I don't care what anyone thinks, I don't spank my mini.
My reasons for not spanking my mini are pretty simple actually- its not laws or the opinions of others, that I fear..
I can't bring myself to spank him because I would absolutely die on the inside, if mini cowered back in fear of me. I would NEVER forgive myself if he looked at me with big, scared, hurt eyes, actually fearful of me.
If he is afraid of me, he won't trust me. If he doesn't trust me, I have failed him. He needs to know that he can come to me with anything and not be afraid of my reaction. Trust isn't taught- it is earned. It is not earned by a blow to the face.. It is earned by my patient reactions, my loving advice, and the examples I myself set for him. Children are products of their environment, following the examples we as their parent (and ultimate protectors) set...
How does one punch a child for being a child, and call that parenting?! How do you teach a child coping skills and emotional response, if your first reaction is anger and ultimately violence?!?
That being said, I don't/ haven't/ won't/ can't spank my kid and not everyone will agree with MY reasoning. I feel it far more effective to have a trusting, loving bond with my kid- his behavior, compassion for others, and his own self worth, remind me everyday why I know I'm right!
My reasons for not spanking my mini are pretty simple actually- its not laws or the opinions of others, that I fear..
I can't bring myself to spank him because I would absolutely die on the inside, if mini cowered back in fear of me. I would NEVER forgive myself if he looked at me with big, scared, hurt eyes, actually fearful of me.
If he is afraid of me, he won't trust me. If he doesn't trust me, I have failed him. He needs to know that he can come to me with anything and not be afraid of my reaction. Trust isn't taught- it is earned. It is not earned by a blow to the face.. It is earned by my patient reactions, my loving advice, and the examples I myself set for him. Children are products of their environment, following the examples we as their parent (and ultimate protectors) set...
How does one punch a child for being a child, and call that parenting?! How do you teach a child coping skills and emotional response, if your first reaction is anger and ultimately violence?!?
That being said, I don't/ haven't/ won't/ can't spank my kid and not everyone will agree with MY reasoning. I feel it far more effective to have a trusting, loving bond with my kid- his behavior, compassion for others, and his own self worth, remind me everyday why I know I'm right!