She sure didn't look 12. Either that or I am turning into a dirty old man at an alarming rate. I am curious about the teasing and why it started. I cannot track down the Myspace page presently, so if anyone wants to throw up a link, that'd be cool of ya'.

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Seems like momma would have done something about her MS page saying she is 17. Not condoning the teasing, etc but this is also an example of why kids don't need MS and FB pages. Very sad indeed. Her page also states she is depressed so likely the teasing was just the straw that broke the perverbial camels back. RIP!

What a sad story. I wish parents would wake up and start doing something about this. I wish more parents would take this kind of thing seriously and teach their kids that it isn't okay to treat other people like that

Isn't this title backward? Shouldn't it be "Mother blames 12-year-old daughter's suicide on teasing?"

...unless, of course, she was teased because she committed suicide. :P

I've never had to change a title before, though.

I can't seem to wrap my head over a child who is 12 years old wearing makeup and having a myspace. I just can't, thinking back on that age I was still playing with barbie and watching Disney movies. Looking at her myspace she seems to be thinking about things that are way beyond her age. Just like you have to be a certain age to apply for a drivers permit I think there should be a minimum age for having a myspace or facebook.

Look at that. Changing titles is just as easy as anything else. Awesome.

This is a tough line & this story makes me question things more. We live in a upper middle class area & when my daughter started middle school the others WERE wearing makeup, I saw this. They were 11! My daughter wants to. Right now it's just coverup for blemishes....but I was actually considering letting her wear more. Now - I'm not so sure. She wants FB & MS....she never has time for the computer so I that's in my favor.

These kids ARE growing up faster....it's not entirely the parents - this is society. I too was playing w/ Barbies at 12. My daughter hasn't picked up a doll since she was 8.
Nellymed- there is an age requirement but they lie to get it up & running.

::SIGH:: So sad. I know teasing & bullying does horrible things to a child but is it naive of me to have faith my daughter could handle it? Someone makes fun of her she tells them they're a moron & walks off...I truly beleive she could hold her own...

Stupid firewall. I can't see the video.

Anyway, I think the decision to let a young girl wear makeup should be considered on a case-by-case basis. I started wearing makeup in 7th grade (I was 12). It never presented a problem. As for the social networking pages... I firmly believe parents should respect a site's TOS. If no one under the age of 14 is allowed to have a page, and falsely reporting ones age break policy, don't do it (or allow your children to). After all, those restrictions are established for your own protection.

The bottom line, though, is that all kids get teased - some far worse than others - but only the ones that are unstable to begin with off themselves as a result.

Peer pressure is incredible. My oldest is 7 years old and in KINDERGARTEN she started asking me if she could shave her legs. Apparently more than one little girl in her class was allowed to do it. I refused to let her of course, there is no reason for a little girl to be doing that! She wants to wear make-up to school and dress in (I feel anyway) inappropriate clothes. I go to her school and I can't believe the way some of these little girls look! I let her wear make-up at home when playing dress-up or something, but not out in public

It does seem a little extreme for her to commit suicide because of online teasing. However, I'm sure it was continued while she was at school as well. I was constantly teased, humiliated and berated at school growing up too. I can tell you that shit can have the mental effect of a red hot iron stuck in your head.

I do think that parents should have access to their kids profiles and passwords to regularly check things out. If they refuse, that's when it gets taken away.

RIP Sarah, but it was a waste, you were a beautiful girl with parents that actually cared about you. You could have had a wonderful life.

I do think that parents should have access to their kids profiles and passwords to regularly check things out. If they refuse, that’s when it gets taken away.

Some kids set up two MS accounts, one their parents get to monitor, and one their parents don't know about.

My kids will believe they have unfettered, unmonitored access to the internet... They won't know about the spyware I have loaded on to their computer. I figure I'll get a much better idea of what they're really up to if they don't know I'm watching. ;)

My kids will believe they have unfettered, unmonitored access to the internet… They won’t know about the spyware I have loaded on to their computer. I figure I’ll get a much better idea of what they’re really up to if they don’t know I’m watching. ;)

Daaaaamn! You are the shit, Deety. Totally diabolical...and I love it!

