Thanks again. You made my day!

Before my son ever left my arms I had a plan in motion for this type of scenario.

#1 – My child would never face a judge or jury and become a “Poster Boy” for this type of crime victim – thus attaining a life-long title of “victim of sexual abuse”.

#2 – Again, not wanting an event of that type to ever happen period – but then DAMN SURE I didn’t want it to become a pivotal moment in my son’s life, I couldn’t seek the personal retribution route.

#3 – My child would know from the first time he ever left the house without me – or me without him – that there will never be secrets between us.

(As an aside – this has been harder to follow thru on my end as I am single, attractive & do date from time to time. It has created some awkward but true to the course moments)

#4 – EVERYONE that comes into contact with our small family (just the two of us) know that under no circumstances do we tolerate secrets, whispers, sneakiness, or anything that is not openly acknowledged. Thus, you will be immediately exposed – so watch your behavior. Young and Old.

#5 – I limit who is alone with my son (never boyfriends) and observe their behavior no matter how long they have been around. I follow my instincts and figure if I’m wrong – no harm / no foul.

#6- My son has been aware of sexual violation since he was about 2. “Nobody touches you there and you don’t touch anyone there”. “You will not be in trouble if this happens, and I need to know”. “If you feel uncomfortable with any of the adults in your life, avoid them as much as possible and let me know right away”

People are damaged. Not everyone, but enough people that I consider it my sole responsibility to prepare my son for the danger that lurks around us. I take into consideration that his occasional dad (the doner) & stepmother do not have the depth of protection and concern in their love towards my son and I discuss with my son the lack of limits and boundaries that could potentially endanger him while visiting their home.

No need to play indoors at neighbors homes. “If the boys want to get together, I will be happy to have your little junior over.” (school friends).

Don’t get me wrong, I have never been called “over-protected”. My son does not fear adults and is comfortable communicating openly with adults and children.

But he does have a healthy respect for the fact that the world is peppered with weirdos. And when someone makes him feel strange, he responds with a keen survival instinct.

I am in East Central Florida and recently there have been a rash of sexually charged hazing incidents involving sports teams of varying ages from 12 on up. My son plays both football and basketball. He will attend no events involving busing or overnight stays without me being present (ever the volunteer).

I am not wealthy, have not always had a job much less a decent job. But I do have my priorities straight. I am not a victim and my child won’t be either.

MAN UP you weak pathetic people who live as and train your children to be victims and not survivors!!!!!

(sorry this is so long – I read this blog everyday and have just vented all my thoughts in my first post.)

Dear SumrLilli,
Most beautiful post I have ever read! You should write a book and I will be your number one fan!!!!! Can you tell I was once a single mom to a 13 and 3 year boys! Great, just simply great!

I have children myself and I have thought over and over what I would do. I would NOT call the police, AND WAIT FOR JUSTICE. I would find whomever did this to my child, I would kidnap the person in any way possible. I know where there is an old farm house, I would take him and tie his balls to anything that can not be moved, anything, I would then let him watch me pour gas around him, I would do this very slowly. When I got to the door, I’d give him a choice, either rip his own genitals off or die in the fire. I would wait until the fire died down and I would go to the police and confess. Hopefully I would be featured on D’D’!! Lord willing I will never have to, but I would rather die in prison knowing that he would never hurt a child again, than watch him claim that he had a hard childhood, a mental deficiency and see him sentenced to 3 year probation… fuck the justice system, I GOT THIS!

Hell yeah! We think the same (well, you are more graphic than I can think BUT I love your idea)

“I am (Morbid) Spartacus”?

No I am (Morbid) Spartacus

It sounds like you know your role in your childrens’ lives. We just have to protect and prepare knowing one day they will be alone to make the decisions on their own.

Kids are usually natural pleasers unless they are just painfully shy. They want adult approval. That is their natural reaction and it takes awhile to learn how to hone the skill of discernment.

I tell my son that some people use their powers for good and some use them for evil.

I often remind him to use his powers for good!! (and that not everyone does)

There is a balance between letting our children go & grow and preparing them for the pitfalls of human nature.

