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Teen In Utah Commited Suicide In Front Of His ClassmatesTAYLORSVILLE, Utah – A 14-year-old boy in Utah died yesterday after he pulled out a gun and shot himself in the head in front of his classmates.

David Phan was a ninth-grader at Bennion Junior High where he was reportedly enduring bullying. His friends say he was nice to everyone but that it didn’t stop other students from constantly picking on him. After a meeting in the principal’s office yesterday, he left the school with his mother at around 1:30 pm. The school has not released what the meeting was about, but reports are that he was searched for weapons before being allowed to leave.

A couple hours later he returned to a pedestrian bridge near the school and encountered other students he knew who had just gotten out of school. There was a short conversation before David pulled out a handgun he had retrieved from a locked safe at his home, and then shot himself in the head. He was still alive when emergency personnel arrived, but he would die a short while later in the hospital.

There haven’t been any official reports in regards to motive, but Granite School District spokesman Ben Horsley stated that the teen faced ‘significant personal challenges on multiple fronts.” The school district posted on their Facebook page that ever since a bullying concern a couple years ago, David had been in regular contact with counselors to ensure he was doing ok. They did say David reached out to counselors 18 months ago regarding a personal issue, but it did not have to do with bullying, and that at no time did David mention being bullied.

But as is usually the case, his classmates tell a different story. One of his classmates said that while David was nice to everyone, not everyone was nice to him. “I heard it, people (talking about him),” she said. “I hated when people [bullied him]. I felt so bad for him,” said another. A crossing guard told reporters that there were times David would run to a crosswalk alone and ask to cross quickly because he said he was being bullied by someone. His cousin made a statement explaining David had been bullied for years and often came home crying. He said David first tried ignoring it, then started fighting back which would get him into trouble at school.

School officials say they are not ruling out bullying as one of the reasons for David killing himself at school, just that they were not aware of it and will investigate every incident they are alerted to. They also stressed the importance of reporting any form of bullying and encourage students to report any such incidents through a district safety hotline at 801-481-7199 or use an anonymous text service at 801-664-2929.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/OneLifeOneOnly Becca Simpson

    I feel really bad for this child. You have to be at the end of your rope to pull a gun and shoot yourself in the head.

  • denny

    The schools are never fucking aware of it, time to step up and take some responsibility. Bullying needs to be taken more seriously, these suicides are getting out of hand and its really heart breaking. First comment on d&d

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=719395622 Stephanie Mednick

    I live here, and this has been such a tragedy. Something more should have done to help this kid out, whether it be from the cousin or another student who knew he was being bullied. I just feel horrible about this. As a parent it makes me sick to think people are treated so badly it gets to the point of no return…

  • slavesher

    “Jeremy spoke in class today
    Try to forget this…
    Try to erase this…
    From the blackboard.”
    ~Pearl Jam

  • GGMon

    Just what this story reminded me. Unfortunate.

  • GGMon

    Why is it that when DD posts a bully story, none of these schools have any idea the bullying was going on? It’s sad.

  • http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

    Because they are rarely informed of it. The only way to truly stop bullying is to make it socially unacceptable. While you bring up the fact that schools never seem to be aware, I am always fascinated at all the students that come out after a kid is dead to say that the teen was constantly bullied — but never say how they attempted to stop it from happening.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gen.emolias Gen Emolias

    I don’t know if it’s the easy access to the internet, or media for that matter; But it seems young kids are killing themselves more often than before. I’m a little worried about when my 4 year old gets to high school – I hear about teen depression more than ever! I’m old as hell, graduated in 04, but I’ve never experienced anything remotely close to this. I know this is going to sound like *baked* talk but sometimes I wonder if all the chemical, unnatural shit in our processed food (better yet, shit in the medicines), is causing all these symptoms. I guess that’s more of a conspiracy theory, a more sensible thought would be what I mentioned before, this was always happening we just weren’t exposed to it as casual as now…..