Ugh, the music in the video, was that really necessary?? Please, by all means, take a tragedy and make it into a cheesy Lifetime TV movie.

Incidentally, she didn't look 12, AT ALL. 12 still seems like a little kid to me. If my daughter looked like that, I think I'd have to chaperone her every single waking moment.

Anyway...really sad that she didn't think there was any other way out. Jesus, I wish all kids could understand that the problems you have when you're 12 are just fucking ridiculous in the grand scheme of things.

what is it with these parents allowing these kids having computers in their rooms and having a Myspace page etc

She obviously did not have too much knowledge of what was happening If she did she would have either got the kid off MS to begin with.

I am sorry but there are some screwed up kids out here now days
I wish to hell parents would wake the hell up and parent these damn kids
they get online seeking attention that they want from home and do not get and this crap happens and parents all want to blame others and not themselves

The kid had a myspace page? all dolled up like she was 17? Myspace is the first thing I would have eliminated from my daughters life. Kids don't need a myspace page, if they want to hang out and gossip they can invite a friend over. Kids are brutal and they will say some mean things to others but kids will be kids so you can't expect them to act like adults.

The music was a little over the top, it was like a tacky made-for-tv Lifetime movie orginal, or worse kids see that and are turned on by the way they memorialize a suicide death.

What a shame. I have to say " In Point" ( not that it matters much now for this young lady).
The Mom saying that her **Daughter deleted her from her myspace friends list, that she was no longer to see her Daughters activity online. I call BS.
(** Mom was deleted from Daughters friends list - i.e. Daughters myspace was set to private, when Mom was deleted she could no longer lurk on her Daughters space)
If you know your 12 yr old is online and has a social page, you do not let them ( Child) set the rules and boundaries. YOU " Parent" have all the logins/passwords period. If you * Parent* are not allowed to go on your child's social site pages, them being 12 ... Child should not be allowed to be a member of such sites. We all know that kids as young as 8, 9 are on myspace and other sites alike. But It is still up to the Parent to Monitor the Online living life on going within their children.
We all know about stranger danger. We all teach our children not to talk to strangers. Online they can meet up with anyone appearing to be someone their not. So why in the Hell would you as a parent not have the jurisdiction over your home computer. There are more predators online than there is in most communities.

With the Bullying its so easy for Kids to do it. They see no face, there is no identity to whom they are emotionally beating to a pulp with words. They are cyber cowards. Because none of them would ever say the shit they type to each other face to face. They know its wrong, but they do it anyway because they think that they can get away with it. In their minds its not face to face. No consequences.
In the past, old school, someone anon writes a note about someone * secret*vindictive, passes it to someone, then it goes wild thru the hands of everyone in class. The victim is the last one to get the note, while victim reads it ...everyone snickers..and then the poor kid is tormented. 20 kids and one note. By the end of the week the story is so changed no one knows who to believe. For the most part its forgotten.
This is much different today, this is cyber. This poor girl could have had a handful of people sending her hate mail. If she responded to One of the hate mails, her response could have become viral within a millisecond.
There was nothing she could have done other than not opened the mail, or just deleted them. When your 12, all you want is to fit in. That is all important. Curiosity is 12. Suicide at 12 is not anything but a tragedy.

Parents need to know this - You do not have to have a computer in your home for your child to have a myspace or social site.
Some parents do not even know that their child has a Myspace, facebook, friendster because the child accesses someone else's computer after school or on weekends. Case in point this Mom knew her Daughter had a My Space and was very active on it.
Most kids today use their cell phone if they have internet capability. They can post from their cell, text right to their myspace or their facebook. They do not need a computer.
Most kids too, when they are 12 or in that age range- they use their first and last name and are easy to find online. They do not chose a nickname. They use their first/last and some even practically throw out their entire identity online. I go to yadda Middle School, I am on Cheer, I play football for .. They do not know any better. That's why they need to be Monitored by a Parent or Grandparent online. Get their Login Names and Passwords and Write them Down And Check their online activity weekly. These are children. 12 is a Child no matter how much eye glitter and lip gloss you wear.

