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NJ Mom Accused Of Boarding School Bus, Slapping Daughter’s Bully

October 22, 2012 at 10:28 am by Morbid

TOMS RIVER, N.J. – A mother in New Jersey has been accused of boarding her 9-year-old daughter’s school bus and slapping her daughter’s 4th-grade bully.

According to reports, 28-year-old Rebecca Sardoni boarded a school bus Friday morning with her 51-year-old mother, Stephanie Sardoni. The pair were on the bus looking for one of the kids they say have been bullying Rebecca’s daughter as she rode the bus to and from East Dover Elementary School.

“Who is Vinny?” she asked according to other students and the bus driver. When Vinny raised his hand, the mother-daughter pair walked to the back of the bus where he was sitting and had a talk with him about his alleged bullying.

By “talk with him” I mean that they screamed and cursed at them while Rebecca allegedly slapped Vinny in the face. Not quite satisfied, Rebecca then slapped the face of the boy who was sitting next to Vinny. She also told them that she was taking them to court.

Both Vinny and the other boy were treated by Toms River school nurses for cuts to their mouths. One of the boys was later taken by his parent to a medical center for a neck injury. The stepfather of one of the boys told reporters his stepson had a cut to his lip after Rebecca Sardoni slammed his head against the bus window.

Rebecca and her mother were arrested later that day. Rebecca has been charged with simple assault, criminal trespass and making terroristic threats. Her mother is charged with criminal trespass.

Rebecca’s account of what happened differs greatly from multiple eyewitnesses. She claims that after repeated complaints to school administration about her daughter being verbally and physically bullied by three boys and a girl went ignored, she decided to alert the bus driver of the situation.

After boarding the bus, she says the driver identified Vinny and allowed her to walk back and talk to him while her mother stayed at the front of the bus. She says she scolded him and informed him that she was taking him to court, but that she never touched anyone. “I was upset. I wasn’t crazy woman upset,” she said. “I don’t put my hands on my own kids. I would have never put my hands on anyone’s kid.”

School officials have refused to comment, but police say they have been notified of the alleged bullying and that they are investigating. Rebecca says her daughter will no longer ride the bus and that she is meeting with a lawyer to file complaints. She’s also going to have her daughter moved to a different school. “They’re making us look like bad people and we’re not. This little girl has been through a lot,” Rebecca said.

Tags: Assault, bully, Bus, Crime, New Jersey, Rebecca Sardoni, Stephanie Sardoni, student

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Sam

The lesson here is – next time, make sure there aren’t any eyewitnesses.
Gee

Wow… neck injuries that kind of seems a little dramatic. Maybe setting up for a law suit .
EveryVillainIsLemons

Wow, way to make things worse for your kid, idiot!
neenaP

This is what happens when the school doesn’t stop the bullying. The bully should be kicked off the bus for the rest of the school year make his parents drive him. I hope these women didn’t hit the kids as much as I understand why they’d want to its not a good idea.
JGo555

Wouldn’t this be the last resort after moving her kid to a different school and having the investigation by the schol found nothing? And this is a BAD last resort “move”.
I do agree to talking to the kid, but reserve the hands on action for the parents if they are actually that assholey like their kids and only after they’ve touched you, so you can claim self defense.
JGo555

The thing is, the woman didn’t wait. The school is still investigating the claims while there are a miriad of solutions that hadn’t been done before:
-WAIT to see what the official investigation yields,
-take the kid to school instead of letting her on the bus,
- TALK TO THE PARENTS OF THE LITTLE “alleged” assholes (we don’t know if this is true),
- ask the bus driver to prevent the kids from sitting too close,
- change the kid from school should’ve been the last resort,
JGo555

Exactly what I though. Cause if someone knows how to slap good are those Soap Opera bitches and I can tell you, none of them walk around with a neckbrace.
http://twitter.com/MeliMachiavelli Meli Magdalene

