To clarify, I didn't take anyone's word over anyone else's. I didn't really care who was telling the truth. I let a longtime member have her say because she had been locked out of YOUR group and she knew it would be shared. I was not about to let the comments stay open on that thread because I didn't care who was right or wrong and was not about to let drama from an outside source continue to permeate the forum.
People talk shit about each other online! People say things in "private" groups thinking it remains private! OH LAWD! I mean, that's pretty much the gist of that entire fiasco isn't it?
Someone said something negative in a private FB group about a friend\family member, and that friend\family member was contacted by someone who pointed it out to them. That person(s) who did that was identified as multiple people - from Obsolete, to Whisper, to China, to Nell, to the Pope, and possibly my dog. This led to private messages where current and ex DD members played Scooby Doo and created another "private" FB group and said nasty things about other members trying to figure out who the culprit was. It was a real hoot.
Now, reading that in comparison to real issues in my life - from girlfriends, ex-wife's, kids, work, bills, etc., can some of you understand why I find it very hard to muster up a fart, much less concern, over the entire thing?
I simply agreed to help out a longtime member who carried this forum at times - even if she later turned out to be a loon - by letting her tell her side of the story (false or not). Period. For that, we are still talking about that crap two years later and why I've never gotten involved with any of that kind of shit again - choosing to simply let Subrosa nuke the shit out of it.