If any parents want to check and see if their child has a social site. Use this website and look them up. You may be surprised what you find.
Its a free site. www.pipl.com. Just put in your childs name, city and state.
Or you can even chase their email address.

This is a horrible sad case that could have had intervention - I feel. I mean seriously if this Mom had one inclination that her Daughter was being Cyber bullied by her peers...Dont cha think she would have gotten involved before her baby girl had to go to such measures. That's Why Logins/Passwords are mandatory - for parents to have. 12 years old. Oh Yes.
A 12 year old does not commit suicide over a few messages. This had to have been ongoing for a very long time. Months at best. A Damn Shame.

RIP Baby Girl

If my post hits twice - I apologize.

What a shame. I have to say " In Point" ( not that it matters much now for this young lady).
The Mom saying that her **Daughter deleted her from her myspace friends list, that she was no longer to see her Daughters activity online. I call BS.
(** Mom was deleted from Daughters friends list - i.e. Daughters myspace was set to private, when Mom was deleted she could no longer lurk on her Daughters space)
If you know your 12 yr old is online and has a social page, you do not let them ( Child) set the rules and boundaries. YOU " Parent" have all the logins/passwords period. If you * Parent* are not allowed to go on your child's social site pages, them being 12 ... Child should not be allowed to be a member of such sites. We all know that kids as young as 8, 9 are on myspace and other sites alike. But It is still up to the Parent to Monitor the Online living life on going within their children.
We all know about stranger danger. We all teach our children not to talk to strangers. Online they can meet up with anyone appearing to be someone their not. So why in the Hell would you as a parent not have the jurisdiction over your home computer. There are more predators online than there is in most communities.

With the Bullying its so easy for Kids to do it. They see no face, there is no identity to whom they are emotionally beating to a pulp with words. They are cyber cowards. Because none of them would ever say the shit they type to each other face to face. They know its wrong, but they do it anyway because they think that they can get away with it. In their minds its not face to face.
In the past, old school, someone anon writes a note about someone * secret*vindictive, passes it to someone, then it goes wild thru the hands of everyone in class. The victim is the last one to get the note, while victim reads it ...everyone snickers..and then the poor kid is tormented. 20 kids and one note. By the end of the week the story is so changed no one knows who to believe. For the most part its forgotten.
This is much different today, this is cyber. This poor girl could have had a handful of people sending her hate mail. If she responded to One of the hate mails, her response could have become viral within a millisecond.
There was nothing she could have done other than not opened the mail, or just deleted them. When your 12, all you want is to fit in. That is all important. Curiosity is 12. Suicide at 12 is not anything but a tragedy.

Parents need to know this - You do not have to have a computer in your home for your child to have a myspace or social site.
Some parents do not even know that their child has a Myspace, facebook, friendster because the child accesses someone else's computer after school or on weekends. Case in point this Mom knew her Daughter had a My Space and was very active on it.
Most kids today use their cell phone if they have internet capability. They can post from their cell, text right to their myspace or their facebook. They do not need a computer. Most kids too, when they are 12 or in that age range- they use their first and last name and are easy to find online. They do not chose a nickname. They use their first/last and some even practically throw out their entire identity online. I go to yadda Middle School, I am on Cheer, I play football for .. They do not know any better. That's why they need to be Monitored by a Parent or Grandparent online. Get their Login Names and Passwords and Write them Down And Check their online activity. These are children. 12 is Kid no matter how much eye glitter and lip gloss you wear.

If any parents want to check and see if their child has a social site. Use this website and look them up. You may be surprised what you find.
Its a free site. " Pipl" dot com. Just put in your child's name, city and state. Or you can even chase their email address. Any site that is linked to them, any posts, any forums etc.. will come up.

This is a horrible sad case that could have had intervention - I feel. I mean seriously if this Mom had one inclination that her Daughter was being Cyber bullied ...Dont cha think she would have gotten involved before her baby girl had to go to such measures. A 12 year old does not commit suicide over a few messages. This had to have been ongoing for a very long time.
Damn shame.

RIP Baby Girl

* My post is not to hate on the Mother, I feel for her, just stating what is Today - Parents have to be involved with their children's online activity. Obviously it is important.