  • http://www.facebook.com/gen.emolias Gen Emolias

    Makes me sick to my stomach to imagine what lonely, helpless, worthless, thoughts he was having. I need to make sure my son ALWAYS knows that he can talk to me, about anything. Easier said than done, I guess :/

  • bethied

    I’m kinda with you on the media angle. I know people love to blame the media for all society’s problems, and it think it is often a lot of BS, but the way that the media jumps all over these stories these days, digging for the juicy details, and trying to find someone to blame is a little disturbing. Having been through many rough years of depression as a teen and young adult, I can tell you that suicide is first a quick way to escape the seemingly endless pain you feel trapped with, but second, it can seem like a great big “FUCK YOU” to the people who you believe have hurt or are hurting you. I wouldn’t be surprised if the way that the media handles these, particularly in cases of alleged bullying, has some influence on other troubled teens. These kids need attention, they need to be heard, and they need help. But asking for help can be hard, and with the way the national media treat these victims as some kind of saintly martyrs while attempting to demonize their tormentors… well, that would have only made a dramatic suicide even more enticing to me. Obviously schools (and parents) need better resources for helping these kids so that they can find a way to be heard without killing themselves.

  • Jimbo11

    Good chance he was on psychiatric drugs; antidepressants, Ritalin maybe? More and more children are being prescribed unnecessary drugs that their growing brains can’t process and more are harming themselves and others. Seems to be a new story everyday.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jackson.murphy.7923 Jackson Murphy

    School officials not really saying bullying was the cause? What else could a 14 year old go through at such a age that he wanted to kill himself? Puberty maybe? Shits crazy. Ive read more stories this year about kids killing themselves then adults.

  • jaden

    So sad. This happened right up the street from my home. Rest in peace innocent soul.

  • Abroad

    Welcome.

  • JohnQknowitall

    David had been bullied for years and often came home crying. He said David first tried ignoring it, then started fighting back which would get him into trouble at school.

    I have been there. It is particularly bad when you are a book geek and star sport assholes are the perps. They are model students and take exciting pics.

    This kid, being 14, implies his parents were among the Vietnamese who helped the Americans during the war and got the fuck out AFTER the Americans left them behind. This is just fucked up on so many levels. You leave a country to stopped being bullied and robbed so that you can come to a “free” country so you can have children who will be bullied and, in effect, robbed of their lives.

  • Cat_Lady

    Sleep well with the angels lil man.

  • Whatevn

    Honestly, I was bullied for years. I dont know HOW teachers dont get
    any sense that something is wrong. if they took two damn mins out their
    life each day asking the student sitting alone from everyone what was
    wrong, one of those times, they would open up to say whats going on.
    Sure they may not know exactly what is happening but, there are signs.

    When
    I was in 10thth grade, I saw some girl freshman all alone in my
    class.She got changed to her class because she was being bullied in her
    last one. I didnt know this but, seeing her all alone… What did I do?
    Talk to her! I did something adults were just failing to do.

    I dunno.. I have a real personal sorta connection with kids being bullied I just cant have”Not knowing anything was wrong” as an excuse, in most cases

  • TheAlphaSoup

    Agree. I was bullied too.
    And as for why teachers don’t do sh*t, it’s cuz they’re scared too.
    Some kids are so out of control that even the “adults” get scared…see my high school Spanish teacher for example. The students in the class drove her to clinical depression. No joke, She had meds and everything.

  • TheAlphaSoup

    I think in this case the principal very clearly KNEW that David was being bullied:
    http://www.abc4.com/content/news/top_stories/story/Family-reacts-to-death-of-bullied-teen-David-Phan/Izo9DAf26k2O61Fatnw_kg.cspx
    In that article it says his cousin took complaints to the principal. And others knew too: “The Granite School District said David had reported being bullied several years ago, but not recently.”
    But this is in contradiction to the school officials saying they were not aware of bullying…

    I think someone out there is trying to cover their butt.

  • Wildheart

    > I’m old as hell, graduated in 04
    Thanks for that from the Class of 1981! lol

  • whateverme

    My little brother was bullied in elementary . He’s always been the real quiet super nice kid, so when I heard what was going on I went up to the bully and kicked him right on the balls. My little brother was about 8, the bully about 11..and i was a 10 year old GIRL!!! Yea he was my brother but my point is that I don’t understand why kids see others getting bullied and don’t try to help out.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rochell-Arnold/100000587657456 Rochell Arnold

    Yeah because the schools actually remedy bullying…..NOT! Hell my son would get in trouble all the time for fight the bullies back and NOT FUCKING once did the bullies ever get in trouble, until two years later and I went to the state board about it. Then they decided to relieve the principle and allow my son a transfer to a different school. These kids need to be held accountable at some point.