Somehow I don’t think this improved anything, Rebecca.
BehemothII

Oh Yea lets bully the bully that always works.
BehemothII

I missed you Gee!
http://twitter.com/MeliMachiavelli Meli Magdalene

If the bullying was so bad and not being taken care of fast enough for the parents, they could’ve easily lawyered up or just removed the kid to another school. Which they are doing now, after displaying how to NOT handle your problems.
come_and_see

Give her a medal. She obviously loves her daughter and nobody at the school was going to do anything about it.
LeaveMeBe

I can’t believe the bus driver let the women on the bus. If I were a bus driver there is no way in hell I would let any adult on a bus full of kids I was responsible for without going through me first. And if this woman slapped two kids who weren’t her own, after climbing onto school property and making threats, then I hope karma slaps her hard enough to keep her walking backward and revisiting her stupid mistake.
TruTruTrue

I’m with you. Name a street after her!
Gee

Remember these are alleged accusations. So I ask you, what if your child was slapped by some other parent just because their child said your child was bulling her. I personally would beat this bitches ass for laying hands on my child. From the story it sounds like parents of the alleged bullies may not have known yet and this was just being investigated.
come_and_see

That’s the problem. Nobody takes responsibility for their own kids actions. They’ll call their own kid an angel and say they could never do that, blah blah blah and teachers honestly don’t give a damn. Somebody has to step up for these poor kids.
OutOfBubbleGum

And, I always thought that George Foreman was crazy, punch-drunk for naming all of his four sons George. Too bad for Vinny that there was only one Vinny raising his hand.
Gee

I think you’re missing the point. We don’t know these parents are denying anything yet. Even if they were I take it you believe that you should be able hit/assault any children you see fit as long as your child claims he/she is being bullied.
How about this….. As a parent maybe teaching your kids better life skills so they don’t fall prey to bulling. Getting involved in activities they excel at so as to build their self esteem.
*BTW I am not a parent but if I was this is were I would be going with my child. If there are any parents who feel I am wrong By all means let me know.
Gee

I do agree with you that most parents are in denial and think their kids are angels.
come_and_see

You’re blaming the victims as if it’s their fault they get picked on. How do you teach somebody better life skills?
supreme321

Well I can’t judge her not after reading so much about the consequences of bullying and the fact that most school just choose to ignore it. Maybe she lost it, but for now it is just allegations. I hope they sue the school.
LeaveMeBe

What do you mean by this? I’m not in denial, my kids ARE angels.
Gee

I am not blaming any victims. I believe this bulling thing has been over the top in some cases and gets blamed for way more then it should. As for teaching life skills here is one search I did ( Google is a very helpful tool) http://blog.sfgate.com/sfmoms/2011/01/25/which-life-skills-should-parents-teach-their-children/
This is just the first one of many in the search I did. Not to mention the example I already gave you in my above post.
I notice you did not address the fact about you feeling like it’s ok to put your hands on other peoples children.
Gee

Well we know your are *winky
http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Hall-Grillot/100000054600337 Anna Hall Grillot

My daughter has been bullied by the same little girl in our neighborhood for 2 years. It stems from jealousy over another little girl’s friendship. It is so stupid! My daughter doesn’t give a crap if the girl has all the friends in the world, but this other girl doesn’t want to share. I’m scared she’s a psycho, but I told my daughter to just stay away from her. Couple weeks ago the little snot spit on my daughter, so I had a talk with her mother, who agreed that her girl isn’t all there, after first being very defensive. I told her that my daughter now has permission to kick her ass if she ever spits on her again, or even looks at her sideways. And my skinny girl will do it, too. She has 3 brothers and will fight them. I’d never put my hands on the little shit, though…
newstarshipsmell

“I believe this bulling thing has been over the top in some cases…”