I also did most of the things you posted earlier, I had the talk over and over again with my kids…. I showed them “bad” people that looked like a “grandpop” or someone who “looked” like they were young who did bad things. That bad people can be the ones we love, and that if you are at all uncomfortable in a situation to walk away. Scream fire instead of help…. I always make examples, I used all of the tricks I had. They begged me to stop, they said they knew!!! They’d get so mad. I live in a small town and to show the residents how trusting kids are no matter how well you have prepared them, they had two un uniformed police officers drive around. They came up to my son and his friend (right in front of MY house,and asked how to get to the wawa (right around the corner) my son was 8 (I had drilled into his head that anyone can be bad.) walked right up to the car and started telling them!!! To make matters worse he offered to show them where to turn to get there!! I walked out as he was pointing to the corner….. My heart broke.. So as much as you think you have prepared your child, never be too sure. It makes me so sad, of all they kids I knew, my son would never be the one to talk to strangers….

I think removing their genitals surgically and putting them all on an Island together to live out the rest of their filthy lives is just fine.They can have anesthesia for the surgery and once on the island all the pork and beans they can eat.Alternately a needle to the arm/humane termination of life as morbid suggested could work too.

hahah…..Im with you. But maybe it would be more appropraite if their genitals were forced into an orphas of thier own body, then they would know what it feels like to have it done to them? Fair enough??

Wishing you every success.

Thank you, Abroad. Reading back over my post, I think I sound pretty over-protective & scary.

I’m not.

My son is well integrated into society with a healthy awareness of the fact that even the nicest seeming people may face insurmountable temptations that are potentially harmful to the public at large.

(I often say Ted Bundy was a “nice guy”.)

I guess I just wanted to drive the point home that we are responsible for the well-being of our children. It is so disturbing when parents perpetuate a cycle of victimization by being reckless & selfish. Or just irresponsible.

There is a balance between letting our children go & grow and preparing them for the pitfalls of human nature.

I am in East Central Florida and recently there have been a rash of sexually charged hazing incidents involving sports teams of varying ages from 12 on up. My son plays both football and basketball. He will attend no events involving busing or overnight stays without me being present (ever the volunteer).

I cannot tell you how relieved I was when I saw what was in that parenthesis. Until I read that I was beginning to worry that you were crippling your boy socially by never allowing him to participate in anything, but I see you walk the walk, too.

Wishing you every success.

Before my son ever left my arms I had a plan in motion for this type of scenario.

#1 – My child would never face a judge or jury and become a “Poster Boy” for this type of crime victim – thus attaining a life-long title of “victim of sexual abuse”.

#2 – Again, not wanting an event of that type to ever happen period – but then DAMN SURE I didn’t want it to become a pivotal moment in my son’s life, I couldn’t seek the personal retribution route.

#3 – My child would know from the first time he ever left the house without me – or me without him – that there will never be secrets between us.

(As an aside – this has been harder to follow thru on my end as I am single, attractive & do date from time to time. It has created some awkward but true to the course moments)

#4 – EVERYONE that comes into contact with our small family (just the two of us) know that under no circumstances do we tolerate secrets, whispers, sneakiness, or anything that is not openly acknowledged. Thus, you will be immediately exposed – so watch your behavior. Young and Old.

#5 – I limit who is alone with my son (never boyfriends) and observe their behavior no matter how long they have been around. I follow my instincts and figure if I’m wrong – no harm / no foul.

#6- My son has been aware of sexual violation since he was about 2. “Nobody touches you there and you don’t touch anyone there”. “You will not be in trouble if this happens, and I need to know”. “If you feel uncomfortable with any of the adults in your life, avoid them as much as possible and let me know right away”

People are damaged. Not everyone, but enough people that I consider it my sole responsibility to prepare my son for the danger that lurks around us. I take into consideration that his occasional dad (the doner) & stepmother do not have the depth of protection and concern in their love towards my son and I discuss with my son the lack of limits and boundaries that could potentially endanger him while visiting their home.

No need to play indoors at neighbors homes. “If the boys want to get together, I will be happy to have your little junior over.” (school friends).

Don’t get me wrong, I have never been called “over-protected”. My son does not fear adults and is comfortable communicating openly with adults and children.

But he does have a healthy respect for the fact that the world is peppered with weirdos. And when someone makes him feel strange, he responds with a keen survival instinct.

I am in East Central Florida and recently there have been a rash of sexually charged hazing incidents involving sports teams of varying ages from 12 on up. My son plays both football and basketball. He will attend no events involving busing or overnight stays without me being present (ever the volunteer).

I am not wealthy, have not always had a job much less a decent job. But I do have my priorities straight. I am not a victim and my child won’t be either.

MAN UP you weak pathetic people who live as and train your children to be victims and not survivors!!!!!

(sorry this is so long – I read this blog everyday and have just vented all my thoughts in my first post.)

The above scenario is if it was a man, if it was a woman, I would simply kill her with my bare hands.