  • denny

    Thank you!

  • http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

    All of that info is in the article. The bullying the cousin is talking about happened two years ago. Since that time the school has had constant contact with David. David even went to them 18 months ago about a personal issue and never mentioned being bullied. The school isn’t hiding anything and has outright stated that they would look into any of the incidents students are talking about, that were never reported to them.

  • Athena

    A lot of it is media representation. Gotta make everything sound like an “epidemic”, you know. In reality, the suicide rate remains fairly static, it appears.

    Our diets definitely aren’t doing us any favors, as nutrient deficiencies have been associated with depression and anxiety disorders. Obesity also has obvious effects on health and self-esteem, which can contribute to depression. Don’t confuse common sense with conspiracy theory. :P

  • Athena

    Right? I’m Class of ’00, and I dare not call myself “old as hell”. :P

  • http://www.facebook.com/HamsterNinjaofDOOM Alecia Hendricks

    I saw teachers being bullied in school as bad or worse than other students. Kids are assholes and parents would rather be their kids friend than their parent. I tore my son a new asshole in front of his principal and teacher the other day over him behaving disrespectfully.

  • http://www.facebook.com/gen.emolias Gen Emolias

    Thanks for the graph, Athena!

  • http://www.facebook.com/gen.emolias Gen Emolias

    Lol, sorry!

  • TheAlphaSoup

    Yeah :/
    But I disagree with the statement that the school never received reports of bullying. In the article I linked it says “She [his cousing Sue Lake] said she took the concerns to the school principal. She claims the principal talked to the students causing torment.”

    I think the ABC article mentions a different cousin than the one mentioned here, because I was referring to a female cousin and it looks like the male cousin was quoted here.

  • Twisted1

    My daughter had a incident with Cyber bullying. The girl posted her picture but not a name (the girl had sex with my daughters boyfriend). Along with such vile filth about my daughter that would make any parent ill. The police got involved thru the school after we alerted them. The cops said because my daughter called her a slut for sleeping with her boyfriend that they would both be charged. They said because she was not named they could not prove intent. Total BS. Cop admitted to knowing the other girls family. So basically we were forced to drop the charges. Atleast the girl is finally leaving her alone now though. The school knew of the bullying that went on for 6 months. School said it was she said, she said. Gave both ISS dispite a policy that states if you turn in bullying you will not face repercussions in the form of punishment.

  • Curlykate910

    It’s not the teacher’s fault. I’m in school right now earning my teaching degree, and I have to say the amount of work that comes with this profession frightens me. Teachers are overworked. They rarely get all their tasks done at the actual school and often end up taking a lot of stuff home. You can’t blame teachers. Certainly if they see something they should report it, but I don’t know that their responsibility MUST go beyond that. If a student is clearly struggling of course I personally would try to talk with her, but I can’t scan the hallways for every forlorn teenager. And some teachers dont feel qualified to counsel students- studying math in college doesn’t prepare you for bullying. I’m required to take a seminar on bullying before I can graduate, but it’s online and only one afternoon- hardly sufficient. Also, a lot of times districts have policies saying staff guidance counselors, psychologists, administrators etc are the ones that the school wants to handle bullying since it may become a legal issue at some point.
    I don’t know what the solution is. Probably it’s something that has to be approached from many angles and repeatedly. When I’m a teacher I want to be part of the solution, but pointing fingers won’t fix anything.

  • http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

    Yeah, that’s exactly what happened. David never reported any further incidents, nor did any of the other students. Besides, it sounds like the bullying in question was verbal, not physical. Not that this isn’t a damaging form of bullying, but I would garner a form of bullying that goes widely unreported.

  • Twisted1

    I should mention my daughter went to the guidence office atleast once a week with this. Starting from the time the girl sent a photo of a Vajayjay that she claimed was My daughters around school. She called her names everyday. Thankfully my daughter has good self esteem. She said “why should I get upset? I know its not true, and so does anyone who matters.”

  • jojo

    I am SO sick of schools claiming they have no knowledge of bullying incidents. Most of them have an inkling…they choose to overlook it

  • Evan Oswald

    everyone gets bullied to an extent – at some point in their lives. People on this site hope sexual predators get bullied in prison, heck even bullies get bullied. some people like to use it as an excuse. others – go the way this kid did.