Yes, it’s become rabbit. (I just said that aloud.) ;p
Athena

See? Not that hard.
ultracreep

Everytime I hear a story like this, it pisses me off so badly. The parents do not stop to think, and end up being bigger bullies than the bullies at the child’s school. Might does not make right, and by physically attacking a child who bullies, you’re only teaching them that it does. It’s even worse coming from an adult who ought to know better. Also, to be completely honest, some kids are going to be bullied a little. This is human nature. If there is physical abuse involved or you feel the bullying is too much for your child and nothing is being done to separate your child from the bullies, GET YOUR KID OUT OF THERE. That is your responsibility as a parent. It is not your responsibility to slap and scream at other people’s children.
ultracreep

I agree with you Gee. People will always be picked on at some time in their life, and to some degree you have to develop coping skills. I do hope the next generation isn’t all a bunch of fainting flowers who can’t function if someone calls them fat, stupid, or ugly. I was bullied a lot in my youth, and I coped by developing an evil sense of humor and giving back better than I got. It worked for me. However, if bullying spills over into physical abuse or in the case of older kids, when it gets into internet extortion, then something has to be done.
Gee

I’d say that’s a life skill taught…. LOL Good for your little girl
JohnQknowitall

Moving the girl was probably an even better idea before assaulting the children.
Rachel Ann

I couldn’t even board the school bus the day my son got sick and puked. I had to wait for the bus monitor to bring him to me, so Idk why this bus driver let not one but two people onto this bus without being aware of their intentions.
LeaveMeBe

I had to say it aloud before I got it. Then I spewed tea on my keyboard.
http://twitter.com/Karmaa_Rose Karma

Spitting is legally considered assault. Mama is lucky you didn’t call the cops and demand that the bully be charged. Most jurisdictions, they HAVE to handle it, even if it’s a juvenile.
newstarshipsmell

http://encyclopediadramatica.se/Megan_Meier#Denizens_of_teh_Internets_Respond
http://www.facebook.com/people/Jen-Young/100001119528775 Jen Young

Ha. My daughter has been bullied. If I were to ever see them face to face… I’d probably control myself, but you know what? I’d still want to stomp the trashy ho(young or not) that makes my daughter miserable, my daughter who can get A’s in every class, but fails because she is afraid to attend school! I want to take that piece of shit, average or lower addition to our society, and make her suffer for hurting my daughter’s opportunities! You never know what someone else is going through! Bullies need to learn some way. Maybe they met their maker that day? I didn’t give birth and love and care for a child to allow some dirty POS to abuse my child. I don’t care what age they are.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Jen-Young/100001119528775 Jen Young

Quite honestly, if they bullied her daughter, I don’t blame her. Maybe she should have visited their moms for tea first, because I am sure their mom’s could teach her a thing or two… Like how to train a fucking bully!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Jen-Young/100001119528775 Jen Young

Bullies need to learn that there is always someone bigger and stronger. They are only bullies because it has been allowed. What else would you do? Offer him an ice cream cone after not beating someone else’s kid up for a week? They do it because nobody stands up to them and the few that do, don’t complete. Lay that bully on their ass and let them know they ain’t as bad as they think.
Whatevn

I was bullied many times in my life, by adults trying be “cool” and by my peers. Yes, being the quiet one sucked.

I did just what my father told me. I ignored them and they went away. Sticks and stones–

Who am I kidding, I kicked all their butts. Just because I as shy it didnt mean I was going to sit there taking crap all year. My dad told me to kick the main ones butt, and I did every time. Funny enough, I became friends with some of the kids afterward(normally the main bully’s crew)

