With regard to Trenton’s family, peaceful blessings. May the rest of your lives unfold with ease. Namaste.

PS: I’m asking for mercy to all Demons! Please don’t bash me about all that I’ve done wrong or should have done or didn’t do… I’ve said it all to myself a million times. And heard it all before. I’m not perfect, didn’t do it all right, yada yada yada. But I love my son and am trying.

I feel like I know you, you are in the hardest situation a parent could possibly be in. I’ve been somewhat involved in exactly what you’re going through. I have no answers, the schools don’t seem to have any, nether do the councilors or any of the physc doctors. I know many Parents and other children can be rude and difficult I don’t know what to say to you other than be there for your child. You have done nothing wrong continue to be strong.

Yes, her principal (with a smile on his face) asked her to remove her wings (they were small – attached to her back with little safety pins) because the office lady had “told on her”, and she complied without complaint or whining of any sort, as any good little fairy would. She served her after-school detention without incident, never to wear her wings again. Sadly.

thats sad was she in catholic/private school that required uniforms?? my kids wore uniforms and they couldnt wear anything except 100% uniform,,,12.00 knee socks,black or grey leotards and my daughter being born stubborn wore camoflage leotards 1 day,,they made her change ,,,kilts had to be 1 inch above knee no shorter but i can tell you each day at 2 pm you saw 500 teen girls in kilts rolling up the kilt till it was a mini and in their school the kids carry their own meds for that exact reason of what happened to this little boy,,my brother asnd i both have asthma and not being able to do something as easy as breathing is the scariest thing in the world and that inhaler has to be right there no waiting for it these guys are morons by keeping something as necessary as a inhaler i really hope there are no bee stings,and they have to wait for the epi-pen because they will die too same as this little boy,,

The federal government should do little more than protect rights. I’m okay with them mandating public education be made available and setting basic requirements for curriculum and achievement, but I do agree that the details be left within the state’s realm.

Well, what details beyond availablity, curriculum, and standards would you wish to you trust states with?

Ummmm, I don’t think I should talk about this anymore. I got myself crying about my OWN kid (again) while on the Demon. Not cool. Not cool.

It’s okay.

I’m considered the board ahole so I’m sure everyone else will agree with youyoga B good

You’re way too uptight to be a good board asshole.

PS: I’m asking for mercy to all Demons! Please don’t bash me about all that I’ve done wrong or should have done or didn’t do… I’ve said it all to myself a million times. And heard it all before. I’m not perfect, didn’t do it all right, yada yada yada. But I love my son and am trying.

Oh Yoga… Enviornment is important, but kids come into this world as their own person. We can’t just reshape them into who we’d like them to be, no matter what anyone’s expectations are. For some kids, everything comes easily. For others, everyday is an uphill struggle. Luckily, for most, it’s a mixed bag. Sometimes in life, people really challenge us beyond anything we imagined, and sometimes those people are our kids – all the more because of the way we love them. We do the best we can by them, but no one has all the right answers, and it doesn’t do anyone any good to what-if ourselves to death. I wish you and your son all the best as he finds his path.

namaste

I tell you this because I respect what you did with and for your sister. I wish I had you here to help me with my son. He’s a good kid, deep down. But he’s got shit built up inside him he won’t let go of. Again, much of it related to school. I gave up dealing with them a long time ago, when it came to him. I pulled him out after 9th grade and tried alternative education approaches, but to no avail. This year I pulled him out of a charter school after just the first week when a student there threatened to beat the shit out of him and he walked out of the classroom, off the property and down the road to smoke – his means of coping – and never came home. For 2 days. And the school never called me! Frankly, he’s a scared little kid who won’t let himself admit it and get the help he needs – we’ve been FIRED by counselors because he won’t talk during his sessions. Hasn’t cried since he was 4. Burns himself with cigarettes, cuts himself. Steals money from my wallet, gets high, you know the drill. I love him. Love him. Love him. And I’m mean to him sometimes, too. Just like “everyone else.”

Anyway, he’s finally talking to someone – not a lot, but a bit each week. And he spent some time in a “bad area” outside of our community this week, when he hitched a ride to a friend’s apartment after I told him he couldn’t go. He encountered some crackheads sitting on the steps of this subsized apartment house and it hit him (so he says): that could be me.

He’s getting ready to try to go back to our local high school – at least a year behind – but he seems like he wants to try. I want this for him, but I’m frankly, scared to death to start with the school shit again. The calls home, the pissed off teachers because he can’t sit still or he gets pissed and walks out when someone hurts his feelings or threatens his confidence (and it’s easy to do!). But I’ll do it again and again as long as it takes. And I appreciate your thoughts on the matter. Frankly, there aren’t a lot of people in my community who I can talk to – one parent who seems to give a real rat’s ass about the man / boy she has seen glimpses of when he was hanging out with her son. So, thank you. And thank you for taking such good care of your sister. I think my daughter would do the same for my son if she were just a bit older.

peace

PS: I’m asking for mercy to all Demons! Please don’t bash me about all that I’ve done wrong or should have done or didn’t do… I’ve said it all to myself a million times. And heard it all before. I’m not perfect, didn’t do it all right, yada yada yada. But I love my son and am trying.

Oh, and sorry for the wall-o-words. I guess writing about this was sort of therapeutic. No need to even reply. I feel better already.

The federal government should get the FUCK out of public education. It is a community issue, and mentioned NOWHERE in the US Constitution under Federal Powers.

Sorry, I am not a Federalist. I’m all for federal oversight and regulation of everything from Wall Street (alas! too late) to our schools. Take that shit out of the game, and South Carolina would have gotten to keep slavery.

I’m considered the board ahole so I’m sure everyone else will agree with you

Easy there, tiger. Yeah, you’re kinda a jerk, but the board asshole is an endowed chair here at the Demon–you really have to earn it. It takes extensive and clever asshole-ishness to be seen as an equal to say, swivel, who is Asshole Emeritus. It’s good to have aspirations, though.