all quick to judge. She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe? When the state said that the burns on ethan where accidental???she took this boy to the hospital every time and the hospital told her they were accident . Another thing, the mother did not make the go fund me account, another friend of the family Did, riki had nothing to do with asking for help. She is not choosing code over her son, she is a grieving mother who just lost everything, she thought things were finally going good for her and all if a sudden everything is gone. You are all fucking despicable. Her son was her world, and she took every step to make sure he was safe. Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.

So the bottom portion of your post says she reported the incidents? And the police and CPS said he wasn't being abused...so that means she was aware there was abuse, hence the reporting, AND SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE LEFT HER CHILD WITH THAT ASSHOLE. You can't know about "incidents" and report them, and be oblivious at the same time. I highly doubt she got the child any medical attention or called CPS.
 
You all make me sick. Being someone who knows this mother personally, you are all quick to judge. She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe? When the state said that the burns on ethan where accidental???she took this boy to the hospital every time and the hospital told her they were accident . Another thing, the mother did not make the go fund me account, another friend of the family Did, riki had nothing to do with asking for help. She is not choosing code over her son, she is a grieving mother who just lost everything, she thought things were finally going good for her and all if a sudden everything is gone. You are all fucking despicable. Her son was her world, and she took every step to make sure he was safe. Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.
Fuck you!!! Has soon has she saw the first bruises on her child the man should have been 6ft under.
 
One of the worst times in my life. He won't remember, but I always will. I can't even imagine the people that have to watch their kids suffer from cancer or car accidents. It's terrible. I'm just broken after those pics. Terrible.

Accidents happen. I don't think your mom is a bad person or anything. I'm sorry this happened.
 
You all make me sick. Being someone who knows this mother personally, you are all quick to judge. She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe? When the state said that the burns on ethan where accidental???she took this boy to the hospital every time and the hospital told her they were accident . Another thing, the mother did not make the go fund me account, another friend of the family Did, riki had nothing to do with asking for help. She is not choosing code over her son, she is a grieving mother who just lost everything, she thought things were finally going good for her and all if a sudden everything is gone. You are all fucking despicable. Her son was her world, and she took every step to make sure he was safe. Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.
Piss off!
 
I'm so sorry that happened to your precious one. <3

As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, my hubby got horrible 2nd and 3rd degree liquid (oil) burns all over the back of his hands and fingers about 3 weeks ago. It makes me want to faint every time I help him change his dressings. He's been in terrible pain, but he's a grown man and a Marine to boot, so he tries not to show it. We've both said about a thousand times that we're just SO thankful it didn't land on his face. My point being that it's hard for me to even see an adult go thru burns and I can't imagine what poor little Ethan endured and on his wee face no less. My heart goes out to you for your awful experience! That would be heartbreaking! Thank goodness your son was tenderly cared for though and given all the protection and love he needed<3:(
Accidents happen. I don't think your mom is a bad person or anything. I'm sorry this happened.
Thank you. My mom isn't a bad person, my mom is amazing. Along with the agony of seeing my son hurting, I had a hard time seeing my mom hurting. She just sobbed whenever we changed his dressings or applied meds... Etc. I still think she's ready to snap. He had to see a dermatologist last week for eczema at the burn sight... She wanted to pay for everything. I wouldn't let her. It's just hard all the way around. I can't imagine someone purposely doing this to a child.
 
You all make me sick. Being someone who knows this mother personally, you are all quick to judge. She is a great mother, and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe? When the state said that the burns on ethan where accidental???she took this boy to the hospital every time and the hospital told her they were accident . Another thing, the mother did not make the go fund me account, another friend of the family Did, riki had nothing to do with asking for help. She is not choosing code over her son, she is a grieving mother who just lost everything, she thought things were finally going good for her and all if a sudden everything is gone. You are all fucking despicable. Her son was her world, and she took every step to make sure he was safe. Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused. You all need to get a life seriously.

Except she left him in the care of her child abusing boyfriend. After he was injured while in that faggots care the FIRST time, she should have thought at the very least he wasnt watching him properly. If not, she should have definitely known better the SECOND time he was injured, but she took a gamble, yet again, and it cost her son his life. Feed that "Oh shes a wonderful grieving mother" bullshit to someone else, cuz i aint buyin it
 
@ Mckenzee

Once is an accident. Twice, three times -- to such increasing severity -- that is a clear pattern of abuse.

If you don't have the instincts to realize this with your own child, that your child is actively endangered by the person you CHOSE to bring into your home, with the evidence staring back at you from that child's FACE, you have no business procreating.