My dad handled the adults c: I dunno what he did but, I had no problems once he stepped in.
http://twitter.com/christop999 christopher whiteman

i don’t blame this woman at all, if some bratish kid was bullying my child i’d break his/her face in, bullys only understand one language and thats violence, they are all cowards inside and some do need a bit of a kicking, and do not leave any witnesess
http://twitter.com/christop999 christopher whiteman

yeah right as if mom would believe that her little baby would hurt another kid, she would throw you out of her house with a punch to your head as shes taught her kids to do.
http://twitter.com/christop999 christopher whiteman

jen young, agree totally its the only thing that bullys understand, i’ve had dealings with many bullys and the only way to deal with them is to lay them out and its never as hard as you think it is and they never come back, fucking cowards
http://twitter.com/christop999 christopher whiteman

why should a victim of bullying have to move to a new school? it should be the bully who gets to move away, the victim is just getting re-victimized
Pinkiepie

Remove all involved until resolved – make their stupid lazy fucking parents drive them to school. Time out bitches!
Pinkiepie

Actually that is just repeating the same cycle of poor behavior and problem solving. Maybe a good idea if you want to raise sociopaths. Not so much if you actually want to lead by example for your children and your neighbors children.
Pinkiepie

Rabbit punch?
Pinkiepie

I feel for you! My husband was bullied in school. And he had parents that didn’t have enough sense to teach him coping skills that didn’t involve violence and non positive behavior. You know what that resulted in? A scared violent teenage boy. Not smart. You can be her rod! That, and teach her better coping skills. Don’t let shitheads and bad experience dominate her life experience.
Pinkiepie

Probably talked to them like adults. Just sayin. And the ones who were your friends, they probably had parents who weren’t dickheads and went home and told their kids to fly right.
kimbev69

How bout the sexual assault these little boys did towards her daughter, i woulda slapped a little bitch too
http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Hall-Grillot/100000054600337 Anna Hall Grillot

Haha, she is 8, and is tall and only weighs 50 lbs. her little hands remind me of a bird’s wings, they are so thin and delicate……but she punched a girl in the face and puffed her lip up, when she got in her face, yelling… Later, she told me she didn’t even know she was going to do it, it just happened. that’s my girl!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Hall-Grillot/100000054600337 Anna Hall Grillot

I figured I’d give the mother a warning first. They are only 8 years old, the other girl will be 9 in Dec, and my daughter 9 in February… I told the little girl and her mother that my girl has my permission to hit her, just to wait until she hits her first, or spits again, and do it off school grounds.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Hall-Grillot/100000054600337 Anna Hall Grillot

Actually, it was hard… I’m just smarter and have more self control, and a business to run;-)
http://www.facebook.com/people/Cindy-Crawford/13964421 Cindy Crawford

I thought that all buses nowadays were equipped with cameras…….
ShelbySP

Same. I used to get bullied for being quiet and having really big natural hair. My dad used to always go to the adults first (Parents and teachers) and talk to them about what was going on. The one time that didn’t work, (Fourth grade) he taught me how to fight and told me “kick one ass and they will all fall in line”. I did, and they did. Only fight I ever got into in my life.
ShelbySP

Have you ever tried to stop not one, but TWO angry Italian women from New Jersey??
Canuck Gramz

That’s why the grandmother was on the bus. ( a guess)
Canuck Gramz

That was my first thought too! lol
Canuck Gramz

I’m NOT advocating violence towards any kid, but I have to say I can totally understand this mother! I’ll bet she didn’t plan on touching those kids but in the midst of her bawling them out they decided to mouth off to her and that pushed her over the edge. If you were in the school yard and saw a gang of kids attack your child , would you just stand there and tell your child to hang on, while school officials “discussed” the issue? No , you’d wade in there and pull them off her if you could! Heck I’d try to do it for any kid!
I remember taking a walk in my neighborhood when my kids were school age, and I saw a boy they played with being beat down by his older teenager brother, right there in his front yard. I yelled at the brother to stop and ran to stop him. The teen turned to me and called me every name in the book, including an impressive list of profanities ( though his grammar was lacking) I stood there, astounded. He told me if I stepped in his yard he would call the police on me. What I did was grab the younger one and told him he was coming home with me and told the teen that when his mother came home he had to tell her why I had her boy. The kid got even more belligerant. Thought he was going to take a swing at me and I was wondering wildly if I’ll hit him back. By this point a group of about a dozen kids had gathered around us and threatened to stomp his butt if he tried to hurt me. Then a couple parents came out of their houses and asked if I needed help. I was pretty proud of those kids and I have since wished many times that more bullied kids would do that. I took the younger boy home and by the time the mother got home she’d heard many versions of what happened and the teenage brother was facing a lot of grounding and had to apologise. And I had to go have a talk with various neighbor kids who were threatening him. I told them it was dealt with and there would be no more free cookies at my house if they did anything to him.
I can honestly say I don’t know how I’d have reacted if he’d been beating on one of my kids. Of if I was handling it alone. I had some darned good neighbors (including the boys’ mother) so it probably would never have to come to that. But I remember how that felt and imagining how that mom and grandma felt that day.
Gee