  • come_and_see

    Well, a good example is this.

    There will probably be thousands of posts and a dozen videos on youtube on how people would have “saved” him by being his friend and stepping up, but in reality it’s all useless. People seem to be keen on helping after the fact, but not before.

    Really it comes down to what you said. Making it unacceptable.

  • Reen B

    I had to do a double take on that too! *waves from 1986*

  • midniteshadows

    I can empathize with you and other teachers. HOWEVER, the problem is that while most schools have a no bullying policy, they have no protocol or SOP to deal with bullying. It should be part of the school district’s policy on what actions need to be taken, by whom, when and results and consequences.

  • midniteshadows

    I have to disagree. Most people are aware of the bullying but there is no procedure on how to handle the bullying. Most times, the teacher reports it to the principal, the principal to the counselor and that’s where it ends. Nobody is held accountable, there are no consequences, and usually just a lot of “talk” therapy which doesn’t work.

  • midniteshadows

    Class of ’76. Old as hell and a hambeast. :)

  • http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

    What about those anonymous tip lines the school already had set up to report bullying? or the guidelines the school staff must follow regarding bullying, especially in this day and age? What about the counselor visits David had already from the first incident two years ago? Maybe taxpayers should fork over more dough so public schools can hire a staff member per child whose entire job is follow the kid around all day, and at the first sign of bullying, shoot the person(s) doing the bullying in the face.

    I have no doubt that schools will brush things under the rug or downplay bullying incidents… we’ve reported on those kinds of stories before. I just don’t feel this is one of them. This kid wasn’t being physically attacked or abused. His own friends state that people talked about him behind his back, or weren’t nice to him. They weren’t beating him up and shoving him in a locker.

    What is a school to do if this is a case of a boy who some people talked about badly, and if they never received any reports about it, even from David himself? A boy who faced “‘significant personal challenges on multiple fronts.”

  • midniteshadows

    I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant.I will not rant I will not rant I will not rant I will not rant I will not rant…
    Screw it, I’m ranting.

    This story hits so close to home. I’ve posted before about the bullying my son endured and his suicide attempt that happened in May of this year. It started in 3rd grade. My son did everything he was supposed to do – notify the teachers, the principal and us. It wasn’t until I threatened to sue the school, the district and each person that “something” was done. Little did we know at the time, it still continued.

    Fast forward to 8th grade, my son is failing in school, the bullying has hit an all time high, and my son is depressed and suicidal. Thank God we caught it in time, thank God my son told us what was going on. He was hospitalized at a psych unit and then we got him all the wrap around services we could – counseling, skills worker, IEP, diagnosis of ADD and learning disabilities. It continues to this day with services for him.

    Here is what I have learned.

    1. Kids stop reporting bullying after awhile usually because nothing has been done about it. I.e., the bullying never stops. Kids think – and rightly so – that nothings been done and nothing ever will. Why report it?

    2. Kids who are bullied have PTSD issues. They have to face the bullies day in/ day out. They experience anxiety, panic attacks, fear, depression. They relive events over and over.

    3. Unless parents are social workers (even then, they might not know how bad the situation is – as we did and we’re social workers), parents aren’t aware of the help, programs and services that are available to them to help their kids. Most counselors aren’t even aware of the services available either.

    4. There is a lack of procedures or protocol that outlines how to effectively deal with the bullies and the kid being bullied.

    5. No one is advocating for the child.

    My son is doing better now, but he still has a long way to go. He’s learning how to self-advocate. Because he stuffed his feelings for so long, he is now having to re-learn how to face the pain and effectively deal with it.

    Within the past 2 years, there have been 4 other students who have attempted suicide due to bullying.
    And we’re a small school – maybe 45 in graduating class this year. Tell me that no one knew what these kids went through.

    Last month we suffered a tragedy when a senior drowned while duck hunting. The school made available school counselors -2-, teachers, and a priest to help students deal with this loss. I found out last week from my son’s social worker, that our county has an emergency response grief team free of charge, with therapists, social workers, etc. to help deal with a tragedy. Our school counselors and admin. knew this, but failed to utilize the services. Again, the “ball” was dropped.

    Unless we start advocating for our kids, take bullying seriously, put in place effective measures and make known other services to help our kids, kids will keep dying.