End of story.
 
You are all fucking despicable.
And yet, none of us have murdered our children, or allowed it to happen by the hands of a fucking scumbag.

Its not her fault when she reported the incidence and the police and cps told her her baby wasn't being abused.
Do you know how many times CPS has failed to save children!?
Also, they would have only said that it COULD have been an accident.
NEVER have they given an official, definitively exclusionary statement in their existence. That is one of the first things they do to protect themselves from litigation.

So, to conclude... It IS her fault that she thought more of her need to get off than of the safety of her child. She should have to look at those pictures of this horribly injured baby every fucking day of her miserable existence.

As far as the piece of shit Codey, he should be drug across rusty razor blades and then soaked in a tub full of rubbing alcohol, and left until he is found floating face down.
 
One of the worst times in my life. He won't remember, but I always will.

Awwww, I hear ya. My kid has been to the ER 4 times in 10yrs and each and every one of them was AWFUL. I cried more than her. But that's the thing, we love our children truly, and this chick, I really don't think she did.
 
and if you all weren't ignorant fucks you would know that cps looked into every single injury this child had when it happened and they deemed them accidents. So what was she supposed to believe?

The child is dead...CPS relied on the mothers account of what had occurred...the voice of an ADULT and adults LIE...for all kinds of reasons. Lot's of weak mothers want, need to and cling to these beliefs because they play the everything is fine game. This is me thinking that if this poor child wasn't 18 months old, could speak on his own behalf he would have told CPS that he was being hurt.

I think these mom's are in self denial when they arrive at hospitals with their battered children .. if the hospital call it an accident...they cling to that belief even though on some level they know its not true...because hospital said...so everything must be okay. I think we're failing mom's sometimes...I would bet my bottom dollar that this mom with all these trips to the hospital was relying on someone to detect that it was abuse, tell her this is ABUSE. What a shame that it didn't happen. What a shame that this little boy is dead.

***I think that when a mother takes her battered child to a hospital for help...its one step down from actually calling the police on an abusive partner. The hospital becomes the lessor of two evils when you're trapped in a nightmare.
 
I'm so sleuthy today! Someone said upthread that Ethan looked like he was dunked in hot water because of the demarcation lines, well look how clearly you can see them here! There aren't even any splash marks, these are obviously submersion burns. And it looks like there are two white fingertip marks on his temple and ear, like from someone holding his head?

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From what I've read on social media pages (so rumor only) the hospital called CPS and CPS did come out. I wonder if they had seen these later pics if they would have changed their minds. This is so clearly abuse. Mom should have known, I believe this now more than ever.

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Is it just me or does Ethan look stiff, scared and miserable in this picture? Like he would rather be anyplace else in the world? Because Riki (Mom) posts about it being the "cutest picture ever"! How blind can she be? Look at Ethan's bruised, miserable little face. Aargh! That poor baby.

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Someone over at "Where is Baby Kate?" captured this post from Riki, it is in response to a friend of hers who visited Ethan in the hospital and gently criticized Codey. So even if Codey CONFESSED she is still standing by her man! So disgusted.
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I'm so sleuthy today! Someone said upthread that Ethan looked like he was dunked in hot water because of the demarcation lines, well look how clearly you can see them here! There aren't even any splash marks, these are obviously submersion burns. And it looks like there are two white fingertip marks on his temple and ear.

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From what I've read on social media pages (rumor only) the hospital called CPS and CPS said nothing to see here, move along. I wonder if they had seen these later pics if they would have changed their minds. Mom should have known, I believe this now more than ever.

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Is it just me or does Ethan look scared, stiff and miserable in this picture? Like he would rather be anyplace else in the world? Because Riki (Mom) says something about it being the "cutest picture"! How blind can she be? It looks like Ethan's little face is still recovering from the burns. Aargh! That poor baby.

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Someone over at "Where is Baby Kate?" captured this post from Riki, it is in response to a friend of hers who visited Ethan in the hospital and gently criticized Codey. So even if Codey CONFESSED she is still standing behind her man! So disgusted.
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Fucking Slag McCunty DickLover.

May God blight her womb from ever bearing new victims from her worthless, shitty self.
 
That dick must have been diamond studded 24 karat gold for the mom to be that fucking blind and in denial about what was being done to her baby.
 
That dick must have been diamond studded 24 karat gold for the mom to be that fucking blind and in denial about what was being done to her baby.


Or she was just so desperate she worshipped some electroplate shit that turns your pussy green and kills your baby.
 
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