Where did it say the boys sexually assaulted her? I went back and looked and did not see that fact.
kimbev69

A local News 12 article that had more in depth information
Gee

If the bullying was sexual in nature then I don’t understand why she would not have gone to the police as well as the school.
kimbev69

Did you know at that age the police dont do anything in most states, south carolina for one, the kid was 12 and the prosecutor told the mom sorry your daughter is only 3 so we cant do anything, the boy looked 16 and was the son of an at home daycare owner who is still in business, he was using a children’s broom on her down there it was confirmed and everything
Reen B

I agree. Last year our school moved my daughter to a classroom away from her bully and she was devastated, she felt like it was her who’d done something wrong. She was inconsolable for days and I felt like all I’d done to nag the school and protect her was for nothing. Move the little shits causing problems, not their victims.
Athena

Well, apparently, not that hard, as you were ultimately able to handle the situation without resorting to beating on little kids.
Athena

Wow. That’s pretty ridiculous.
Athena

It makes absolutely no sense to allow your child to continue to get bullied because, in principle, it’s the bully who should be moved. If the school isn’t reacting, you must react and, often, the most feasible reaction is switching your student’s school.

When my little sister lived with me, I had to switch her an entire district.
She handled it well because she knew I had done everything in my power
to keep her at her original school and alleviate the bullying issues,
but, ultimately, you do what needs to be done.
Gee

I am not sure I believe that statement . I certainly don’t believe the victims age would negate any protection as you stated above. That statement alone is flawed as all states protect children from Neonate to 18 against child abuse.

But even if the police opted not to charge these boys for what ever reason ( age and understanding of actions, Insufficient evidence of sexual assault) We can’t say this has happen yet as she is not allowing the investigation to even happen by taking matters into her own hands. By her own statement she did not go to the police as she assumed the school would handle it.

MY FINAL POINT- This mother did not even exhaust all feasible avenues she just decided it was her right to lay hands on some one else child. All she admitted to doing is going to the school administration, we don’t even know the parents of the alleged bullies even knew what the son(s) were accused of doing, I think you are mixing this story up with others you have read. I based my comment the story above and available info that’s it.
Athena

The last thing we need is for police and court resources to be usurped by addressing spats between children. I believe a parent should exhaust reasonable options before getting the authorities involved. It sounds like Anna did the right thing by going to the other girl’s parents.
Athena

Sure… and face multiple charges like this woman is, which will drain her resources and potentially take her away from her child for a time. That’s bright.
Athena

Get ‘em, Gee!
http://www.dreamindemon.com Morbid

The school says they never even heard of the bullying complaints until Thursday evening and that even then, the sexual assault claim was not brought up. Rebecca didn’t mention this important piece of info until after she was arrested,
kimbev69

sorry but no i am not mixing it up i will go to news 12 as i am a subscriber in nj where this happened and i’ll post it here ok
and i didn’t make the statement the police in South Carolina did, i called them and CPS myself and they refused to investigate because the daycare owner would not allow herself or or son to be interviewed
Gee