    The death of a child through suicide because of bullying should not happen if we are doing the right things for our kids.

  • Canuck Gramz

    @midniteshadows:disqus Sorry this is a late reply but I was reading your comment here and I felt sick inside at what your son ( and your family) had to go through! I was bullied throughout my childhood and nothing was ever done. I have some horrific memories. A couple of my kids were bullied in school. One son was bullied in grade 1 ( by a bigger boy who was also bullied) and his older sister had a “discussion” with the boy who was bullying. She shook the kid around a bit, rattled his teeth, told him to stop and thereafter brought a cookie for him every day. ( my daughter should be a U.N. delegate) One of my sons was bullied so much in high school that he quit in grade 10. He’s smart and talented and it broke my heart that he had to go through this. ( I must add that a concerned teacher was a wonderful mentor to my son – he even invited him to come live with he and his wife for a while! My kids are grown and have survived to be amazing adults and wonderful parents. But I have to tell you that if I find out any person is bullying any of my grandkids I will probably go to jail for giving them a whipping! ( hubby says he’d bail me out but only if I have an ankle monitor) I’m cute and I seem so sweet – I’d probably get probation.
    I wish , I WISH that our schools, our system could figure this bullying thing out and protect our precious children!!

  • SharG’z

    it has always been my feeling that ppl who committ suicide have a certain twisted strength or bravery about them in the aspect of sealing their own fate. Although at the end of the day it seems more courageous to carry on through the depression and angst that is their existence and come out of it a better person; to take your own life and know that there is a high chance of you going straight to hell (if you believe in that sort of place, I mean..it isn’t on the map or anything), well that stands out to me as someone with shall I say…cojones grande!…bottom line, this kid saw his life as hopeless, his days and nights as unbearable, and he just couldnt take it anymore and as sad as it may be it seems that this type of life altering tragedy and trend will be around until the end of time. Human beings taking the “easy road” out of their problems by ending their lives and change those of whom they were loved by. So sad, R.I.P. kids.

  • SharG’z

    I have to download that song back on my ipod….

  • SharG’z

    My uncle is a 4 grade english teacher at a very prestigious public school in our city and he said that most schools offer what is called “bulling and violence prevention training”. It is an optional training class that is offered to every person working on school grounds even down to the janitors. He attended the course along with the training specialist and no one else….

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Hall-Grillot/100000054600337 Anna Hall Grillot

    I was bullied unmercifully from kindergarten until 10th grade, and anytime I retaliated I would get into trouble. In 6th grade I stopped caring whether I got in trouble or not, and started kicking butts. Literally! I remember the first time, there was this bitch who made me miserable very single day. She would slam me into the lockers, or door way of the classroom, and knock my books out of my hands. On day I freaked out and when she turned around to walk away, no fear that I would do anything, I kicked her butthole. Then I ran to the bathroom and cried, lol. I thought she was going to kill me. But after that, she actually left me alone:-)

  • Mistress OfSubs

    This just breaks my heart and makes me want to beat the ass of every kid who has bullied before. I was bullied as a small kid, and my son has been bullied the last few years (he didn’t hit puberty until he was 15). One of the rot things about these incidences is that the kids being bullied will never have a chance to realize that the jackasses who are bullying them have “peaked”. This is the best they’ll ever be! While the bullied kids often go on to do brilliant things, the bullies are the best they’ll ever be. It’s not terrific solace when you consider their actions are driving their victims to take their own lives, but there is certainly some poetic justice in knowing that life is just going to get a lot crappier for a lot of those morons–especially when they end up having to work for people, just like they teased and taunted. Kharma is a sweet little bitch.

  • midniteshadows

    Um, I not sure if you are disagreeing or agreeing Morbid. You make some valid points that I do agree with and some I don’t. I’ll address your questions.

    1. Anonymous tip lines: No where in the article did I read that there was a tip line in place. Taking you for your word, that students utilized this service, it seems not to have helped in this case.

    2. Most schools have guidelines regarding bullying. However, what were those guidelines at the school and were they followed? We won’t know unless we ask to see the policy and procedures. As I noted, most policies illicit the “victim” to notify either a teacher or counselor, who then notifies the principal. From there, what happens? What are the consequences for the bullies? Were there follow ups with David to see if the bullying had stopped? Were his parents notified? Were outside services recommended? These responsibilities fall within the counselor’s realm.

