Wasn't an insult. You've grown on me a bit.
This chick's name looks like "Sasquatch" at a quick glance. That is all.
This chick's name looks like "Sasquatch" at a quick glance. That is all.
Seriously? I'm not a control freak...but I had control over my children.
God damn right i did...We manipulated the shit out of their environment.
We took the couch out of the tv room and replaced them with gigantic
pillow so our kids wouldn't stay there that long, left them with public television
so they wouldn't be bombarded by advertising, stuck the couch in a room we called a library,
nothing in there but a big comfy sofa, bookshelves with books that WE chose and that
they had a say in sometimes, and a fish tank.
We control what they see...i never took my kids down the toy aisle in the walmart
...why...fuck that trap. They were ten before they knew it even existed.
I controlled what they ate...when I tried to serve my kid some salad
and he said no leaves for me mom...I heard him...he didn't eat any leaves that night,
but you better believe the next afternoon I took fifteen minutes and de-veined and
chopped a bunch of spinach and dumped into my spaghetti sauce ...because spinach
turns into the invisible man of ingredients when you do it right...and fuck you kid
tell me NO leaves for you...who the fuck do you think you are?
We control who they talk too...what they wear. Where they go.
We controlled their time ...breakfast time, school time...lunch. more school time
home time, homework and don't forget to bring the garbage cans in time,
dinner time...free time and bed time.
And all that time I was controlling every single thing in their lives
I was also controlling them ... some of us call it parenting.
Kids need and thrive with STRUCTURE.
. Whipping your kids is never ok
Give them "that look"
Yup, you can do all that! And then when the child is 25 years old they still decide to steal a car, or hit their girlfriend when they get mad at her about something, or smoke some weed, or go pawn some of your tools because you wouldn't give them $20 for gas. No matter how much you 'control' your children when they are young or 'minimize the world they see' it doesn't mean you have the power to determine the type of adult they become.
Why the disagree? I said whipping your kids is never ok, not a once-in-a-lifetime spanking that's more about the surprise aspect and moderate pain. She drew blood, which is a bit different. Still totally feel for her, and I'm sure in the moment she acted on impulse led by a clearly deep-seated fear of her children entering the cycle. But whipping is ROUGH.My sons each got a spanking once in their lives, not on the same day either, but earned it
on their own each in their own hour.
It said grow up to be,I took that as adults, good luck trying to control adult kids.Seriously? I'm not a control freak...but I had control over my children.
God damn right i did...We manipulated the shit out of their environment.
We took the couch out of the tv room and replaced them with gigantic
pillow so our kids wouldn't stay there that long, left them with public television
so they wouldn't be bombarded by advertising, stuck the couch in a room we called a library,
nothing in there but a big comfy sofa, bookshelves with books that WE chose and that
they had a say in sometimes, and a fish tank.
We control what they see...i never took my kids down the toy aisle in the walmart
...why...fuck that trap. They were ten before they knew it even existed.
I controlled what they ate...when I tried to serve my kid some salad
and he said no leaves for me mom...I heard him...he didn't eat any leaves that night,
but you better believe the next afternoon I took fifteen minutes and de-veined and
chopped a bunch of spinach and dumped into my spaghetti sauce ...because spinach
turns into the invisible man of ingredients when you do it right...and fuck you kid
tell me NO leaves for you...who the fuck do you think you are?
We control who they talk too...what they wear. Where they go.
We controlled their time ...breakfast time, school time...lunch. more school time
home time, homework and don't forget to bring the garbage cans in time,
dinner time...free time and bed time.
And all that time I was controlling every single thing in their lives
I was also controlling them ... some of us call it parenting.
Kids need and thrive with STRUCTURE.
It said grow up to be,I took that as adults, good luck trying to control adult kids.
well if you raise kids that respect themselves and you...then when they're adults you don;t have to worry about it.
well if you raise kids that respect themselves and you...then when they're adults you don;t have to worry about it.
and is still not what I would consider a good person.
Or is mental illness caused by bad parenting as well?
@lithiumgirl whats with your spacing? Why the need to double space between each sentence?
it's a sensory overload
My son has ASD (diagnosed as Aspergers 5 years ago) and my daughter has Mood Disorder, ADHD and anxiety and I can assure you that I am a great parent and have raised them properly.
it's a sensory overload and the meltdown you see is over the loud hum of the fluorescent lights in Walmart.
I feel you! My 8yo was diagnosed at 6 with ASD. Neither he nor I can handle not only the lights but the whine of the refrigeration units in the produce section. Thank goodness I have a husband who can read a shopping list and doesn't begrudge the chore too much.
Sensory triggers can change literally daily. The gauntlet a parent with an ASD child runs on the hour is exhausting. There is a ton of control involved in effective parenting of an ASD child, and every single child is different. There's not one hard and fast rule but to try your damned best.
It does look like a meltdown from the outside but it doesn't always have anything to do with the toy aisle, with autism.
Though, Lego is a massive deal around here and if he's got his saved money and something in mind...
Lets leave weed out of this.smoke some weed,
Lets leave weed out of this.
There's nothing wrong with tooting the pipe every now and again. Hell, there's nothing wrong with banging the bong either.
But yes, your kids can fuck up after they are adults.
All we can do as parents is give them the tools they need to succeed. Its up to them if they pick them up and use them
Parents that don't give their kids the tools almost always produces a problem for society.
Got an hour or 3 for me to point out yours?
And I find it interesting you marked my post about spacing as "funny" last night but chose to get butt hurt about it today. Which personality are we dealing with right now, hmmm?
In reading some of the things you've said about how you are a control freak and control everything your kids do, see, read, eat, etc.
Did I mention the toy aisle once? How about walking thru the fucking door you presumptuous twat? Wtf is wrong with you?
[doublepost=1466803548,1466803395][/doublepost]And I find it interesting you marked my post about spacing as "funny" last night but chose to get butt hurt about it today. Which personality are we dealing with right now, hmmm?
And since you've pointed out "my problem" which would include my children's problems. Got an hour or 3 for me to point out yours?
I was diagnosed ADHD as a child
I bet she's been doing this all their lives, and I bet that's exactly why she raised little hoodrats. Parents that lash out angrily and/or violently tend to raise despicable little brats.
Lets leave weed out of this.
There's nothing wrong with tooting the pipe every now and again. Hell, there's nothing wrong with banging the bong either..
Honestly, @Nell at this point..I don't give a shit. She contradicts herself in every other post and is a judgmental asshole. I like it here but she, alone makes me want to leave. it isn't about power before she gets a big head, it's about coming off as an arrogant, derogatory and often offensive attention whore just for the sake of stirring it up. No thank you.Oh dear. I think this fable may sum up lith for you.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Farmer_and_the_Viper
Honestly, @Nell at this point..I don't give a shit. She contradicts herself in every other post and is a judgmental asshole. I like it here but she, alone makes me want to leave. it isn't about power before she gets a big head, it's about coming off as an arrogant, derogatory and often offensive attention whore just for the sake of stirring it up. No thank you.
Who has time for that?
Honestly, @Nell at this point..I don't give a shit. She contradicts herself in every other post and is a judgmental asshole. I like it here but she, alone makes me want to leave. it isn't about power before she gets a big head, it's about coming off as an arrogant, derogatory and often offensive attention whore just for the sake of stirring it up. No thank you.
Who has time for that?