That is what I thought. Thanks for the confirmation
Gee

Just because the News reports it doesn’t make it true. I don’t care about the South Carolina Case.
kimbev69

Police: Toms River mother hit daughter’s bullies
(10/21/12) TOMS RIVER – Police say a Toms River mother went too far protecting her daughter from alleged school bullies. Rebecca Sardoni is accused of picking on and beating on two 9-year-old boys. Sardoni says three kids in her daughter’s class have been bullying her, even sexually assaulting the 9-year-old girl. The mother says she complained to the principal at East Dover Elementary School but that nothing was done. Police say Sardoni then went up to one of the young boys at a bus stop, yelling at him and allegedly hitting him. Sardoni, who won’t go into detail about what happened Friday morning for legal reasons, denies hitting the young boy. She was charged with simple assault, criminal trespass and making terroristic threats.
if i link the article you have to have cablevision but this is the local news story
Gee

Ha I see you still are well stalked by the down vote…
kimbev69

Gee go suck an egg…ok you are reading it and you feel one way i feel another, don’t try to bait me into a fight … for what??? seriously i’d rather just ignore you….i’m a mom who went through all the right channels when my son was bullied from kindergarten – 8th Grade, went to the teacher, the parents, the principal, the school board, and nothing happened, finally in high school he beat someone’s ass and it worked…he was bullied once or twice more, they made a fake myspace saying he was into little boys and the person claiming to be him private messaged a fellow student saying he was going to rape his infant sister, the police did nothing, even my friend who is a CSI in South Jersey called my local police dept and he couldn’t believe how outdated they were…in cyber crimes…my son was attacked by this boy who had someone drive over to our home…
so you can have your damn thoughts and i’ll have mine, i’ve lived this shit have you? i was a bully victim too…and then bullied by my parents…
Gee

I am not trying to bait you into a fight. By you last remark above I see you are very sensitive to the subject. I am sorry you and your son have had a tough time.
No reason to get so aggressive by telling me to suck an egg ) Kim this made me giggle!
Athena

I’m sexy and I know it.
kimbev69

Lmao thats what it was meant to do lol
LeaveMeBe

Remember that when someone slaps the shit out of your child because their child accused yours of bullying them.
LeaveMeBe

Ah-hahahaha! Bah-hahahaha! Oh-oh-oh-oh!
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=606239068 Anthony Mandich

good for this new jersey MILF….she’s fucking hot as fuck.
Wrath

Dead kids tell no tales!
Abroad

Not unusual, though. The school district I was in “offered” me the chance to transfer to another school. I refused. They also “offered” me the chance to transfer to a class below the one I was in, thinking that I might be better off with people my own age. It is possible I would have been; but considering I was among the top of the class……..
Abroad

I don’t know whether it would work for your daughter; but my mother once told me that when they called me names they were saying infinitely more about themselves. Still remind myself of that occasionally…….
Abroad

So promising to “take people to court” is “making terroristic threats” now? I thought suing was a way of life in the US?
LeaveMeBe

in this case, I sure would have liked to give it a go.
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QXTWIEFBPQSPMK3BTU6NB4DAVY Meeches Peaches

Yeah I’d say slap the shit out of the bully
out of the view of the public
stephanie

schools dont do anything, police dont do anything. When my oldest daughter was in HS she was constantly abused by a group of girls, there was one ring leader and about 5 girls that followed her. Everytime they saw my daughter she would get jumped, hair pulled, punched, phone stollen. i was called to the school at least once or twice a week, nothing was happening to resolve this because the ring leader was not a student at the school. All they cold tell me was if they saw her at the school they would call the cops. So finally i was at my witts end, i called my ex-husband, daughters father who happens to be a hells angel. After that one phone call, my daughter was never bullied again.
Samantha

LOL
Samantha

I don’t think she actually put her hands on those kids…As badly as some of us parents want to, we all have a little more than enough common sense not to. Aren’t there cameras on school buses?