    3. Bullying incident from 2 years ago – It shows that there is a history of bullying with David. Even if the bullying had stopped, there is still the PTSD aspect that has to be dealt with. Not only that, but David had to face his bullies day in/out. I can only imagine the anxiety that would have produced in David.

    4. Hiring a bully hitman – No, I don’t think the school should hire a person to follow a student around all day and at the first sign of bullying shoot the person in the face. That is a bit excessive. On the other hand, if the system the school had in place was effective, then we wouldn’t be reading about it.

    5. Never received any reports…even from David. David did report bullying – even if it was 2 years ago. The story even says that he had been bullied for years. So, why was nothing done? David reported the bullying – how many times does a person have to report it before something is done? Nothing was done; David quit reporting because of that.

    6. David is of Asian descent. It is quite common in Asian cultures when it comes to “emotions” to just suck it up. Hurt feelings are a sign of weakness. Suicide is a major character flaw in Asian culture. His parent’s wouldn’t know the extent of the bullying or it’s impact on their son. Coming home crying is a weakness and is dealt with by anger. Then when he got in trouble at school for fighting, he got the lecture that he needed to be good in school, that his fighting shamed his parents and how could they save face with a troubled son.

    7. “This kid wasn’t being physically attacked or abused. His own friends state that people talked about him behind his back, or weren’t nice to him. They weren’t beating him up and shoving him in a locker.”

    I’m surprised that you made this statement. Abuse is abuse is abuse. The major forms of abuse are: psychological, physical, verbal, sexual, neglect. Abuse is generally defined as a relationship where one mistreats or misuses another.

    8. ” A boy who faced “‘significant personal challenges on multiple fronts.” And what does this have to do with anything? Does it mean because he has personal problems, it caused the bullying? It’s like saying a prostitute can’t be raped. Or a person in a relationship can’t be raped. It’s all consensual.

    9. Coming forward with information.
    “The school district posted on their Facebook page that ever since a bullying concern a couple years ago, David had been in regular contact with counselors to ensure he was doing ok. They did say David reached out to counselors 18 months ago regarding a personal issue, but it did not have to do with bullying, and that at no time did David mention being bullied.”

    So, did the school know or not know? There was a bullying concern a couple of years ago that counselors knew of the bullying. Then, at no time did David mention bullying. Again, which is it?

    David’s own cousin knew about the bullying, so did several of his classmates. Not only that, but there are always signs that something is wrong if a person is aware. Prior to suicide, David exhibited disruptive behaviors – for which he was disciplined for. He came home crying. Was he withdrawn? Grades suffering? Depressed? Isolative? Ruminating about death? Personal hygiene down? Loss of interest in favorite activities? Loss of appetite?

    So, despite having a “policy and procedure” in place to deal with bullying, it was ineffective. Nor do I believe that the school was completely unaware of what was happening, If they were unaware, then the school has a major problem that needs to be rectified.

  • midniteshadows

    I’m so sorry to hear what you and your family went through. It would go a long way if we call bullying for what it actually is – ABUSE. Then maybe, everyone will take it seriously and start implementing effective measures to deal with it. I’m so glad that your kids are all doing well and are ok despite the bullying. I think that must be a testament to the kind of mom you are.

    It’s funny how reflecting back on what my son went through, the thought of throttling the bullies never crossed my mind. Which is uncharacteristic of me. My first reaction is to beat the shit out of the person(s) causing the pain. I guess we were so focused on our son and getting him help. It’s a good thing, though, ’cause I probably would be spending some alone time in a jail cell. :)

    I, too, dealt with bullying as a child. I was beaten up, spit on and was discriminated against. I remember going to a restaurant with my parent’s and one brother at the time and my parent’s being told, “We don’t serve your kind.” (I’m 1/2 Japanese and Puerto Rican.) I’ve had teachers tell me how much they hated the Japanese because of the war. And so on.

    As a society, all of us need to figure out what our priorities are and what we need to do to protect them – be it “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”, children, or what ever.

  • http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

    The only problem this school seems to have is that it is full of kids. Kids who do not come forward until after a bullied classmate is dead.

  • Arlandria

    The goddamn schools are all the same, I thought about doing the same thing just to engrave in their minds what it felt like being harassed and contently made fun of for no reason except “fun”.