I’m sorry, I’m all for a babysitter once in a while…but when it comes to MEN babysitting my daughters, the answer is always NO! I don’t care if you are my daughter’s favorite uncle – NO! I don’t care if you know my mother’s sister’s brother via church – NO!

Yes, call me sexist or whatever you will. But my daughters are to be babysat by my immediate family only, and mostly by females. However, if it keeps them safe – it keeps them safe.

To use a church as a way to abuse children is even more deplorable. To sit there and act like he’s sorry afterwards…that’s even worse. He assaulted and molested over 14 children and NOW he’s sorry?! Fuck! You’re only sorry you got caught!

Have we changed or was my father just a fool to give up his decade of meaningless fucking, partying, gorging, and snoring? Are we just big kids now until the grey hair shows? I find it kind of depressing that there’s a lot of truth in your statement, Imp, but I can’t say that you’re wrong. At least that’s the type of lifestyle young men are encouraged to pursue now, I guess.

Talking Jesus married me when my elder spawn was less than a year old. I was twenty; he was 23. But he was not a single guy offering to babysit for other families with small children – he loved me and my (now our, since he adopted her later) spawn. By no means am I saying that all twentysomething men are incapable of caring for children. Men who are mature enough to marry are generally okay with kids.

I’m talking about the single, 20-something dude that hangs out with the kiddies when he could or should be at work, or out playing with people his own age, finding his own wife or partner, fathering his own child. The guys who offer to watch kids “because the Lord leads” or because “I just love kids”… those guys bear watching. Very, very closely.

Single guys in their 20s who are normal are after four things:  Sex With Adult Partners, Food, Partying, and Sleep.

My father married when he was 23. He ate and slept, yes, and worked every day to support my mother and little baby me.

Have we changed or was my father just a fool to give up his decade of meaningless fucking, partying, gorging, and snoring? Are we just big kids now until the grey hair shows? I find it kind of depressing that there’s a lot of truth in your statement, Imp, but I can’t say that you’re wrong. At least that’s the type of lifestyle young men are encouraged to pursue now, I guess.

Do not. And I mean do NOT, immediately trust your babies with a single man who volunteers to babysit them. I do not care if he is in your Sunday School class. I do not care if he is the nicest, sweetest young man you ever met. If he is volunteering to spend time alone with your children, you need to be cautious. You need to be careful.

Amen sister! Preach on, the choir will back you up!

Let’s face it, men who want to screw your children are not going to present themselves as shifty, untrustworthy people. They are going to seem like the nicest guys you could ever meet.

I would never ask a man to babysit for me, unless I had known him for more than a dozen years, and it was an extreme emergency. But I can’t imagine having an emergency where I couldn’t find any female friends to watch them.

Sorry guys, not saying all of you are pedophiles, but it’s safer to assume you are.

I won’t even let my male family members babysit my kids. (I don’t let teenagers, either.) Then again, half my family are drunks and the other half are Christians. All of them scare me.

I never let anyone but my mom and my sisters babysit, and my sisters damn well knew they weren’t leaving my kids with their husbands. If they had to go somewhere, my kids went to.

Aw, Pretty, i’m Christian, we’re not all bad!

Honestly– you don’t just have to be careful of you leave your kids with — I have teen daughters that like to babysit to pick up extra cash, and there are only a select few I allow them to ’sit for, since I had a “friend (use the term loosely here) who would hire my oldest to watch her daughter for her, and THEN I discovered that she was bringing strange men home with her from the bar (did I mention her husband was in the sandbox for all this)..oh Hell no! Not with MY kid in the house.. from then on, for the safety of her own very young child and my own, her daughter came to our house for ’sittin. ARGH I hate people that waste skin.

Sorry for the rant!

If we couldn’t take the boys, then we didn’t go. Period. We had one trusted friend and once, and only ONCE, did my parents watch them. I’m just amazed at people (when I worked) had lists of babysitters and went out most every weekend. What about family????

So he says he was molested — no excuse. My husband’s mom was a drug addict/alcoholic. He’s neither and (unfortunately) lost all contact until shortly before she passed. She had not changed.

You’re so right. It’s just not normal for a kid (yes kid) this age to be hanging with kids, church or not. The parents were blinded by their faith.

At that age, our boys were not interested in younger kids; in fact, we had to tell them to be nice to the nieces and nephews (since they tended to show off for them). Younger ones look up to older ones, and well, this just shouldn’t happen.

This is why I am afraid to leave my kids with ANYONE. Seriously. My husband and I have been out like 3 times since having children, and it’s always been with either a grandparent or a VERY well-trusted friend watching them. I am way too paranoid about babysitters and daycares. I don’t trust anyone. Too much DD, I guess!